Regret being older mum

[Oldermumhum]

We started having kids quite late, first conceived at 31, born at 32, planning second DC at 34, probably would be born at 35. DP would be 40.
I really regret looking back that we kept worrying about money, buying house, career and delayed starting family so much. I want to have a third DC as well but we will be older 37, 42 by then.
Has anyone been in the same boat, how did you overcome regret?

that’s an average age. I was 32 having my first. the vast majority of first time mums are in their 30’s these days - I think it would be quite lonely being a young mum and harder to make other mum friends.

@Oldermumhum you are not an older Mum.

I would say in many circles you were on the younger side. In my immediate circle I only know 2 people who had dc younger than you. Most were mid 30's (34-37) with first and I have more friends that had babies in their 40's than friends who had babies in their 20's. I include not only my friends but the parents of my dc's classmates. I have four dc so know lots of various families.

I don't judge when people have dc b/c that's impacted by many many factors - education, age at which they met a partner (or didn't), fertility, cultural norms. But honestly, stability and 2 healthy dc in your 30's? Sounds ideal to me. And no, I don't think your being 37 is too old for a third. Remember a couple generations ago while women started younger they often finished later too. Not at all uncommon for women to have larger families starting in mid 20's and not finishing until early 40's. That was the case for both of my grandparents.

I know this is a zombie thread but just come across this

52???!! How the heck did that happen?

@Oldermumhum
"But, I regret we kept chasing these things and feeling financially stable before we started family. We should have prioritised having a family over these things"

Why? Having children when you're financially secure gives you choices. It's shit to have to struggle and consider every penny.

My elder daughters both waited until they were married, had bought a house and established in their careers before having children and I can see how much easier it is for them and how their children benefit.

I've done both.
Had my first at 23, 2nd and 3rd at 31 and 36.
There's advantages and disadvantages to both.
I love the closeness I have with DS1. He is 15 now and although I am his mum he is like my best friend ♥ we get on so well and have such a laugh.
I was in a better position with my younger financially but my youngest is 2 now and I struggle more with a toddler these days!