To be upset about what happened this weekend

[Onthedownlow9]

I was staying over at a new partners house over the weekend. I know he’s really good mates with the man who lives next door to him. After we had sex I saw he was laughing and smirking whilst reading his text messages and he did end up showing me them but I feel disgusted. Basically his neighbour was saying he heard our ‘session’ and sent messages such as ‘go on😈’ and some other weird things. I feel like a piece of meat and don’t appreciate that they were discussing it over text? Aibu? Do I need to lighten up?

No you’re not being unreasonable. He sounds quite immature and I’d be thinking about whether we were on the same page and had a long term future

Very immature and would wonder what else he’s sharing with this friend, would struggle with the ick in this situation.

That's very grim. I would hate that. Bin.

Is he 15? Jeez.

That's a big no from me. Get rid

Ugh. That’s is just gross. Is he 17?

I wouldn't know how to carry on with him after that, while retaining ANY dignity or being able to have sex at his place again (I wouldn't be surprised if he'd pre-warned his mate)!!

Good luck negotiating this one... 😬

If you see the next door neighbour let him know you're sorry about the noise but it was your bfs first go at getting pegged.

Then leave the smirking bastard.

Oh no! That's grim

Have you said anything?

YANBU he’s being immature and disrespectful

I'd be gutted if I guy I was seeing did that. So disrespectful!

You would have to have absolutely no self-respect to keep seeing this man.

No, you don't need to 'lighten up' - you need to get rid! It's incredibly immature and very disrespectful to you. How could you bring yourself to be intimate with him again! I wouldn't trust him one bit.

Ditch the disrespectful and immature twat. This relationship will go nowhere.

TomatoSandwiches ·

If you see the next door neighbour let him know you're sorry about the noise but it was your bfs first go at getting pegged.

Then leave the smirking bastard

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Who was making the noise OP?

Unfortunately, I hear my next door neighbour having sex when his girlfriend stays over - but it's her making the racket, not him.

No need for screaming and shrieking IMHO - especially if you're in a terraced house.

YANBU. That’s horrific. Disrespectful and sleazy.

Also I would not feel safe there. It’s boundary pushing. He’s including this male friend, who is just next door. Next time he’ll invite him over too.

End it. Do not go back there OP.

Please let me know your secret for orgasming silently.

Gross. He's a grown man. Get rid. YANBU.

When you have kids in the house, don't you get used to doing it quietly?

I don't have children.

I've found that I can keep quiet until the moment of climax, but then my vocal cords engage whether I want them to or not.

I would not feel safe with this man.

You can do SO much better, good kind men don’t behave like this.

Red flag dump him.

It's not right if he makes you feel uncomfortable after sex, when you are vulnerable

Hope you haven’t sent him any photos.