It’s a stepchildren and bedrooms one!

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SettleThis · 20/09/2023 09:07

I am pregnant and have three stepchildren (SD8, SD7 and SS5). SO and I live in a three-bedroom house, with an additional reception room downstairs used as a home office at the moment. At some point in the next 2-3 years we’re hoping to remodel and add another bedroom upstairs, but this isn’t an immediate priority right now.

IABU - baby will have to stay in your bedroom then move into the downstairs office (this is SO’s opinion)

IANBU - girls will have to move downstairs and baby into upstairs bedroom (this is my opinion)

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aSofaNearYou · 23/09/2023 23:17

Magicmama92 · 23/09/2023 22:52

I wouldn't want my baby on a different floor to me at all.
I also hated bunk beds as a child they scared me for some reason 🤣
I can see how it's maybe a bit worrying for them to be on a different floor even at that age. But logically the baby needs to be b
Near to you and dad. I wouldn't want any of them on a different floor but at the end of the day that's not doable. Make it fun decorate it with them and get fairy lights up the stairs in case they ever need to come up. Even get walkie talkies in case they need one of you as like a comfort thing. Tell your partner that he's welcome to sleep downstairs when the girls are over. I would do that for my own peace of mind anyway because I'm anxious. If he's like me and anxious about them being on a different floor then it's his responsibility to sleep on a sofa or airbed maybe just when they are over. That way there's an adult on both floors. Even maybe get a sofa bed.
End of the day babys need to be closer and it sounds to me that your really trying to keep everyone happy and be fair. Just have an honest chat with your partner so you can both air concerns and go from there. You aren't being unreasonable though. Good luck op

I think the suggestion of him sleeping downstairs when they're over if he isn't comfortable with it is a really good one, actually.

Teamofsix · 23/09/2023 23:51

you said you want to remodel anyway so the box room will be plenty big enough for baby and if the baby was an option to go downstairs then why not just put the step son down there it’s only temporary until you remodel my baby is 1 and still in my room and the other three all where until 18 months

hotcandle · 23/09/2023 23:55

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