AIBU to go on holiday without toddler?

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Speaking to a childless (by choice) friend today and mentioned DH has booked a trip for us. It was a pretty decent deal so went for it. My DD would be staying with grandparents who look after her a couple of days a week whilst we're at work (their choice).

DD is 2.5 and would still be sticking to usual routine so going to nursery the other days etc as parents live in same town.

Friend says I'm incredibly selfish to be going away without child (child will be going abroad in late summer with us so not a case of missing out). For context, friend goes on holiday loads so not a case of jealously, has been to this destination several times.

We would be away 9 nights in total inc travel.

My DH and mum say to ignore her and that it's nobodies business, but I just want to know if we are BU?

I sometimes think the definition of selfish has changed for some people - for me, it means doing something that is purely for your own pleasure. Going on holiday without your small child is clearly selfish by that definition.

I also think it's fine to be selfish sometimes. I just think 9 days is too far.

I am hoping that the OP didn't really mean that her DH is such a shit dad that he outsourced their small child completely to the grandparents for four days because she was away for work.