Friend expects me to order everything

[Dublinwife]

A long standing friend keeps asking me to order things for her online . She refuses to even try to do it because she doesn’t want to put her card details. She won’t even sign up for an e wallet or prepaid card. It’s ok once or twice but now it’s everything. Birthdays, Christmas, anything. She gives me the money but I feel like a Secretary. Sometimes if we haven’t spoken for a couple of weeks, I’ll get a message , no hello how areyou , just can you order me this today in a large? I’ve told her she needs to do it and she just mouths the words I know, but doesn’t. I just feel like if I didn’t do it would we even be friends? How can I say no? I’ve made various excuses but I always end up doing it. Really fed up. She has family that could do it.

I chose unreasonable because you need to grow a backbone and say no, do it yourself.

She has @ExpatAl

You suggested she ask someone else? Surely she should do it herself?

This...its exactly as i did to my ex's sister. Apparently she was too busy to order...but had time to text me details, order number etc 😂. Third time her asking... 'oc i can but im busy too' (my times precious as well im out house 11 hrs day 5x week!)..'i can but pop to my bank and insert funds then i will order your item'. She said you know im good for the money, i replied 'i know, but im budgeting and put spare cash in savings account '...all which is true. She stopped asking..tried it on couple times but gave up. I gave her one explanation then just said 'money, legs, bank,' 😂

Well done on saying no, OP.
Please update us with her response.
Also - you said she pays you the money - is that cash or a bank transfer? The latter could appear as income and affect your tax.

A friend's neighbour did this to her, then left the packaging out on the pavement and my friend got fined by the council as it was her name and address on the packaging.

I’m guessing this was a while ago because banks won’t allow 3rd parties to pay cash into accounts that are not their own anymore. Money laundering laws I guess. Well done for seeing your CF SIL off though.

This is probably one of the most bonkers replies I’ve ever read on MN and I’ve seen many bonkers replies! Anyway if you’d read the OPs replies you’d have seen she’s already told her no.

It was years ago tbh..she was a pain in the ass..but did give up. I dont know what id say now then, probably pay it online directly in my account..whereas they would have to make effort, therefore may as well order themselves. Id just say no anyway..been burnt before so no 😁

It sounds like your friend is doing something illegal and is using you to fence her ill-gotten money. Either that or she has access to more money than she is admitting to benefits service or the tax office. Either way - you are putting yourself at risk. If she really struggles and its a genuine anxiety she needs to speak to a doctor, counsellor, citizens advice etc to help her manage her finances. Personally I think its some sort of scam that she is running and using you as a stooge. Source: have been scammed by someone doing exactly this.

This was well over two years ago so I expect the OP has sorted it by now.