Page 35 | aibu to not breastfeed just beacuse i dont want to?

lunalovegrooove · 2023-10-21T08:34:05+00:00

I understand breast is best, but I don't want to do it. I feel pressure and the implication that I am a bad mother. I think I have the right to choose, and that the medical establishment doesn't expect something this taxing from men in society. Am I a bad mother?

SouthLondonMum22 · 22/10/2023 09:49

Robinni · 22/10/2023 00:57

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Very lucky!!

My first had night feeds until about 9 months!!!

This does tie in with formula; they sleep longer and feed less due to the slowed digestion.

Cluster feeding is a natural process where the baby is stimulating increased milk supply in the mother during a growth spurt.

If your baby was hungry you’d just make a few more ounces… but that process has to be stimulated via the very intense cluster feeding for breast feeders.

As I say when it gets to 3-4months all that abates as a plentiful supply is established and growth not as rapid.

Completely agree with you that breast feeding wouldn’t have been practical in your circumstances going back to work so early.

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and it definitely won’t be practical this time with twins thrown in there as well.

CecilyP · 22/10/2023 09:50

Warum · 22/10/2023 09:29

People are blatantly making nasty (and untrue) comments about BFing mothers!

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Are they? BF mothers who are just getting on with it without criticising other’s choices?

Housesellingnightmare · 22/10/2023 09:52

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Doteycat · 22/10/2023 09:54

Warum · 22/10/2023 09:16

Oh, I have, the fervent FF group.
Both can be just as bad as each other, as is evident on this thread.

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No you are incorrect.

Warum · 22/10/2023 09:54

CecilyP · 22/10/2023 09:50

Are they? BF mothers who are just getting on with it without criticising other’s choices?

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Yes.
BFing mothers who have stared the pros of breastfeeding, yet still respect other's choices/needs, are having false statements/untruths perpetuated about them and their choices.

Housesellingnightmare · 22/10/2023 09:54

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Warum · 22/10/2023 09:55

Doteycat · 22/10/2023 09:54

No you are incorrect.

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With all due respect, I'm not incorrect.

Warum · 22/10/2023 09:55

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As already advised, read the thread.

MrsSkylerWhite · 22/10/2023 09:56

@hoven

From Lullaby Trust:.

“Does bottle feeding increase the risk of SIDS?

It has been shown that partial or combination feeding (breast milk and formula) and exclusive breastfeeding have been associated with lower SIDS rates. Thankfully SIDS is now very rare. If you bottle feed your baby and follow all the other pieces of safer sleep advice then the chance of SIDS is extremely low.”

Your 95% figure is nonsense without context. It’s very easy to find support for any argument if you look in the right places.

Just stop with your nasty posts.

Safer sleep advice - The Lullaby Trust

Reduce the risk of sudden infant death syndrome (sometimes known as SIDS or cot death) for your baby by following our safer sleep advice.

https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/safer-sleep-advice/

Cowlover89 · 22/10/2023 09:56

Gidrich · 22/10/2023 00:20

I wish someone had told my baby that bf should have made him sleepy- he fed 5/6 times a night until he was just shy of 2 years old. Sleep is for wimps don’t you know.

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Every baba is different.

ginandtonicwithlimes · 22/10/2023 09:57

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I have read her posts. She has frequently commented on the contents of formula to guilt trip parents. She even advised a mother struggling to afford the more expensive Kendamil to just offer him cow's milk rather than a cheaper formula even though the baby is too young for it. I think we can ignore the holier than thou attitude.

Ssme92 · 22/10/2023 09:58

I've read all 35 pages and haven't found anything said against BF mothers? I've read comments said directly to posters who happened to breastfeed in retaliation to vile comments they have made!
But I have read comments suggesting mothers who chose to formula feed are ignorant, selfish, uneducated, bad mothers, terrible parents... The list goes on!

hoven · 22/10/2023 09:59

MrsSkylerWhite · 22/10/2023 09:56

@hoven

From Lullaby Trust:.

“Does bottle feeding increase the risk of SIDS?

It has been shown that partial or combination feeding (breast milk and formula) and exclusive breastfeeding have been associated with lower SIDS rates. Thankfully SIDS is now very rare. If you bottle feed your baby and follow all the other pieces of safer sleep advice then the chance of SIDS is extremely low.”

Your 95% figure is nonsense without context. It’s very easy to find support for any argument if you look in the right places.

Just stop with your nasty posts.

The context is a peer reviewed academic journal article which is more sound than prose from a charity website

ginandtonicwithlimes · 22/10/2023 09:59

There is giving your opinion and then there is calling someone selfish when she obviously has explained why she doesn't want to bf. Her baby (ies) has died!

Cowlover89 · 22/10/2023 09:59

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Hardly criticism and hardly condesending. Ive been getting grief for doing absolutely sweet fuck all. You know you can have your own opinion. If ff mams wants to take it that way. Its on them. Not me. I never said I hated pumping. I love it.

ginandtonicwithlimes · 22/10/2023 10:00

Mine had a dummy. That counteracts the risk of SIDs. Just annoying to have to get it off them later. 🤣

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Cowlover89 · 22/10/2023 10:01

ginandtonicwithlimes · 22/10/2023 09:57

I have read her posts. She has frequently commented on the contents of formula to guilt trip parents. She even advised a mother struggling to afford the more expensive Kendamil to just offer him cow's milk rather than a cheaper formula even though the baby is too young for it. I think we can ignore the holier than thou attitude.

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I've not guilt trip anyone. I think you need to learn to read properly.

CecilyP · 22/10/2023 10:02

merrymelodies · 22/10/2023 09:41

There's another advantage to breastfeeding: babies who are exclusively breastfed for the first three months have a lesser chance of becoming obese in childhood/adulthood.

Well that must be correlation rather than causation! Or is anyone suggesting that children who were breastfed as babies need ingest more calories to put on weight?

Warum · 22/10/2023 10:03

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Repeat as many times as you like.
I'm correct in my statement, and have been following the thread from the start.
I accept that you have taken a different stance.
We're adults, we can do that.

Housesellingnightmare · 22/10/2023 10:03

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Doteycat · 22/10/2023 10:03

Cowlover89 · 22/10/2023 10:01

I've not guilt trip anyone. I think you need to learn to read properly.

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And you need to learn to stop being patronising.
That is the second if not third time you have accused people hear of not being able to read.
Could you be any more condescending.
Although I suspect you could.

ginandtonicwithlimes · 22/10/2023 10:04

Cowlover89 · 22/10/2023 10:01

I've not guilt trip anyone. I think you need to learn to read properly.

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So how do you think it comes across to say there are bad things in formula to FF mums? I am not buying this fake innocent persona. You know what you are doing.