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To think there is a sub-class of people in our society

342 replies

bluewanda · 21/09/2023 21:27

Baby boy died in 'filthy' home with 'traces of cocaine in his system'

https://mol.im/a/12545263

What the hell is wrong with these people. How the fuck can they subject an innocent baby to such a horrific life?! These children should be removed at birth because they don’t stand a chance. It is so utterly depressing.

Baby boy died in 'filthy' home with 'traces of cocaine in his system'

Little Grant John Storey-Delaney died while in his baby bouncer at his Rochdale home. He was found 'turning grey' by his mother Sophie Riley with a blanket over his face

https://mol.im/a/12545263

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roarrfeckingroar · 21/09/2023 22:13

Fuck me. Some people are just subhuman. They should be sterilised after this.

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 21/09/2023 22:14

You get fewer of these kinds of social problems in countries with less inequality. When the government talks about “levelling up” it’s these communities and people who need to benefit most. But it’s all rhetoric, they don’t actually do anything to solve these issues.

bluewanda · 21/09/2023 22:14

PickledFox · 21/09/2023 22:09

I don't think it's as simple as a "subclass". The mother most likely had a dreadful upbringing herself hence why she ended up the way she did. It's just a very very sad situation but I really don't think your label is appropriate here. It sounds a bit of a snobby term tbh.

People from any background (rich or poor) can have a terrible upbringing, but guess what, 99.9999% of them don’t end up in this situation. To me your response feels like you are trying to excuse this baby’s parents in some way. The only person I feel sorry for in this situation is that poor little child - a four month old baby who was found dead with class A drugs in his system.

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2jacqi · 21/09/2023 22:14

a classic case for compulsory sterilisation!!! baby should have been removed from mother's care while in the hospital!!!!!!

MoiraRosesBaybay · 21/09/2023 22:15

Elvis1956 · 21/09/2023 21:44

Definitely a sub class...I grew up in a docks village, full of working class people...who had pride and a sense of community.
My cousin summed it up "I grew up in one of the worst council estates in Britain, my mum was a single mother, I went to a school so bad, they demolished it and erased the records, but I hate people who don't have class "
These people don't respect themselves, how do we expect them to respect themselves...I tell you why, because you have to not make excuses. You need to grab life by the balls and battle, fight kick and gouge. Unfortunately the people who commit such crimes are weak, blaming others for their misfortunes never admitting responsibility. Not owning that they are responsible for their own lives

I agree. It’s nothing to do with poverty or social class. However social services are stretched to the limit now so I think we will see more cases like this until they get proper funding.

Superduper02 · 21/09/2023 22:15

icallitasplodge · 21/09/2023 21:48

I think class is the wrong word. The lady in the manhunt whose baby died in a tent due to her and her partners negligence, was of the upper class.

it’s not class that does this.

Tbf I think those two would fall into the sub-class. It's not necessarily about social status but a mindset of depravity and entitlement that would put the people into OP's sub-class if I've understood the sentiment correctly.

Finteq · 21/09/2023 22:16

That poor baby

Some lives never really stood a chance.

Somanycats · 21/09/2023 22:16

Dacadactyl · 21/09/2023 21:40

There absolutely is a sub class of people in society. They are a disgrace and are propped up by the benefits system (if this couple were working, I'd eat my hat)

I don't know what the answer is, but the status quo isnt working.

And how the little one was only classed as a CIN and not on a CP plan is beyond me. His "mother" had had previous children removed!

There absolutely is a subclass of people in society. They are not a disgrace!! They are learning disabled/ child abuse victims/ foetal alcohol syndrome/ physically disabled/ low IQ/ care system survivors/ mentally ill/ veteran PTSD survivors.... We neglect them. We know full well that they can't cope with life in general and parenthood in particular but we don't want to pay more taxes so we leave them to their own devices and this is what happens. We could improve the outcomes for the children of these failing families but most of us don't want to. It costs £200,000 per year to keep a child in care. Unsurprisingly that's an unpopular use of public money.

bluewanda · 21/09/2023 22:16

Superduper02 · 21/09/2023 22:15

Tbf I think those two would fall into the sub-class. It's not necessarily about social status but a mindset of depravity and entitlement that would put the people into OP's sub-class if I've understood the sentiment correctly.

Precisely.

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JudgeJ · 21/09/2023 22:19

Dacadactyl · 21/09/2023 21:40

There absolutely is a sub class of people in society. They are a disgrace and are propped up by the benefits system (if this couple were working, I'd eat my hat)

I don't know what the answer is, but the status quo isnt working.

And how the little one was only classed as a CIN and not on a CP plan is beyond me. His "mother" had had previous children removed!

Once a woman has had a child removed from her 'care' then every subsequent one she pops out should be permanently removed, no questions asked. Those blaming the 'system', surely the first blame should be the breeders.

minipeony · 21/09/2023 22:20

roarrfeckingroar · 21/09/2023 22:13

Fuck me. Some people are just subhuman. They should be sterilised after this.

The thing is they are human. They aren't other. They walk among us. That's what I find so hard to comprehend.

