To be sad no one cares that Ive retired

[Dinkiedoo]

I havent been in good health for a whike so decided to retire.
Not one person has sent a card. My family the people I worked with for 10 years no one.
Im sad and disappointed.
Im nice to people. Always lend an ear. Always buy little gifts for peoples birthdays etc etc.I am thoughtful and often the one who instigates suprises etc for other people.
I dont expect anything in return but a card or some flowers would have been nice.

Congratulations on your retirement 💐💐💐

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4915832-happy-retirement-dinkiedoo?page=3

Sorry your ex colleagues didn't acknowledge your departure OP, I would be upset too.
But.... Hurray to the new life. Enjoy your retirement and all the freedom you now have.

Were you off on long-term sick leave before you retired? If so, people might have assumed you had already left.

That's the spirit! I bloody love being retired. Enjoy every minute and don't give your former colleagues another thought. Here's some 💐

Well I bet that's helped OP feel a hell of a lot better 😱 You don't need to share every thought in your head, you know!

I’m so sorry, that’s terrible of them. I’d be upset too. Sadly if often seems to be the thoughtful kind people who get nothing back. Onwards and upwards, enjoy your retirement and don’t give that miserable lot another thought.

I wouldn't expect anything from my family when I retired, my husband didn't get anything, everyone was jealous I think and probably felt retiring was its own reward. I would expect something from my employer/ people I work with though especially if I'd been there a few years. it can get awkward if people take holiday for a couple of weeks before they retire so disappear from work before people are expecting them to and no-one had thought that far in advance to organise something

Yep, fuck 'em @Dinkiedoo After 10 years of slog and arranging other people's leaving events, you deserved a hell of a lot more than this, your employer and colleagues have been crap to say the least.

Here's to many happy and fulfilling years of retirement and I hope the release from work and time to really care for yourself will help your health and wellbeing. Congratulations on your retirement and for surviving the shitshow that is the workplace.

How long have you been off sick?
Maybe it feels like you have left already.

@Dinkiedoo
OP, you are that"one"who would have been organizing and reminding people to put together a going away event, buying a card for everyone to sign , collecting for a group gift, etc. Those things usually don't happen in the absence of "that one."

It is not that other people don't care and won't miss you, it is just that they won't think of doing those little niceties.

You did those things big because they were a part of who you are. Others may be just as caring but they are not wired to think of the little niceties as a way of expressing that care or concern. It says nothing about their feelings for you, it only speaks to theIr awareness of the small courtesy gestures.

I noticed recently understandably young people do not want to celebrate other peoples retirement when the chances of them having their own is extremely low and they will work until they die, with no cards or flowers and they supporting those retiring now.
I have heard this multiple times where I work from the under 30s and I think people need to be more sensitive around the subject. Otherwise it’s tone deaf op.

Bloody hell, I'll be celebrating big time! Can't wait. 💃

I clicked on this wondering whether it was my own mum who had created this thread.

she has just retired and is very shocked and pissed off that I didn’t send card, flowers or drive 3.5 hours to attend her retirement party.

I’m just baffled. She’s retiring, good for her, but I don’t understand why that’s a reason for me to celebrate with her. She has made a life decision no different to me deciding to go back to work after mat leave or deciding to change jobs etc.

Your boss/work colleagues though, I would be upset if I’d given my last 10 years of working life to them and they didn’t recognise it at all.

I think this too tbh. Celebrating someone retiring in their mid sixties feels weird as no doubt there will be no state pension for me at that age, the retirement age will either be much later or state pension reserved for only those in dire straights. I really do think that Gen X and later will be working well into their 80’s. So quite tone deaf really.

But will they want to celebrate when they move to a new job or if they go on maternity leave? I'd imagine so, so why not mark a colleague's retirement? Most workplaces celebrate those events.

Currently the oldest pension age is 68. The average age of death in the UK is 81+ The majority of us will still retire before we die.

I think it’s quite area/job/lifestyle dependant. The average age of death of a man in Glasgow is 71 which doesn’t leave a lot of time to enjoy retirement. I work for the LA and a lot of people (men more than women) contract out the very generous pension scheme as they are pretty sure they will be dead before it starts to pay out!

I struggled with fertility and never had a baby. And knew I would likely never have one from about 40. That didn’t mean I didn’t want to celebrate work colleagues’ maternity leaves even though at times it was very hard.

@Dinkiedoo I think it is awful that your colleagues haven’t collected for a gift/organised some sort of night out, when you retired.

However, had you been off work because of your ill health prior to your retirement and if so for how long? I ask because I was off work for nearly 2 years after an accident, before being medically retired, and there was quite a big turn round in staff during that time.

I did get taken out for a meal, by the staff I knew who still worked there, plus some who had moved on or retired and received a gift voucher. However, I had also kept closely in touch with some of my colleagues, after my accident. I’m just trying to think why your colleagues are so shit, that no one bothered to organise anything for you.

Try to put it to the back of your mind and enjoy retirement as much as you can.

Enjoy your retirement!!!

Ive just seen the post made just for me ! Thank you all so much ! ❤️

That’s terrible that it wasn’t acknowledged. Especially if youve worked there 10 years. Dont dwell on it. Make some plans and look to the future. Says more about them than you x

I wondered if this was why no one had made a fuss - all desperate to be retired too!

But colleagues should definitely have made a fuss

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