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In-laws gatecrashed our holiday

126 replies

Unicornmum25 · 12/10/2023 18:41

This isn't a question really, I just wanted to moan and see if I'm being unreasonable. We have gone away on holiday abroad, my husband, my child and myself. Upon arriving the hotel said our room was no longer available but they had upgraded us from a 2 bedroom to a 3 bedroom. We were pretty pleased with this news as it was nice to have that bit extra space and we don't usually get any luck as a family. Anyway a couple of days pass and we are sitting by the pool and my husbands mum and dad have shown up and declare they are staying in the spare room of where we are staying. I honestly can't get my head around it, I just think it's rude to gatecrash someone else's holiday and they have seen our upgrade as a free place to stay for them. Oh and not only are they staying in our place for free now they are using all our bath products and sun lotions etc because they didn't take a case as they wanted their flight to be as cheap as possible. Anyway rant over for now.

OP posts:
Cherrysoup · 12/10/2023 18:43

Did your Dh tell them? How did they know? What has he said about their unwanted arrival? I’d be telling them to buy their own stuff, the CFs!

SeaToSki · 12/10/2023 18:43

No that doesnt work for us… and tell them to book their own room.

Or. So glad you are here, you can babysit for the free room. Then hand over dc and head off to the pool

AmandaHoldensLips · 12/10/2023 18:44

WTF? Did your DH tell them that you had an extra room and they were welcome to it? How did they know where you are and about the additional bedroom? Where are you and where have they travelled from?

Loverofoxbowlakes · 12/10/2023 18:44

Are they even allowed to stay? Has the hotel agreed to list them as residents? ARE THEY PAYING FOR THEIR FOOD ETC?

I'd be going ballistic op, is your dh happy with this?

Pallisers · 12/10/2023 18:44

that is outrageous. I think I'd create a scene about this one. Who does that?

Pallisers · 12/10/2023 18:45

And take a third of what the villa is costing you and tell them they owe you that. horrible people.

Hibambinos · 12/10/2023 18:45

Unbelievably cf!!! Tell them no- firmly .

AnneLovesGilbert · 12/10/2023 18:45

How on Earth has this happened though? Either he invited them or they’re psychic.

webster1987 · 12/10/2023 18:46

Your DH must have asked them surely? For them to have known the full details of the hotel and to know where you were to find you once they got there?

I'd be livid but seems like surely your DH had a role in this too?

DisforDarkChocolate · 12/10/2023 18:47

WTF!

Why on earth did you not tell them to leave?

Justmuddlingalong · 12/10/2023 18:47

I'd report the interlopers to the hotel. You don't need to own up to it, but the upgrade was for you and your immediate family's benefit.
I'm sure the hotel will deal with it sensitively.
I'm sorry your in laws are cheeky fuckers.

FrenchandSaunders · 12/10/2023 18:48

😳😳😡

DisforDarkChocolate · 12/10/2023 18:48

WTF!

Why on earth did you not tell them to leave?

NotObligedToArgueWithStrangers · 12/10/2023 18:49

Are you sure your DH didn't invite them? Even accidentally? It'd take some serious brass neck to just jump on a plane and turn up.

Sparkletastic · 12/10/2023 18:49

This can't have happened without your or DH's knowledge / approval surely?

GiveMeCakeOrGiveMeDeath · 12/10/2023 18:51

How the fuck did this happen??

Dishwashersaurous · 12/10/2023 18:51

How has this happened?

Are you sure that your husband didn't actually organise it?

Lorelaigilmore88 · 12/10/2023 18:52

How/why did you not laugh in their face when they announced they were staying with you?!

AlwaysPrettyOnTheInside · 12/10/2023 18:53

Wow.

Sorry op, I think your dh invited them too.

Lorelaigilmore88 · 12/10/2023 18:53

And fwiw your husband must have known about this! For them to have all the information needed to pull off this cf move

FloofCloud · 12/10/2023 18:55

I can't believe that would be allowable by the hotel!! What the AF though I'd be livid!

Cammac · 12/10/2023 18:55

Im awaiting update from OP as I agree with others. This cannot have happened without prior consent. Somebody must have booked them into your room.

Blough · 12/10/2023 18:56

The hotel handed over your room keys to these people without you or your husbands consent? Or did he give it to them?

cwigley · 12/10/2023 18:56

"DH get rid of your parents ..... oh, they said no? I'm going home then"
Absolutely no word of a lie, I'd would be outta there.

SisterMichaelsHabit · 12/10/2023 18:57

I voted YABU because WHY did you and your DH let this happen? Firstly, why did you tell them you were getting an upgrade? You're on holiday, you don't communicate with people, especially overbearing oafs who turn up at your bloody holiday (this cannot possibly be the first inkling of them being CFs), you "get away from it all".
Secondly, why didn't you tell the hotel to turf them out?
Nothing about this makes sense.