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In-laws gatecrashed our holiday

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Unicornmum25 · 12/10/2023 18:41

This isn't a question really, I just wanted to moan and see if I'm being unreasonable. We have gone away on holiday abroad, my husband, my child and myself. Upon arriving the hotel said our room was no longer available but they had upgraded us from a 2 bedroom to a 3 bedroom. We were pretty pleased with this news as it was nice to have that bit extra space and we don't usually get any luck as a family. Anyway a couple of days pass and we are sitting by the pool and my husbands mum and dad have shown up and declare they are staying in the spare room of where we are staying. I honestly can't get my head around it, I just think it's rude to gatecrash someone else's holiday and they have seen our upgrade as a free place to stay for them. Oh and not only are they staying in our place for free now they are using all our bath products and sun lotions etc because they didn't take a case as they wanted their flight to be as cheap as possible. Anyway rant over for now.

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daliesque · 12/10/2023 18:59

So glad you are here, you can babysit for the free room. Then hand over dc and head off to the pool

Do this! Have some time together just the two of you. Romantic strolls, dinner, drinks. But load the kids up on sugar first.

They'll soon disappear

Dishwashersaurous · 12/10/2023 18:59

So the hotel gave room keys to a random person who wasn't on thr booking, without you knowing?

TomatoSandwiches · 12/10/2023 19:00

I don't know what I'd do but it wouldn't be pretty. YANBU, have they got form for this level of cheeky fuckery?

1FootInTheRave · 12/10/2023 19:01

Surely not.

How did this even happen?

Poetnojo · 12/10/2023 19:02

OH

Poetnojo · 12/10/2023 19:02

MY

Poetnojo · 12/10/2023 19:03

GOD

MondayBags678 · 12/10/2023 19:03

You don’t mention your dh at all in this? Is he happy? Did he invite them? He clearly told them otherwise how would they know? I’d be absolutely fuming but possibly at dh more if this is on him? And I’d be telling him to uninvite them sharpish

Dowhadiddydiddydum · 12/10/2023 19:06

Have you told them it’s not ok and you don’t want them there?
I really think you need to be blunt and clear.

Depending on how you feel you might even tell them they can stay another night but have to find their own accommodation after that….or charge them part of the cost.

Oysterbabe · 12/10/2023 19:07

Your DH must have invited them.

cartagenagina · 12/10/2023 19:07

Say what now?

Either this was planned all along by DH and the “upgrade” was just what had been arranged so PILS could stay.

Or, DH invited them once he knew about the extra room without discussing with you.

Or, PILS asked if they could stay once DH told them about the room and he agreed without discussing with you.

These options all point to a raging DH problem and are far more likely than PILS being so insane that they just rocked up.

Hygeelady · 12/10/2023 19:08

Come on....

How could they just turn up like this without your husband having told them. This would not be ok with me!

quickqpls · 12/10/2023 19:09

Going completely against the grain here and saying I'm a more-the-merrier type person and would think it's a nice surprise. Don't mind sharing stuff too. And would also bag a cheeky night out with DH on our own. TOTALLY accept that it's not your POV tho OP and you're right to have a moan about it. Especially to your DH who should manage it.

Rainallnight · 12/10/2023 19:10

DH 👀

OhmygodDont · 12/10/2023 19:12

Your dh totally invited them and probably arranged the upgrade.

TakeMe2Insanity · 12/10/2023 19:14

But how?
How did they amend the booking to be added to
yours? Presume husband was complicit.

BeardieWeirdie · 12/10/2023 19:14

What the fuck? I’d be telling them in no uncertain terms that your husband did not check with you, sharing does not work for you and that they need to leave. Now. Fuck the fallout. And when you get back, kick your pathetic husband to the kerb.

gotomomo · 12/10/2023 19:15

Free babysitters!

Justmuddlingalong · 12/10/2023 19:15

Free loaders

Gnomegnomegnome · 12/10/2023 19:16

Yep.

Overthebow · 12/10/2023 19:17

Why didn’t you tell them no? I don’t understand how this has happened.

MyCircumference · 12/10/2023 19:17

quite bizarre

pollyglot · 12/10/2023 19:18

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StaunchMomma · 12/10/2023 19:19

This is some absolute batshittery, right here!

I take it your DH has told them so he needs to be the one to deal with this.

What an awful situation to be in!

CFs of the year nominees, for sure!

Topseyt123 · 12/10/2023 19:20

I'd be beyond furious at this and would make sure to let them know about it.

Someone shared the information about where you were and the room upgrade with them. It's a bit too much of a coincidence otherwise. The finger of suspicion probably points to DH. I'd be apoplectic with him if that proves to be true.

Is there any possibility that they tracked him via locations on his phone? Possible, but still a huge coincidence though.

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