aibu to not breastfeed just beacuse i dont want to?

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I understand breast is best, but I don't want to do it.
I feel pressure and the implication that I am a bad mother. I think I have the right to choose, and that the medical establishment doesn't expect something this taxing from men in society.

Am I a bad mother?

One of my favourite channels in TV is Animal Planet. Mostly they show documentaries about wild life sanctuaries in places like Malawi, caring for orphans, from elephants to monkeys etc, needing to be hand reared if they are to survive and eventually released back into the wild.

For many species, finding a formula to feed them is not easy. They need to check with other sanctuaries around the world or use the internet to find a formula that will help them survive. And they do, the great majority of orphans without major health issues, will thrive on formula.

Let's keep denigrating women because they choose not to breastfeed. FFS!

Warum
Another example of nastiness towards BFing in general

What nonsense. It’s commenting on another poster’s barely disguised hostility towards ff. Cold, distant “mothers” ff whilst warm, cosy, loving “mamas” bf.

I bf our two. I never described myself as a mama. Couldn’t give a flying flamingo what anyone else chooses to do.

And you had no part to play in it eh? 😇

Or is it just pointing out interesting language? Why are formula feeders ‘mothers’ but breastfeeders ‘mamas’?

I've already said that mothers should be able to make their own informed choice, several times.
I also accept that some people get less choice, for a whole host of reasons.
My issue is that FF mothers are criticising BF mothers just as much as BF mothers ever criticise FF mothers!

Thank you, SouthLondonMum22, exactly. I thought it was entirely clear.

I haven't called FF or BF mothers anything different....they're all mothers, mamas, mummies, mams, whatever term they choose.

I breastfed three children continuously over eight years.
if someone calls me a “mama” because of that I will tell them to fuck off 😂

It really isn’t?

I’ve never skydived but I have no interest in doing it because I know I won’t like it.

Similar thing when it comes to breastfeeding.

I didn't use the term 'Mama' either, as already said we're all mums, mamas, mummies, mams, whatever term we choose.

You didn’t but pp did. The other pp was simply pointing out the language she used.

Just leaving this here because it seems kind of apt

Right, got it, we must only see this from one side.
Thanks.

Well quite the Op.hasn't been back since yesterday morning very shortly after she started the thread ,yet here we are 38 pages of women arguing amongst themselves which is exactly how these threads always go
Respect women's choice i,say all.of them even if you don't agree with them
Your baby your choice.

That's an odd comparison, surely you can see that?

It really is.

how about this one

I can’t find the criticism of bf by those using formula but you described those using formula as selfish!

A selfish decision isn't being selfish per se. I also think it's their choice to be selfish or not. Also, it's not black and white, as people FF for different reasons.

All this doesn't take away that BFing mothers are being equally criticised.

In your opinion.....

This thread is full on MN vile now, bowing out (not you in particular, just some of it).

Enjoy your Sunday folks.

I was forced to combination feed my first for her first 7 months because she was a very inefficient feeder, and I have to say breastfeeding was much less faff than bottle feeding, especially at night. No prep required, I could just plug her in. I was massively relieved when she got to the point of no longer needing top ups.

Nobody is slating Breast feeding ,they are slating the pompous ,and arrogant attitude of some of the pro Brest feeders to the choices of other women
Frankly I don't care how or when you feed your child and if you want to carry on breast feeding for an extended period fill your boots
What I find distateful however is the condescending and sneering attitude of some posters ,towards women who choose not to Breast feed for whatever reason.

I never even tried it and that don’t make a mad mom mother hood is hard enough as it is please don’t listen to anyone else on here or at home do what is best for you your baby will thrive either way you can’t tell at 4&2 that neither of mine was breast fed be kind to yourself x