aibu to not breastfeed just beacuse i dont want to?

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I understand breast is best, but I don't want to do it.
I feel pressure and the implication that I am a bad mother. I think I have the right to choose, and that the medical establishment doesn't expect something this taxing from men in society.

Am I a bad mother?

I'm bored of you thinking your opinion supercedes anyone else's, yes.

You're the one trying to create it. I'm just saying what week it is where I am.

Can we pin your post please?
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One thing I have noticed on this site. Not all. But some ff mothers do like to twist things towards breastfeeding mamas. It's sad.

I've answered this already.
Your perspective maybe doesn't see them.

Other posters have commented on the posts too, go jump on their posts for a bit.

Health follows wealth-

on a population level more affluent mothers ebf for 6 months (and generally bf at all) than mothers of lower socioeconomic status.

The more affluent mothers then go on (again on a population level, not every mother fits the pattern) to feed children a healthier diet in general due to having more education on the topic and resources to do it (time/money/space etc) than less affluent mothers.

They are also more likely to have more green spaces for exercise, more money for extra curricular sport, more time and opportunities for exercise as a family and more awareness of the importance.

So basically- the more ‘naice’ middle class mothers generally have thinner healthier children, and are more likely to have bf- it is not a case of causation.

It's not an opinion. It's a fact.
The BF warriors here behave appallingly
And ye just keep embarrassing yourselves.

Cowlover89 · Today 10:22
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One thing I have noticed on this site. Not all. But some ff mothers do like to twist things towards breastfeeding mamas. It's sad

Interesting choice of language there, different titles for women with offspring. The bf name being far cosier (and a bit smug).

@Gidrich although in many cases it is correlation there are many's studies that control for socioeconomic factors amongst other variables and still see benefits of breastfeeding

You realise you've just illustrated the whole point some of us are making re slating BFing?

Thanks

Tschüss

Do you know what gets me, is the complete inconsistency within the NHS.

I was put under a lot of pressure 5hours after birth to use formula. A lot of women find that they're really encouraged beforehand to bf and then when baby actually arrives and they need help with latching/positioning or in my case baby was sleepy and they're encouraged to use formula because that takes pressure off the staff on that shift. So I think there's a lot of pressure in both respects which to me is why it makes sense that 80% of women go into hospital wanting to bf and only 50% come out so breastfeeding and by the end of the first few weeks it's something like 20% leftover. I think part of what makes it SUCH an emotive issue is that for the majority of the 60% who drop off, they feel grief and like they failed or their body didn't work like they expected when in reality, they didn't have the right medical support, the right information, the right social support. So a lot of that guilt and grief is misplaced because they weren't given as good a start as they could have been had services been better.

Not a criticism of nurses and midwives, but they are extremely under paid, over worked and under resourced and this is how it inevitably plays out.

Another example of nastiness towards BFing in general.

I wish I could bake a cake made out of rainbows and smiles and we'd all eat (or drink breast or formula milk) and be happy!!!!!!

This is what I mean by perspective - discounting any negativity toward BFing while pointing out any negatiity toward FFing.

Lol “mamas” is vomit inducing, to be fair. They can keep that one.

I think you should do what you want. Not sure if this is your first baby, but if you haven't breasfed how do you know you won't like it?

I breastfed my kids and really really miss the experience. there is nothing like it in the world. (after the first few weeks especially - it did hurt a bit each time till my breasts got used to it)

Yep it is. I'm just going to rise above it and let them crack on 😊 petty bollocks. Going to enjoy my time with son and enjoy the last week's of my pregnancy. Don't need this drama in my life. They need to learn a few things that's for sure. Bitterness won't get you far.

@Warum - why do you care that other posters and I decided to use formula from day one? We’re not selfish parents and have healthy children so formula has done it’s job.

No she hasn’t! She was citing ‘breastfeeding warriors’ so are evident on this thread. Not mothers who breastfeed or breastfeeding in general.