MyHornCanPierceTheSky · 21/09/2023 22:20

PickledFox · 21/09/2023 22:09

I don't think it's as simple as a "subclass". The mother most likely had a dreadful upbringing herself hence why she ended up the way she did. It's just a very very sad situation but I really don't think your label is appropriate here. It sounds a bit of a snobby term tbh.

Yes, so "snobby' to think neglecting and killing your baby is wrong. And the poor mother! No one ever telling her not abusing your baby is wrong. Isn't everyone else just awful and she's just a poor lamb!

bluewanda · 21/09/2023 22:20

Somanycats · 21/09/2023 22:16

There absolutely is a subclass of people in society. They are not a disgrace!! They are learning disabled/ child abuse victims/ foetal alcohol syndrome/ physically disabled/ low IQ/ care system survivors/ mentally ill/ veteran PTSD survivors.... We neglect them. We know full well that they can't cope with life in general and parenthood in particular but we don't want to pay more taxes so we leave them to their own devices and this is what happens. We could improve the outcomes for the children of these failing families but most of us don't want to. It costs £200,000 per year to keep a child in care. Unsurprisingly that's an unpopular use of public money.

So the murderers who killed Star Hobson and Arthur Labinjo-Hughes (to give just two examples) were simply neglected individuals who deserve our pity and forgiveness? As if. Some people are just pure evil, end of.

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MammaTo · 21/09/2023 22:21

Yes I agree.

The story about Shannon Matthews comes to mind.

These people are for lack of a better word feral. I know these type of people, I’ve grew up around them. They’re nocturnal, sleep all day and stay up all night drinking. Sleep with different people without any thought, bring kids into this world with no sense of responsibility and expect the world to bend over backwards for them. Then the kids see 2-3 generations of family who don’t work or look after themselves and the cycle continues. I don’t know how you break it.

You can’t even call them “working class” because none of them have ever worked a day in their lives.

AnnaBlush · 21/09/2023 22:22

In response to poster suggesting professionals should protect children@Bemyclementine the parents should have protected the child . Or anyone who insight into the family . Eg parent friends/ friend if they visited home
child protection is everyone’s duty
Children services were involved - but unless they have good evidence cannot force enter into the home.
They likely didn’t have enough evidence to put child on CP register. They cannot make a judgement based on past behaviour alone
I don’t understand the expert suggesting ‘a child in need’ should be seen weekly ( that’s a CP requirement). If a family decline input- without good reason children services legally cannot enforce visits - so perhaps blame the courts/ laws for not protecting the child- not just the local authority.

MyHornCanPierceTheSky · 21/09/2023 22:22

Well yes @bluewanda re. Your above post. The poor baby killers, they're the ones who need the sympathy!

Pollyputhekettleon · 21/09/2023 22:22

JudgeJ · 21/09/2023 22:19

Once a woman has had a child removed from her 'care' then every subsequent one she pops out should be permanently removed, no questions asked. Those blaming the 'system', surely the first blame should be the breeders.

Yes, that protects the children from birth, which is great. But most of them were already brain damaged or even addicted in utero from the alcohol, smoking, drugs, not eating properly, not attending prenatal care etc. They're in trouble before they're even born.

MrsMarzetti · 21/09/2023 22:24

Charlingspont · 21/09/2023 22:03

Poor baby. I was shocked to read that when he died (in February 2021) the police said the temperature in the house at 3.30am was 26 degrees. Did the parents just never turn the heating down or off? Were they not boiling hot?

Probably cultivating Cannabis.

Fallingthroughclouds · 21/09/2023 22:24

MyHornCanPierceTheSky · 21/09/2023 22:07

Well no, that's not what I got from @Dacadactyl I got, that if it wasn't for the benefits system paying for these 'parents' lifestyle this couldn't have happened. ^you' are the one who made the jump to say anyone on benefits would do this.

I didn't say that at all and this article doesn't day anything about benefits, so why associate people on benefits with child murders.

bluewanda · 21/09/2023 22:25

They likely didn’t have enough evidence to put child on CP register. They cannot make a judgement based on past behaviour alone

In the article it says the mother had had previous children removed. Surely that means they should have been monitored like a hawk at the very least?

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roarrfeckingroar · 21/09/2023 22:25

Compulsory sterilisation.

OnAFrolicOfMyOwn · 21/09/2023 22:26

Charlingspont · 21/09/2023 22:03

Poor baby. I was shocked to read that when he died (in February 2021) the police said the temperature in the house at 3.30am was 26 degrees. Did the parents just never turn the heating down or off? Were they not boiling hot?

That is very odd - typically, drug addicts on a low income won't spend on anything not absolutely necessary other than drugs. So you would not expect an overheated house in February.

Pollyputhekettleon · 21/09/2023 22:27

Fallingthroughclouds · 21/09/2023 22:24

I didn't say that at all and this article doesn't day anything about benefits, so why associate people on benefits with child murders.

Child abuse correlates with socioeconomic class.

roarrfeckingroar · 21/09/2023 22:27

Rochdale again. What a shocker. Ffs that entire council, social services etc should be disbanded.

MyHornCanPierceTheSky · 21/09/2023 22:27

@Fallingthroughclouds so you think that these 'parents' contribute at all to society/their own existence?