DP says I'm selfish for having DD's birthday cake gluten free

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Basically thread title.

DD turns one at the start of December. I've arranged for a local baker to make a cake for her. I asked for it to be gluten free as I have celiac disease.

DP said this was selfish. His reasoning being that gluten free cakes aren't as nice as normal cakes. He can't seem to come up with any other reason.

I just wanted to eat some of DDs first birthday cake.

Yes, I agree. The OP should have her own and allow the rest of the family to have what they like and the less processed option.

Yep mine all had some, cake smash pics which are popular involves 1yr olds eating cake. They can eat normal food by that point

I second that!

Grim stuff

Veganism is a choice Coeliac disease is an illness you are unreasonable to compare the two.

Your ignorance is seriously showing. What is “proper food” suppose to mean you do realise that there are people out there like the op who need to eat gluten free food you know so they don’t get ill considering celiac disease is a medical condition.

Just don’t tell anyone it’s gluten-free next time, see if they can tell the difference.

You’ve made me want cake now.

Some of you must be using really shit cake makers if you've never had a nice gf one

Shop bought GF cakes, with suspiciously long shelf life, aren't as nice as normal cake. But home baked or from a bakery made with real ingredients are a completely different beast.

I made cake for 70 recently, half GF and half with wheat. The GF one went so fast I didn't get any. A freshly made bakery cake will be lovely, GF or not.

So what was his plan for catering for the other coeliac at the party plus the mother of his child??

If it’s a flourless cake, made with ground nuts or a mud cake with minimal flour it will be delicious.

He has been very rude. Why not ask you what kind of cake it is, and if it’s not either of the above say that he doesn’t think it will taste good to the non coeliacs and can he change the order

GF cake does not need to be processed or even involve gluten free flour. Many delicious cakes are 'naturally' gluten free.

My favourite is chocolate cake with almond powder. It's been our go-to for birthdays since the dc were tiny, and no-one is gluten free in the house, it's just the best cake ever.

YANBU Coeliac disease is really serious. It I'd not a whim. If the person doing the cooking, life administration is coeliac, you will be having a lot of gluten free food.

Your DH can arrange another cake if he feels strongly about it. It is incredibly unkind of him to make a thing of your illness and to criticise something that you are organising.

Get the gluten free after all without you your dd wouldn’t be having a birthday! Let your selfish partner buy his own cake!

Agreed.

I think he’s wildly unreasonable and very selfish.

So he wants a cake that you can’t eat at all, as opposed to one that he might enjoy slightly less? And he thinks you’re selfish 😵‍💫

Betty Crocker Devil's Food Gluten Free Cake Mix - no one can tell its GF. Thank me later 😊

So many twats on this thread! Being Coeliac isn’t a choice! The child is ONE! So yes the cake is also for OP, who birthed her daughter a year ago. Why on earth should OP order a cake everyone except her can eat? Your DH is a dick but this thread has some horrible people on it too who I bet have never even tasted gf cake. We eat it all the time and it’s delicious!

Wow there is some intolerance on this thread (pun intended). Gluten-free doesn't necessarily mean more processed - it could be a chocolate cake made with ground almonds instead of wheat flour, for example. You could buy/make something that everyone will enjoy and no-one will realise it's GF.

YANBU.

If your DP is so precious about a cake, why doesn't he pull his finger out and organize it?

Your H can get in the bin.

And yes, GF cake can be amazing!

Good GF cakes taste just as good, maybe slightly crumblier but still yummy!

Your DH is a knob and it looks like some of the knob party have found the thread.

If you don't tell him it's GF he wouldn't realise. All cakes are GF in this household and there's only me with CD. It's about allowing everyone to participate.

Every time a child in the family has a birthday, my sd calls their mother to say happy birthday. He says it's the anniversary of the mother doing something amazing, not just the child.

Happy first birthday, OP.

If you think GF cakes are awful, you haven’t had a good one. Or you aren’t using a decent recipe.

Some really ridiculous comments here, especially as the OP has a serious medical condition.

Well isn’t he thoughtful. I would see this as a gauge of your relationship currently.