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Baby girls name - is it awful

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Startre28 · 07/10/2023 21:30

Name changed as its very outing.
i am pregnant and now know it’s a girl which I expected a boy !
we lost DP early on in the pregnancy and I haven’t even had a moment to think of her name.
his family would like it to be in our honour of DP.
this Name - Cory middle name Lee
they want Cory but I am not overly keen on it for a girls name as much as I would love for her to have DP name
I have suggested coralie
and me cause he never had a daughter before and I know he wanted to go have his nans middle name in there somewhere it would be coralie Martha … surname.

or do you prefer Cory ?

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MustGetOutofBed · 08/10/2023 14:39

thegreylady · 08/10/2023 11:20

I think you should use Lucy. Let her bring light to all your lives. She will be loved and she doesn’t need the weight of her father’s death as part of her NAME for goodness sake, part of your distress and anger at his death! His family will always remember him but let his name be on his headstone not on his child. I wish you strength and love 💐

This is beautiful, and really brought a tear to my eye.
Let her bring light to all your lives I really hope @Startre28 will read this and take comfort at, what I'm sure must be, a very difficult time.

Ivymom · 08/10/2023 17:30

Please don’t let your in-laws put the weight of being a replacement for your DP on your baby. Give her her own name and her own identity. Lucy Martha sounds lovely. If you haven’t already, I would start family therapy with your DC and DSC. It sounds like your in-laws have some unhealthy expectations concerning your decisions for your nuclear family. You need to make sure you and your children, including DSC, are a cohesive unit. All decisions need to be what most benefits you and all three children.

Newestname002 · 08/10/2023 18:12

thegreylady · 08/10/2023 11:20

I think you should use Lucy. Let her bring light to all your lives. She will be loved and she doesn’t need the weight of her father’s death as part of her NAME for goodness sake, part of your distress and anger at his death! His family will always remember him but let his name be on his headstone not on his child. I wish you strength and love 💐

Such a good post. 🌹

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