Asked a mum where she got her kids coat from. Mine turns up in the same one. Aitah?

[Sophie1029734]

Hi all so they are in nursery. I saw a little girl in their class with a gorges coat on, I asked where it was from and she tells me. Its not a known site, quite a unique coat and stands out a lot. Anyway I got it for lo with no intention of my little girl wearing it to school, was just when we went shopping etc as I didn't want to take the light away from something she found.

I've been telling my little girl it's broke or dirty which is why she can't wear it to school. We were in a rush this morning and I turn round and she has put it on and trying to zip it up, saying she wants to be the same and look like a ballerina too. I pretended I couldn't zip it up and that it was broken then said let's put this one on instead. She just started to cry and refused to take it off, I was already late as it is and couldn't keep fighting her with it so we just left and I took her to school with it on.

The whole way I felt so guilty and sad like I stole something, I felt so wrong for it.

I won't put it on her again for school, I'll hide it from now on unless we go anywhere else but to the school.

But I'm so nervous, I didn't see the woman this morning at drop off but I may at pick up. I feel so guilty omg.

Wow, some of these comments are unnecessarily mean. People being bitches, you're the ones who need to get a grip.

If the mum cared at all at her kids coat being unique, she wouldn’t have told you where it was from.

I can’t believe you are acting this silly and upsettinf your child to avoid being perceived as a copy cat. Who cares?

A mother is lying to her child over a coat.
She's prioritising the feelings of a random woman over her daughter.
That's pretty bad, and if you can't see it, you're part of the problem.

Not something to worry about

This

Can we see the coat?

Another mumsnet hysterical non problem. I must live in a different world!! Nobody cares, let your daughter wear the coat and grow up. Jesus

Op isn’t going to show the coat I think that’s clear. It’s been asked since the second page.

@Sophie1029734

I say this with the intention of helping you, and not to make you feel bad. Your worry and anxiety over the coat is a classic case of overthinking and worrying over something that you honestly do not have to worry about. Please don’t be sad about something so trivial.

Even if the other mum was pissed off, and I very much doubt she will be, it’s nothing to worry about. Most nurseries will have children wearing the same coat as another child. It’s not big deal, I promise.

Try not to let things like this worry you too much.

@TastesLikeStrawberriesOnASummerEvening your response is almost as hysterical as the OP’s.

Feeling "guilty and sad"

About a coat

My god

Don't worry, it's called ' Mother's Guilt '
It's Universal to mothers who want perfection for their children.
You will have it no matter what transpires 😟
When they grow up and go to Uni. It turns into ' Empty Nest syndrome.
God Bless.

Can I really not have a link to the coat? My little girl would love a ballerina coat!!
I know the thread has filled up but also wanted to say that I think it’s fine. Usually when people ask, it’s because they want one too!

You're hugely over thinking this. If she didn't want you to buy the same coat she wouldn't have told you where it came from. Preschoolers have enough drama without bonus tears about coats.

It’s a coat!!!! Let her wear it.
It won’t fit her for long before she’s grown out of it .
Don’t worry about other people or what others may or may not say about it. Most people are just busying themselves with their own lives to worry what others are wearing/doing.

I'd be flattered.

I'm an overthinker too OP.

It's OK to just let things go.

It's a coat FGS. What does it matter. You are upsetting your child and lying to her. Let her wear her coat all day every day is she wants. You need something real to worry about.

This is odd .. she told you where it was from .. so you could buy it 😂 ... I buy my children more unusual things I wouldn't care at all if someone was wearing the same ..

Reading your OP, you are massively overthinking things.. let her wear the coat.

Have I cried, have I been worried, have I lied to my child?
No.
This is terrible parenting dressed up literally with a coat, it's not normal or healthy.

Get a grip 😅

Wait till she gets older, they often look like clones. Honestly, children like to wear a uniform, just not the one they need to for school!

That's what I think as well. Copying someone else's taste is a compliment to them. You never know you might end up being friends!

She told you where it was from so she knows you'll probably go buy it! She's obviously not gatekeeping where she buys her kids clothes. Relax, she will be flattered.

Unpopular opinion but if I was the other mum I’d be annoyed 🤷🏼‍♀️