Dating a man who is obsessed with his child

[Honeybu]

Everything revolves around his son who is 8 ok no problem I have kids and I’m the same, but when we go out or spending time together why constantly bring up topic related to your child? How are we going to know each? I’m getting fed up. Every conversation the child will come up and not just in passing it will take over our topic and continue

Of course his child is going to be his whole world. It shows he cares, is involved & really loves him. Green flag. Don’t date a man with kids if that’s not what you want!

Doesn't sound like you're on the same wavelength perhaps? His child is probably his world!

Don't date him then?

You’ll never be enough! Walk away now

He's not doing anything wrong but sounds like you're not a good match for each other.

You know you don't have to date him if you don't find him interesting don't you?
Contrary to popular belief on mumsnet, it isn't mandatory.

Nothing more boring than constantly hearing about someone else's child.

I think you misunderstood, I totally agree he is his world. But and a big but when we are on a date for few hours is it too much to ask to concentrate on us? What is this?

Don’t date him. His kid is really lucky to have such a dad though.

Is he interested in hearing about your children?

I'm guessing not!

I think I would throw this one back.

It is good that he adores his child but it sounds like he's not socially aware enough to understand that you might want a different topic of conversation sometimes!

Sounds like it’s not a match!

Is he trying to impress you with how involved he is as a parent?

If you're fed up then just stop seeing him. There is nothing wrong with deciding this issue makes you incompatible.

Enough compared to what?

Since we had our kids my DH and I have a shared obsession with our kids. If we broke up, I imagine we would both keep that focus. It's pretty natural and gets you past all the annoying stuff kids do.

He just isn’t the one for you. Life is too short to date someone that you don’t find interesting.

'But and a big but when we are on a date for few hours is it too much to ask to concentrate on us?'

Not too much to ask at all. I would be running for the hills

Equally, why is this man dating if he is absorbed with his own child to the exclusion of everything else. If you are dating you should have at least some space in your life for a romantic partner.

Maybe in his view of a potential future with you, he envisages you would be very involved with his DC (step mum work). So he assumes you’ll be wanting to get to know all about DC.

He sounds like a great parent but if he's one of these people who talks about themselves and their lives constantly, never giving the other person a chance to say anything, talking over them etc, it can get a bit draining. If you are happy to sit silently while he yammers on, that's fine. If not, dump him

There was a guy who I went on a couple of dates with who was a bit like this. Tbh he seemed to relate to his son as a peer, rather than a parent. It became clear he was thick as fuck and his son probably had more sense.

He's going to put his child first, just as you are going to put your children first .

This is the hard thing about dating when you have kids. There is only one person in the whole world who gives as much of a fuck about your kids as you do, and it's their other parent.

I think that sounds much more appealing than a man who sees his kid every other weekend and doesn't really give a crap!

It sounds like you're both at different stages maybe?

Bit boring, I agree.

I started dating as wanted something romantic and time away from my kids with an adult time and me time, not to be thrown back to the start with kids problems and excitement 😂 ok some news I will share but mainly focused on having a nice time with the adult.