To not pay for her ticket or any part of it?

[HalfTermDayOut]

Half term next week. Going to an attraction with my DD (aged 9) and my mum.

I get DLA for DD, so my ticket is free as a carers ticket (and I always spend in the gift shop/experiences while there to make up for it).

Mum invited herself to come along, so I said she’d have to pay for her own ticket.

She’s saying no, either she gets in on the carers ticket and I pay for my ticket or we split the cost of 1 adult ticket equally between us so it’s cost us both the same.

I don’t care if she comes or not, DD is not bothered if she’s there or not. She wants to come because she has serious FOMO and won’t miss out on something.

So WIBU? Me or mum?

Vote:
YANBU - Don't pay any part of her ticket
YABU - Split it or let her in for free and pay for yourself

People who invite themselves don't get to cost you money.@

Up to you but I'd be splitting the cost of the adult ticket personally. I think this one depends on your relationship, finances and if you want her to come or not.

@lamalamalamasquirrel I don't care if she comes or not, DD won't care if she comes or not. I want a day out with my DD, if others decide to join us it'll be nice but if they don't we'll have a great day anyway

She should pay for herself and I'd probably offer to buy her a coffee or whatever.

Is it an insanely expensive attraction or something? Not that it matters. I'm just curious.

@TastyLikeARaindrop £35 for an adult ticket, £18 for children

If she hasn't been invited then she should pay for her own ticket

YANBU. Your mum is very entitled and I would not be paying.

Unless she is providing an equal caring role as yourself absolutely you get the carer ticket and she pays for her ticket

I would split the cost. But then I think free carers tickets are a weird concept, you're hardly going to send any 9 year old to an attraction alone whether they have additional needs or not.

YANBU the fact she suggested she should get the free carers ticket shows serious cheeky fuckery.

She invited herself??
that’s your answer

I think the moral of this story is don't tell your mother about your plans.

Honestly? You're both being unreasonable. I just can't imagine this conversation.

Can you elaborate? How is OP unreasonable?

If she wants to come she can pay, she doesn't get to invite herself at a cost to you.

My 9, 8 and 6 yo go on most rides without me at Chessington.

Oh, apologies ProvisionsOnTheDock, you said to the attraction, not on the rides.

She's a CF. You don't owe her anything!

Well she invited herself so there's her answer.

I'm surprised by the people who say OP is being unreasonable. No, the mother doesn't get to demand a discount, that is really a nerve.

I'd split it but I like my mum.

She is your daughter
You ARE her carer. Of course your ticket is the free one

Honestly? You're both being unreasonable. I just can't imagine this conversation.
Can you elaborate? How is OP unreasonable?
They are both unreasonable and petty arguing over paying in to go to a nice attraction with a child. I hope they don't argue in front of her or the day is ruined anyway. Op if you can't afford it just tell her you can't afford it, if oyu can well it's nice to treat people sometimes. Do you both argue like this all the time?

I'd split it but I like my mum and I'd want her there. You're not unreasonable to not want her there or to not split/pay for her. Will it affect your relationship long term though? Does that bother you?

Is this part of a bigger picture? My mum and I would be fighting Mrs Doyle style to pay for the other

I guess split it, but I can't imagine falling out with my mum over 35 quid and a day out.