To display a boudoir photograph with a child in the home?

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I ‘won’ one of those boudoir shoots and bought some pictures. It was just a bit of a fun, but the pictures are AMAZING. They honestly make me feel capable of anything and really brought home to me that everyday me isn’t all I can be. That with a little extra expertise and resource I can do something very, very different. It’s such a great concept to get my head around and apply in general. (Also, I look smoking hot and who doesn’t love that?!)

I really want to display some of the pictures. They aren’t tacky or sleazy. I’m wearing more that I was on the beach last month. Full Bra, brazillian pants, and a jacket in some shots. No stockings, thongs or bondage type undies. No handcuffs, but some hobby props (a hat and a book. Some pearls) She sees me naked all the time (but I respect her privacy however she prefers and I don’t brazenly wander about naked. We have dogs that open doors, it’s unavoidable, not deliberate or overtly liberal. She locks the bathroom, but will happily yell for me to get her a towel etc. All no big deal in an all girl household) But the pics are overtly sensual. I don’t have a partner and her father is permanently out of the picture for over than a decade. I do sometimes date and she knows about that in age appropriate detail.

My biggest concern is that she will connect it with my dating (which is fairly new and not unconnected in that both are because I feel more sexy than I have for years) but it’s not that dating leads to needing to change to be attractive for dates. It’s feeling more attractive and exploring that through dating AND how I present myself now I have a bit more freedom from lone parenting. How much do I share?! Is it creepy? Is it tacky, even though the pic itself isn’t? Or is it empowering and celebrating myself? (I could have one without my face in and make put it’s not me, but that seems even weirder!)

I’m not going to hang it in the sitting room, but she’ll see it often in my room. So will her friends as they come in and out of her room, because the only blank wall faces the door and our dogs open the door. We’ll have to have at least a chat about not telling my mother/all the neighbours/the greengrocer’s cat about it, what to say to her friends and not to let them photograph it! I just don’t think she’ll get it. I wouldn’t have got it at her age. (I wouldn’t have got it 12 months ago!). Is it unreasonable to expect her to get it with the right framing or should I wait? Until
when?!

All views welcome, but be polite! (Apologies for length, I’m thinking out loud)

Why wouldn’t anyone object on the exact same grounds, i.e. that they’re cringe, and the DC - and their friends - really don’t want to look at it……?

P.S. anyone catching a glimpse of someone’s Dad like that would probably have to move schools!

P.P.S. a belated, heartfelt thank you to my Mum and Dad for never doing anything like this 🙏

Im really, really interested to see if anyone can find a photo of a man that is not nude and does not feature any kind of overt sexual act but that they would also object to on similar grounds. I’ll wait.

I just don’t think it’s possible to find anything analogous, though, purely because there’s no such thing as sexy underwear for men. So male boudoir pics are either going to be actually nude or men in just, you know, normal pants.

Now I'm imaging my Husband wanting to pop up a photo of himself looking seductive in his pants because he had started to feel empowered. I know what DSD would say.

That same link has tons of photos of men, not nude and not performing sex acts. Not one that I think should be hung in the family home.

https://www.intimatelensstudio.com/male-boudoir

Not yet, no. Doesn’t matter though. We’re talking about the images

@AliceOlive - are you sure you didn’t just go out and take those photos, upload them, and write that interview?!

Honestly, it was like it was literally made up just to prove the point so many of us are making.

When you switch sexes and put men in there, it really highlights how silly it all is.

As an aside, The Man Who Has Everything on FB does exactly this, and is worth a follow for continually pointing out the many double standards between the sexes.

@Myfavouritepenguin - really suggest you read the (very short) interview.

What about the images?

I say if you want to do them for your partner all good. Hanging up for the kids to see absolutely not.

This is not the point of the thread but if someone had a wedding pic that was massive on display I’d think that was a bit fucking weird and self obsessed too.

(misses point) That is a fine looking sofa, especially the full frontal shot, very pleasing proportions.

Ok - done that. What was it supposed to prove?!

I think those photos are… not good.

I think the last couple are unsuitable because there’s that weird bondage accessory (?) but that isn’t what I understand by boudoir photography and I don’t think OP means that sort of thing? Did

OP showed a couple of photos that were examples. They weren't the same as yours.

I never said that's what OP was doing.

She said they were sensual, they were her words.

Again, nobody wants to see their parent looking sensual/seductive.

Now come on - you can’t keep changing the goal posts. A good number of those male images have naked butts. OP said no nudity.

@Myfavouritepenguin one of your photos was of a woman sat in a white shirt. Who would even pay for these photos? A lot of women look like that everyday.

So what? Lots of them don’t?

And the ones that don’t are no more suitable for hanging where a 13YO and her friends can see them?

You see the ones that don't have any nudity? I mean those. I feel like you understood that, though.

@PaulaZackMayo

Again, nobody wants to see their parent looking sensual/seductive.

So? Loads of teenagers are embarrassed if their mum wears a big hat or something.

Seriously though, I do get people not wanting to embarrass their teen unnecessarily. Yes.

But I object to the other ‘reason’ people are giving - the “it’s abuse” bullshit. Slightly embarrassing your teen is not abuse, no matter how much they argue otherwise.

Mums are still people with lives and bodies of their own. Not every picture you have in your bedroom has to be teen-approved.

How do you feel about a man slapping his wife on the ass, holding it and saying MMMM in front of his kids?

Well people presumably do? It was from a boudoir photo website. Take it up with them!

Most of the non-nude ones are fine (for an adult’s bedroom). But I think you understood that.

The ‘it’s abuse’ people have been few and far between on the thread - and haven’t even popped their heads in for a while.

They can be easily ignored, especially if you’re comfortable that it’s not abuse.

Not every picture you have in your bedroom has to be teen-approved.

Of course not - if your room is private / their teen friends can’t see into it? That’s not the case here?

That’s your opinion.

Those images are no more extreme that your average perfume commercial.

So what’s the problem?

Many posters never said abuse, me being one. You are missing the point. OP was making a big deal about where in the bedroom they were. She insisted that they could only be placed in a spot that if the door was open visitors could see.

This is rubbish. She could have placed them on a different wall but no she couldn't do this. No idea why.

Big drama.

The teen’s friends all seeing it, as has been said so many times already….?