Birthday coming up - already know I’ll be disappointed

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My birthday is coming up and I already know DH will forget. I mentioned it’s not going to be a great day anyway as he’ll be at work all day then it’s football in the evening. He just said “oh, we can do something another time instead”. Tried to hide my disappointment but don’t think it worked.

Question is, AIBU to want to do something nice on the day when DH is home from work? I’ll be with DD all day while he’s at work (she’s 18mo so doesn’t get the concept of birthdays yet).

Guess I’m just getting fed up of being the lowest priority in the household even though I’m the one making all the decisions, keeping the house tidy, etc.

Sorry, rant over lol 🫠

Meanwhile, back in the real world most adults celebrate their birthdays.

A minority on Mumsnet trot out this line in order to make people feel even worse about themselves than they already do. Pathetic

The same fuckwads pop up at Xmas to tell you only children should get Xmas presents as well

Get dressed up, when he gets in from work, hand him your dd, put on your coat and walk out the door saying “Katy and Tina are taking me out to celebrate my birthday, hope bath and bedtime goes well, see you about 11.30.”

Then have a great night out with your friends.

Can you start doing something for you on your birthdays?! taking a solo trip travelling would be a great birthday gift to yourself. You could just go for the day or disappear for a few forget everyone else. It’s something that helped me on my last birthday

One match out of how many? I think that's awful to love sport more than a partner, if you know that special day means so much to put a game before their feelings is mean.

I'd hate that unless I smashed it in his face

What rules says we can't have one day a year or in effect a couple of hours where people show they care about us it's really sad if the attitude is because your an adult you are the bottom of the heap for everyone else and nobody should show they care.

I'd hate that unless I smashed it in his face

Proper LOL

I think that poster was really rude; but my own problem here is: what is the use of 'one day a year or in effect a couple of hours where people show they care about us'? Surely people close to us should show they care EVERY day? If they don't, then one day a year means nothing. If they do, then one day a year doesn't seem that important (though if one knows that it matters to one's partner or family member, it's inconsiderate to ignore it).

In my case, the wedding vow should be 'to love, honour, obey, and always respect ToWhit's ardent wish to be invariably allowed to totally forget the loathsome new age day known as her birthday.'

But maybe the two aren't so different: in both cases, they involve vowing to co-operate with what's important to your partner, rather than judging it by what's important to you.

Of course we should show we care every day but on our birthday it should be particularly focused on that person. The same as a wedding anniversary it's a celebration of being another year a milestone, we might not see another one, next year may see awful things we don't want to celebrate or remember

If he's a Manchester United supporter I can guess he won't watch it later because if he so much as heard the score or how abysmal they've played he will be angry about it (my ex was like this)