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Baby girls name - is it awful

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Startre28 · 07/10/2023 21:30

Name changed as its very outing.
i am pregnant and now know it’s a girl which I expected a boy !
we lost DP early on in the pregnancy and I haven’t even had a moment to think of her name.
his family would like it to be in our honour of DP.
this Name - Cory middle name Lee
they want Cory but I am not overly keen on it for a girls name as much as I would love for her to have DP name
I have suggested coralie
and me cause he never had a daughter before and I know he wanted to go have his nans middle name in there somewhere it would be coralie Martha … surname.

or do you prefer Cory ?

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Channellingsophistication · 07/10/2023 21:47

So sorry for your loss
you must choose as you wish and not feel pressured
Coralie Martha is lovely but Cora is nice too. I went to school with a Coral

Inertia · 07/10/2023 21:48

I’m so sorry for your loss, absolutely devastating for you all.

With all due respect to your partner’s family, they named their child. They need to let you name your own baby, with the level of remembrance you’re comfortable with.

Please don’t feel pressured into giving the baby his surname either.

Your baby will be her own person, not a living memorial.

Original poster
Startre28 · 07/10/2023 21:48

Thank you
tbh names - baby stuff etc has just not been on my mind. Most of the time I feel so disconnected that maybe a name will help !

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Sugargliderwombat · 07/10/2023 21:48

You don't need to suggest it is up to you. Coralie Martha is beautiful but it doesn't matter what we think 🙂 name her whatever you like! If you'd like her to just have a name that's just her name then go for it.

Sugargliderwombat · 07/10/2023 21:49

If you're not sure maybe don't stress about deciding. It's a lovely idea and just see how you go. Maybe don't commit to it with family yet.

Blessedbethefruitz · 07/10/2023 21:49

I asked about Cory here years ago for my first, a boy. Was told it's slang for penis in some areas.

Cora is lovely, as is Coral, Corrine.

Amidlifecrisis · 07/10/2023 21:51

Coralie, Coral, Cora and Corinne are all beautiful names.

You should definitely choose the name you want for your baby and not be pressured into anything. Sorry for your loss x

TheSpikySpinosaurus · 07/10/2023 21:53

NalafromtheLionKing · 07/10/2023 21:34

Coralie is better.

However, this is 100% your decision and yours alone. You do not need to name her in tribute to late DP and should pick whatever name you personally love.

This!

I'm very sorry for your loss.

But your baby is yours to name.

TheLightProgramme · 07/10/2023 21:54

Coralie is lovely, option to shorten to Cora or Cory but I'd not want just Cory

Martha also fine/nice

Niinja · 07/10/2023 21:55

Coralie and Martha are both lovely.

But very gently, when your DP suggested Martha as a middle name he wouldn't have been envisioning her first name being after Cory too. Either name would be honouring him - your baby doesn't have to have both unless that's exactly what YOU want.

My best friend's eldest has her middle name honouring her dad and she wears it proudly. It didn't have to be her first name to mean a great deal to her. So do it if you love it, but it's ok not to if you have any doubts.

Splat92 · 07/10/2023 21:55

I don't like Cory. Coralie or Cora are nice, but don't just do it for them. Only do it if that's what you want.

GG1986 · 07/10/2023 21:56

I really like the name Cora for a girl. But Coralie is pretty too x

WowOK · 07/10/2023 21:57

What about Coral. I think it's nice with w
Martha. Coral Martha Surname. I think it's a nice nod to her dad.

maddiemookins16mum · 07/10/2023 21:57

Cora or Coralie are lovey names.

Boopeedoop · 07/10/2023 21:58

I think your daughter deserves her own name, so I would call her Coralie instead of Cory

Janieforever · 07/10/2023 22:00

I love Cora. I’m sorry for your loss but I don’t think Corey is a good girls name.

Calmdown14 · 07/10/2023 22:05

I agree with @Boopeedoop she should have her own name.

Equally your DP should keep his own memory. You don't want to be reminded every time you have to say it. You need to be able to choose when to remember and reflect and when to just live in the moment. I'd find constantly saying his name difficult.

I think both your suggestions are nice. A good tribute without putting the pressure on her through life to be his memory.

TheChosenTwo · 07/10/2023 22:06

Blessedbethefruitz · 07/10/2023 21:49

I asked about Cory here years ago for my first, a boy. Was told it's slang for penis in some areas.

Cora is lovely, as is Coral, Corrine.

That’s what I associate it with too 😵‍💫
Coralie is really pretty op, I’m so sorry for your loss. Absolutely devastating 💐

Middleagedmeangirls · 07/10/2023 22:07

Coralie Martha is a lovely name. If his family want to nickname her Cory that seems entirely appropriate.

I'm so sorry you lost your DP. I wish you well for the future.

OhDoSitDownAndShutUp · 07/10/2023 22:07

Cory is a boy's name

OhDoSitDownAndShutUp · 07/10/2023 22:07

So sorry for your loss. That must have been terrible.

Passepartoute · 07/10/2023 22:08

Coralie is a lovely name. If she is called Cory there is a danger that her father's family will expect her to be just like a father, and of course she can't be and needs to be her own person.

0hNoNotAgain · 07/10/2023 22:09

So sorry you lost your DP
Your baby's name is 100% your choice - please don't let them push you into a name you don't want.
Everyone will be reminded of your DP every time they see your daughter anyway, regardless of her name.
I'd suggest waiting until she arrives and see whether she looks like a Coralie to you or not.

Wishing you well x

Escapetofrance · 07/10/2023 22:11

Cory, Coralie, Cora & Corrine are all lovely names. Martha is the perfect middle
name too.

olympicsrock · 07/10/2023 22:11

Take a little time . Imagine how you will feel saying it every time you look at her. Could Cory/ Cora make you feel too emotional ? Some people feel that a middle name is easier to honour a loved one.