Should i let 13 year old dd wear false lashes to school?

[EyelashConundrum]

Dd is 13, and has started wearing stick on lashes to school. They are not super heavy spidery ones, but they do change the way her eyes look. She bought them with her own money in town with friends.

Im really torn between letting her wear them (school allows it, all her friends wear them and she obviously wants to fit in, she's 13 and is trying to find her own style, etc).

But then false eyelashes just seem so unnecessary for 13 year olds who are going to spend the day sitting in maths and geography. And my heart breaks that modern beauty standards make her feel the need to conform and wear this level of adornment.

Its a choice between being the authoritarian mother who forbids it because its just excessive in my opinion. But equally i remember being 13 and arguing with my parents that my thick orange foundation was an absolute necessity and they couldn't possibly understand what its like to be a teenager.

Ive allowed voting

YABU - Let her wear them. Its not doing any harm, doesn't disrupt her learning and helps her to feel confident.

YANBU - Absolutely no way should i let my 13 year old leave the house wearing these ridiculous things.

I would let her. If the school doesn't allow it they will intervene, which will be the natural consequence. I might say if I didn't think they looked appropriate for school, but it would be still be her decision. There are worse things to worry about.

I know some of the girls do wear excessively large false lashes, the ones that you'd have to be blind not to notice.

When was the last time some of you set foot in a high school?
I work in one, and many of the first year girls have fake tan and lashes.
I agree it's unnecessary but schools these days have to pick their battles.
I won't allow a single pupil to take their phone to the toilet, as otherwise they'll text their mates to arrange a vaping session in the loo.
Welcome to school nowadays!

Yes.

I wear them sometimes, though the pupils don't

Girls (and boys) shouldn’t feel confident because they’ve altered their appearance, they should feel confident because of who they are.

“Change your appearance in order to feel better about yourself” is a really shit thing to teach kids.

She did buy them herself. Why not family occasions?

Good God woman, you really need to try living in the real world. Or send your child to private school.

My daughter went to a grammar school and all the girls hitched up their skirts and looked ridiculous…great eye candy for any letch .
Same daughter is now in her 30s and horrified how awful the look is ,but grateful that I left her to get on with it !! It’s about peer pressure and fitting in .

My 13 year old does, I'd rather she didn't but I figure there's worse things she could be doing.
As others have said, pick your battles OP, this is not one of them.
Also, I'm willing to bet that the majority of posters that are saying no way would they allow it don't even have a 13 yo dd so have no idea!

Your 13yr old goes to a salon for false lashes?😐
Blimey I remember being 13 and going out on my roller skates. Make up wasn't a thing till much older.

Looking a pillock in your teens is part of growing up, surely? I had cobalt blue mascara and that frosted lilac Boots 17 lipstick that made me look like a corpse, plus half a can of hairspray on my weird coloured hair (Glints, usually).

Apart from anything else, if I was ever told I wasn't 'allowed' to wear X, Y or Z I just took it with me and put it on at school or at my friends house, and I doubt my modus has changed that much in the last 35 years.

I wore them in 1966, when I was 15, I soon got fed up of sticking them on everyday. Also I wore thick glasses, so no one could see them anyway, but they did boost my self esteem for a little while I suppose.

It doesn't end there.
Fake tan, pierced nose and bellybutton, hair straightened to within an inch of its life.....

@DoorStopper

STOP! There's not enough smelling salts to go round

@JMSA 🤣

She's had all that at 13?

No way is that true @Headingforholidays

Every kid at every school knows who's cool and who's not, regardless of the rules. They just do!

Haven't read all the replies and didn't go to a british school but if the school allows it what is you banning them going to achieve? If english kids are anything like the kids in my country, banning certain stuff at home that the school isn't going to pull them up on (ridiculously short skirts, excessive makeup, smoking etc, can you tell I grew up in the 90's haha) all it's going to achieve is your DD buying them in secret, smuggling them into school (either herself or asking a friend to bring them in) and then spending half the first period applying it on in the school's bathroom. Nobody failed a class due to bad makeup or false eyelashes, as long as she's doing what she needs to be doing let her be or you'll end up her doing this (and likely much worse) in secret,

Absolutely not. My daughter wasn't allowed to wear make up like that at 13 outside school, let alone in school. I'm amazed that any school would allow this.

My 14-year-old wears her false lashes to school. Never been a problem. She doesn't wear any other make up, but she loves her eyelashes.

She is my 5th teenager, I've learnt to pick my battles, and it's not a big deal. She is doing well at school, it's her body and they aren't causing any harm.

@JMSA I did. There were standards.

Yes.

Me too. But it's hardly a realistic option for everyone