In-laws gatecrashed our holiday

[Unicornmum25]

This isn't a question really, I just wanted to moan and see if I'm being unreasonable. We have gone away on holiday abroad, my husband, my child and myself. Upon arriving the hotel said our room was no longer available but they had upgraded us from a 2 bedroom to a 3 bedroom. We were pretty pleased with this news as it was nice to have that bit extra space and we don't usually get any luck as a family. Anyway a couple of days pass and we are sitting by the pool and my husbands mum and dad have shown up and declare they are staying in the spare room of where we are staying. I honestly can't get my head around it, I just think it's rude to gatecrash someone else's holiday and they have seen our upgrade as a free place to stay for them. Oh and not only are they staying in our place for free now they are using all our bath products and sun lotions etc because they didn't take a case as they wanted their flight to be as cheap as possible. Anyway rant over for now.

Tell them to fuck off!

How do they know where you are staying?

How do they know you have a spare room?

How would the hotel just let 2 extra guests in without them paying for the pleasure?

Who are the 3% saying YABU!?

We've been gatecrashed by inlaws twice. I know how you feel. You know you're NBU so rant away here.

It's for your DH to sort it out though.

In our case DH has prevented it happening since the 2nd time by keeping quiet about our holiday dates. He doesn't like being secretive, but he dislikes holidaying with his parents even less. (he loves them, but a few hours at a time is enough).

WHAT? NO? I’d be absolute FURIOUS

You know when CFers present an invoice to people at the end of the stay? Time to do that!

Wow!!!

I'd tell them to leave before you do

My in laws invited themselves on mine and exDH's holiday once. Showed up at our hotel, room next door, they were with us morning to evening, they were mega offended when we suggested we have dinner on our own one night. It was EXHAUSTING.

Years later, when I filed for divorce, this was one of the things playing on my mind. Their lack of boundaries and DH's lack of spine were part of the reason for our break up.

I don't understand this. Did the in-laws just beam down from another planet or were they already in other accomodation in the area? Did the owners of the accomodation that you are staying in just allow them to move in without paying? And if so, why? An apartment bigger than your needs wouldn't normally give you licence to let more people stay there without paying.
I feel like I am reading some weirdy chatbot that hasn't quite got the hang of reality. Can you explain how this all works?

If this is genuine, someone must have invited them. You don't just fly to another country on the off chance that the spare room is still available?

CF they are risking you being kicked out the hotel. By having more people than it was booked for. What are they doing about food? Most hotels you have to have a wristband or give your room number and they have a list of how many in each room.

I think your DH has told them and possibly invited them - or agreed with their suggestion.

Absolute stuff of nightmares 😭 I'm sorry OP

Is this a package holiday? I can't see how the hotel would allow extra guests without charging something or that they'd give keys out to your apartment so fill in the detail, OP.

I'd ask them to get their own room, they can't share your apartment.

They are rude but use it to your advantage. They can babysit, buy food and drinks, taxi for a day out. They can also buy their own toiletries and sun lotion (put yours out of reach)

All of the above.

Come on OP, is this your husband’s doing? How else would they know exactly where you are staying?

Sounds like your husband is the problem here, they didn’t just turn up, how did they know details?

Hotels don't allow extra people to just arrive and stay . It's not like just because there is space you can fill it .

This has got to be the most CF thing I've ever read on MN!!!!

Mumsnet has turned into a strange variant of the Turing Test, in which the human participant fears naming the other participant as AI for fear of being deleted.

Or, even worse, all participants are human but some have become fluent in chatbot-ese.

I voted for not unreasonable, but I can't help wondering how they landed up there with you in the first place? Did your husband invite them? Or did he tell them where you were and what happened and they unilaterally decided to join you? Either way, it is up to your husband to get rid of them immediately.

The thing is, I used to call my mum from holiday to say we'd arrived safely, and tell her about the hotel etc - it's not an unusual thing to do. OH messages his parents to say "Arrived" and then they'll ask if it's nice and he sends a reply.

Op's DH may have done this, and in his description of place say, "Place is lovely, got an upgrade, MASSIVE 3 bedroom apartment." and thought his parents would respond like normal people with a "Lucky you, have fun!" and instead the parents have had an IDEA and rocked up as a LOVELY SURPRISE chuckle chuckle.

My parents wouldn't do that. OH's parents wouldn't either. The vast majority of people wouldn't. But, as we know, some CFs absolutely would.

Until we know DH did invite them I'm going to feel sorry for him - what a way yo discover your parents are top class CF.

Obviously they had planned to join you and contacted the hotel and requested that you are given a 3 bedroom suite to accommodate them, so not a free upgrade by the sounds of it!!