To ask DH to move to the guest room

[Rorymyers]

Ok hear me out
DH snores. And I don’t mean some nights. I mean every night. Two minutes into sleeping and he’s snoring and every breath is a loud snore.

it has always bothered me but I have coped for years.

now I have noticed When DH is away I get at least 8 hours sleep. When he’s in bed i’m getting max 6 because i’m constantly being woken up. I think this is unfair to me so I have asked DH to sleep in the guest room permanently.

I don’t want anyone suggesting he sleep on his side, cut back alcohol, lose weight etc as he has done all that and nothing has worked He has refused to see the GP.

if you can provide a REAL solution then I will be open to hearing it please.

He thinks I should find a way to cope with it as it’s not his fault he snores. He has no problem falling and staying asleep amidst his thunder snores.

I am a light sleeper and constantly getting less sleep than I deserve.

I have used earmuffs, sleeping pills, etc but these are non sustainable. I’m really miserable about this and beginning to dread coming to bed at night. It’s affecting how I even feel towards DH as I think if roles were reversed I would seek a solution to the problem.

AIBU to ask him to move to the guest room permanently to enable me sleep?

I had this with my DH, it was such a horrible time. People don't realise how demented it makes you. I'd just go to the spare room and leave him to it.

I had this with my DH, it was such a horrible time. People don't realise how demented it makes you. I'd just go to the spare room and leave him to it.

Separate rooms here! And it’s wonderful. It’s like being royalty! I have a wall of wardrobes to myself, a dressing table, everything I want on the bedside tables and I can sleep without the sound of his snoring. On holidays we share and I manage with ear plugs and sleeping pills but I’m not going to do that all the time

I snore. DH can't wear ear plugs as they cause issues with his ears. I tried everything! Lying on side, golfball sewn into back of pyjamas, expensive throat sprays, weight loss, less alcohol urgh.

I found during a cold that the bog standard nasal decongestant works. I use it every night now and we haven't had any arguments about it since!

Hope you find something that works but honestly, I'd just take myself to sleep somewhere else if he refuses...

Tell him to put his big boy pants on and see the GP. People die from sleep apnoea.

Do have separate bedrooms though if you've room. You'll definitely benefit sleep-wise.

There's an app called Snorelab and I highly recommend it to show him the actual impact of his snoring. No snorer ever believes they're as bad as they are until presented with evidence.

After I showed my husband six solid hours of him snoring, often at "epic" decibel level, and played him the highlights of his snoring, he was mortified and went straight to the GP. He's had a minor surgery to correct the issue and now his snores are much lighter and less frequent!

I moved into another room as I snore thunderously. I tried everything including being put under general anaesthetic to investigate - of course this was the one time I didn't snore...it has brought peace and more importantly sleep. Don't waste time with the various mouth guard/tongue gadgets they are awful to wear and don't work. Good luck x

Had separate rooms for last 30 years of our 37 year marriage, I love my room and go to bed early and get up early. Husband snores like a stuck pig and goes to bed much later. It has worked for us even though he was a bit upset at first but he likes his own space now too. I just remember an older couple who lived near us once - she looked permanently exhausted as her husband claimed that if they slept separately it meant they weren’t married. She died years before him probably because she never slept! I thought he was incredibly selfish.. we all need sleep

Since he is refusing to move and refusing to see a GP
on top of recording and showing him

id ne walking him up every single time he snores to get the message across to how stressful not sleeping is

if he doesn’t like that he is welcome to sleep in the guest room. You shouldn’t have to go there you aren’t the one causing problems

and earplugs while great, I’m the same as you I cannot use them for nights on end

i am super lucky I am married to as rosy kind and considerate man who doesn’t snore but if he did he’d be more than happy to so this to help me sleep

you are both in a partnership though so before you try the above have a good conversation with him, this is a joint issue and he should be on your side to resolving it

He’s being selfish not moving himself into the other room. I suffers for years but not anymore as I shipped him into the spare room. Best thing I ever did.

My husband snores so badly but he got a spray from Amazon and it's a literal miracle thing but has to be used correctly. It's called Asonor available for about £12 on amazon. Honestly it's a game changer

Agree that waking him each and every time, while videoing, might get the message across.

Either way, get a room to yourself.