DP says I'm selfish for having DD's birthday cake gluten free

[IntergalacticP]

Basically thread title.

DD turns one at the start of December. I've arranged for a local baker to make a cake for her. I asked for it to be gluten free as I have celiac disease.

DP said this was selfish. His reasoning being that gluten free cakes aren't as nice as normal cakes. He can't seem to come up with any other reason.

I just wanted to eat some of DDs first birthday cake.

Indeed!

@IntergalacticP
You are being 100% reasonable.
So basically, this is the situation... You have a diagnosed medical condition therefore you cannot eat gluten. Your husband knows this. You have arranged for a baker to make a cake for the party. Your husband prefers with-gluten cakes because they 'taste nicer'. Therefore, your husband wants you to be excluded from eating the cake you ordered, just because it 'tastes a bit nicer'. And he says you're being selfish??? I am horrified!
Add to that, 2 people in the party have coeliac disease. So he wants 80% of the guests to have a with-gluten cake because it 'tastes nicer' while 20% of the guests are excluded for medical reasons and have no cake??
My advice OP, stick to your guns. By hosting birthday parties with gluten-free cakes, you are modelling inclusion and acceptance of people regardless of their medical conditions or disabilities - a trait that you hopefully want your daughter to grow up having. Your husband is being well out of order.
Besides, a good baker can make a gluten-free cake that tastes brilliant! Like all cakes, some gluten-free ones will taste great and some will be not so great. Just because it's gluten-free, does not mean it automatically tastes horrible.
I hope your husband takes some time to reflect on his feelings and opinions and hopefully with time that he becomes more inclusive. It's pure chance that you have coeliac disease and he does not, how would he feel if the roles were reversed?

@IntergalacticP Also, if you eat out, I really recommend the website 'Allergy Companions'. It's like a TripAdvisor for people with dietary requirements. You can look through other people's reviews of an eating place to see whether they have had positive/negative experiences there. They are also keen for people to write their own reviews of eating out too!

How would you know it was a gluten free cake?

My son has coeliacs and we wouldn't exclude him from any cake at a family celebration, its always gluten free. I dont even have normal flour in the house. Morrisons do a great gluten free chocolate catapillar cake. For my sons bday i got the large catapillar cake and a load of smaller ones that went in the party bags. No faffing with cutting cake and they were yummy.

When I had read the title of the post but not the content, my immediate thought was that it would depend on the age of the child. At one they will neither eat much of the cake nor remember the eating of it.

So this is basically your DH saying he wants a nice cake and you saying you'd like a cake you can eat. I'm on your side - gluten cakes are nicer to me but you can all eat a gluten free one, so it's fairer.