To be sad no one cares that Ive retired

[Dinkiedoo]

I havent been in good health for a whike so decided to retire.
Not one person has sent a card. My family the people I worked with for 10 years no one.
Im sad and disappointed.
Im nice to people. Always lend an ear. Always buy little gifts for peoples birthdays etc etc.I am thoughtful and often the one who instigates suprises etc for other people.
I dont expect anything in return but a card or some flowers would have been nice.

Ditto. I left my company at 60 due to ill health, worked there 15 years, not one phone call from colleagues etc whilst I was off ill, not one card when I left. Brings home, majority of people you think of as friends, are actually colleagues and nothing more. Enjoy your retirement..

User I agree we all just numbers. Op wishing you the best. My sister was saying hubbie got nothing after 30y service!! I thought that was lousy.

@Dinkiedoo sending you best wishes on your retirement! 💐
I have a fear that I’m becoming invisible so I hope you find hobbies and happiness with people that appreciate you.

Were you off months before you retired? Could explain why it was overlooked

A friend worked in the same place from leaving school to 65, the company he worked for didn’t both to even acknowledge it. So he wrote a letter expressing their hurt and disappointment - result was a holiday abroad for them paid by the company. I think you should also send them a letter or email (addressed to everyone) expressing your hurt and disappointment, not necessarily to get anything from them, because frankly I Would be saying were to shove a card or flowers, but to shame them - they deserved to be shamed.

A car and present. That is very, very generous.

Treat yourself op and be glad you won't have to see any of them again.

Have a very happy retiremnet just pleasing yourself

YABU I wouldn’t consider buying a retirement card for my family or friends, do they even sell them?

if you didn’t return to work it might be a little bit of a weird one. Maybe you should suggest retirement drinks with you ex-colleagues I’m sure they would turn up to that.

Just because you retired from that job, doesn’t mean you’ve retired from Every job.. you’re free now to do something that interests you.. I’d quite like a few days mucking out horses when I retire.. or food bank or doggy day care or whatever you’re interested in.. can you think of something? Hill walking? The right to roam and footpaths are the best thing in England for me…

I'd never think to send someone I don't work with a retirement card or gift.

This is true. I wfh alot due to certain circumstances and have no idea who is sick/retiring/marrying etc.
Shame but no one really notices I'm not there either.

Well turn it round. Did you OP go round to work place colleagues and thank them and wish them luck for their futures?
If you’d gone round first thing in morning and say that you might not see them later you might have jogged them into (hastily) organising a whip round. Many people have much to worry about and just don’t think.
Just move on …..

I'm sad for you too, its nice to be considered. Retirement is a big thing. Hopefully you will feel better soon and can think more about how you will spend your days.
I think it's usual for work to do something, even if just a card and some flowers.
I love going to work and will be sad to go, probably next summer when I will be 75. I only had a state pension ( long sad story) so I've stayed on to save a bit but it's getting harder to do the job, physically. I long for an easier life and have plenty of ideas for then...nothing costly but things I have always wanted to do. I expect there will be a small collection for me, I've been there 18 years and it's home from home to me. I hope you will enjoy the positive side of retirement , time to get on to the next phase x

I recently retired after working for the same organisation for over 30 years. Like u I had no ‘goodbye’. No card. No messages from people who I thought were friends not just colleagues.
I arranged a meal for 6 of my closest people & it was lovely.
Now I’ve moved on.
Its tough but try & do the same.
Don’t isolate yourself. Find ur tribe & hopefully there u will find people who don’t just take from u.
I promise not everyone is a one way street.

Happy Retirement, I would arrange some friends around or out for a meal maybe to celebrate

💐Happy retirement.
I would just think stuff them tbh.
Enjoy the next chapter of your life, sleep in, go join classes, book clubs , anything and everything you enjoy,
go do it, meet new people make new like minded friends.

You are not being unreasonable at all. That's pretty poor show from your employers and colleagues. I have never experienced anyone retiring from work without receiving a card or gift from colleagues or the company. It just demonstrates total apathy that nobody could be bothered to organise at the very least a card. Upsetting though it is, best not to dwell on it and enjoy a long and happy retirement.

Happy Retirement!

That is upsetting but try to think how much better off you are out of there. Fill your time with things you love to do and meet new genuine friends (rather than colleagues). I left a place after 15 years to go self-employed (same industry) and no one from the company said a word which was hurtful. Thankfully my clients who I worked with from there were lovely with messages and good wishes.

From the other side….

a lady was off work for over a year, then we just got an email saying she had left the company. I was so sad. 4 weeks later she got in touch and asked us to a retirement drink/nibbles @ the pub close to work we all went had a lovely time, flowers cards and a good catch up.
Xx

Congratulations on your retirement, I'm extremely jealous.

I think people tend to be less invested when people retire because we generally seen as the old giffers, and until I was in my 50s retirement, didn't even occur to me.