Should i let 13 year old dd wear false lashes to school?

[EyelashConundrum]

Dd is 13, and has started wearing stick on lashes to school. They are not super heavy spidery ones, but they do change the way her eyes look. She bought them with her own money in town with friends.

Im really torn between letting her wear them (school allows it, all her friends wear them and she obviously wants to fit in, she's 13 and is trying to find her own style, etc).

But then false eyelashes just seem so unnecessary for 13 year olds who are going to spend the day sitting in maths and geography. And my heart breaks that modern beauty standards make her feel the need to conform and wear this level of adornment.

Its a choice between being the authoritarian mother who forbids it because its just excessive in my opinion. But equally i remember being 13 and arguing with my parents that my thick orange foundation was an absolute necessity and they couldn't possibly understand what its like to be a teenager.

Ive allowed voting

YABU - Let her wear them. Its not doing any harm, doesn't disrupt her learning and helps her to feel confident.

YANBU - Absolutely no way should i let my 13 year old leave the house wearing these ridiculous things.

I think at 13 it is not really appropriate for school

Totally inappropriate

are they the individual ones? My DSC wears those and they don't look ridiculous or anything like that. I think this one is a pick your battles one. Yes she doesnt need them and yes it's sad but it's not a tattoo.

no, it looks tacky , I would be ok with mascara but not false lashes

It's like the dream matte moose of the 2020s

You'd be sending half the girls in school home in that case. Teachers just don't have time to police this.

No.

DD sometimes wears them (also 13).

I really dislike them. I also hate the plastic nails she sometimes buys with her pocket money and sticks on. I am a make-up wearer myself, but unmanicured, natural lashes, no 'tweaks'.

But the more I object and forbid, the more I feel it will turn into 'a thing' and take longer to naturally blow over. I don't still have the style I had at 13/14; I just hope DD's will soon evolve too.

I do, however, talk to her about the environmental impact of these nails and the packaging and other little plasticky bits of unnecessary junk. I think that sometimes goes in. More so than it would if I were cracking down harder.

Are you sure the school ‘allows’ false eyelashes?
Possibly one of your child’s friends wears false eyelashes to school but this is not the same as school ‘allowing’ it.

Definitely not. Our school has banned them because apart from how unnecessary they are they cause a huge problem with distractions.

I don’t think a 13 year old needs them but I don’t understand how eyelashes can cause any significant level of distraction.

I wouldn’t let my DD wear them, a bit of make up is fair enough but no one needs that level of adornment. If you give on this, where does she go next, Botox?

MN is so funny at times.

Can’t wear false lashes at 13. However, give DD two more years and if she’s in a relationship and wants to have sex, provide her with condoms and/or get an appointment booked with the GP to get her on contraception. Absolute madness.

I really don’t see the problem. They’re eye lashes, they’re not impacting her education in any way, shape or form. Even if you say no, I’m sure she’ll just glue them on early before school in the bathroom

In my opinion there are bigger things in life to worry about. I’m sure when we were all teenagers our parents thought the fads were stupid but c’est la vie

No way should a girl of 13 be wearing any sort of make-up, least of all to school ! If she wants to wear false anything, insist she waits till she's old enough to buy said items herself and that she NEVER wears said items to school or to family occasions.

I wouldn’t be dying on this unnecessary hill. Most of the lashes I’ve seen girls wear at school are the light and feathery ones not the spider ones. When I was in year 11 coloured contact lenses were all the fash 😜. I mean I look ridiculous with my bright blue electric eyeballs on my year 11 photo but I’m so glad my mum just let me be.

if they're just light and subtle then why not! i used to wear full on lash extensions at that age, didn't do me any harm, it didn't lead to a life of standing on street corners, think everyone needs to chill out a bit ahahaha let her express herself!

Also, it’s not as if she’s wearing lash extensions or anything like that. That’s a bit more grown up than stick on ones imo

@Lamelie I love you!

I didn't think they are in fashion anymore? Most teenagers I know go for the bare look on their eyes but with big bushy eyebrows or big lips. (I work with teenage girls a lot in my job so see them all the time!)

Yes let her wear them. If you say no she'll just put them on at school,I imagine.

I wouldn’t like it, but if school allow it, it’s probably not worth the battle.

My DD also 13 wears them to school too, absolutely do not see the problem with it. Seems most people say no because they 'look bad' I think the last thing we should be doing is telling our teen children they look bad. We don't share the same tastes or styles, tracksuits and crocs or the Nike pro shorts in summer.. but we're not 13! They may also not think our outfits or hair/makeup looks 'good' in their eyes but imagine if every time we went out the house they told us we shouldn't wear something and look bad.

Allow her to have her own style, there is a lot worse she could be doing.

My daughter went through a stage at the same age of wanting false lashes and used to do those ridiculous eyebrows too. I told her she looked ridiculous and also told her one day she’d ask me why I let her do it. School wouldn’t allow the lashes but I let her put them on out of school but only let her buy short, most natural looking ones. Sure enough now she’s 17 and looks back at photos she always says for god sakes mum why didn’t you tell me how awful those brows/lashes looked 🙄. Wish I’d recorded the conversation.

Not sure if this is the place to ask. Plenty of posters are happy for their sons to wear dresses.

Really? I was wearing makeup around 12, never anything heavy but I was allowed for "special occasions" which fell under.. family occasions
Mascara, lip gloss and then the obligatory body glitter for discos. Along with hair mascara
It washes off

My mum actually took me to Prescriptives and I had a makeup lesson, which was probably the best thing she could do. Because I got a foundation and concealer that matched my skin and subtle eyeshadow and lip stuff

Tell her that the cheap ones which I'm sure will be the ones she has bought, come from China and are made from donated pubes.