Well there is certainly no authentic apology or accountability in his
passive-aggressive message. The digs and blame-shifting are there. ’You’re never satisfied and I can’t do anything right in your dramas. I’m going to stay away until you simmer down and make changes.’ That’s rich, since he’s the one who has been acting like a single man targeting a teen girl, even in public, and then turned into a vicious drama queen when you tried to have a measured conversation. He makes no mention of the issue at hand and gives no reassurance, not even an apology for his contemptuous behavior yesterday. He’s putting it all on you. He hopes to convince you that you’re overreacting so you’ll sweep it all.
Maybe just maybe it’s you who needs to change.
I’ve just seen this. It’s the gist of his longer message, in a nutshell. He accepts no responsibility and feels no remorse. He has zero concern for your feelings or respect for your boundaries. He believes he doesn’t have to answer to you, so you need to get with the program. He knows very well that he’s smitten with this teenager and that his actions have crossed lines, but he’s not going to admit that, not even anything minimal like, ‘I used poor judgment.’ That’s okay. You don’t need his agreement. You know what this is.
@Cuppacakey, you watched him make overtures in plain sight. Your description of observing their affectionate greeting, feeling like you didn’t exist when standing with them, and watching him move from your side to take her picture really packs a punch. His other recent behavior changes — taking his phone to the bathroom and constantly criticizing you — are from the Script 101.
He’s a repeat offender who is at it again, and he feels confident that he can bamboozle you. Feel your steel and don’t cave.