To tell this girl to go away

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My dd (2.5) and I attend an activity once a week and have done for over a year and my dd loves it.

Recently there has been a new starter who is very disruptive of the class and spoiling my dd, and in turn, my enjoyment of it.

Behaviour mainly includes running around the class at inappropriate times and going over to the other children when she should be sat with parent. Because of nature of activity, this is disruptive. Teacher does pick up on this and guides child back to parent but still disruptive.

I’ve put up with it for a few weeks but we’ve had a temporary teacher and today she actually hit another child.

On top of this she is continually coming over to my dd (when she is trying to get on with activity) pulling at hair, clothes and toys. This starts as soon as she enters the class.

My daughter has mentioned as we were going in today- will X be there, I don’t want X to touch my hair

Where I was trying to be friendly previously, I just dont want this girl near my little one.

AIBU to tell this girl to go away? And if I’m not how do I word/ tone it in an appropriate way

As soon as you see her head towards your dd your job is to stand up and block the way. Accidently bum her out of the way if needs be until her parent gets the hint.

I had a similar situation at a group, re being disruptive there isn't much you can do but regarding your own child especially if she has said to you she doesn't like it, I would say to the mum on the way in when she grabs her 'excuse me, my daughter doesn't like being grabbed, could you ask your child to stop please?' If she continues in the class literally pick your child up and move her away. Or if she is sitting in your lap then literally put an arm out to block her from grabbing your child and softly say something like 'sorry sweetheart but she doesn't want to be grabbed'. If the mum doesn't like it and you've addressed it to her and then the child, it's really tough luck then! You don't need to allow your child to be in an uncomfortable situation just to appease another parent but equally the mum may have no idea that her daughter is bring a bit too rough for other children