How did you feel at 32? I feel so old and haggered

[honeybunny8]

I've recently 'celebrated' my 32nd birthday and maybe this sounds ridiculous to older people but I just feel so old and haggered now.

I'm not young anymore. My hair has grey strands. My skin and hair has little shine and I can see my face is loosing that 'youthful' look and leaving behind someone who looks dull and tired. The wrinkles on my forehead are getting deeper, my eyes look less bright.

I've felt down and depressed since my birthday really. I don't have children, and I feel society is still very misogynistic and treats women as almost invisible when they are no longer young if they don't have the mother role.

I feel this will be the rest of my life now, invisible and declining everyday. Once my parents pass, no one alive will care about me anymore. I'm not very sociable and never have been, so on my birthday the only 'happy birthdays' I got were from close family members.

I don't know, maybe I'm just aware of my age and mortality more with this birthday. I was ok at 30 and 31 came and went. This just feels different for some reason.

Hells bells OP, don’t listen to people telling you to suck it up and get on with it or that 32 is so young, wait until you get to my age blah blah blah

There are so many reasons you could be feeling like this at 32, obvious ones have been touched on, diet, exercise, depression, hydration, but it could be you’re lacking something. Iron, ferritin, follate, B12, vitamin D, or your hormone levels, not everyone goes through menopause over 40 and perimenopause can make you feel awful, do you know what age other family members started? Do see your doctor and don’t waste years feeling unnecessarily rubbish like I have.

Aside from the feeling old, a good skin care regime makes the world of difference. I’ve always found light gel moisturisers perfect for my skin, anything heavier I’d look greasy, now 35 in full menopause I need a much heavier cream as well as a serum, an acid and eye serum, if I don’t keep on top of it my skin starts to look rough and grey, but overall it makes me glow and gives me confidence.

Also, stress can hugely contribute to feeling old, and grey hairs.

I’m 20 years older than you and actually do feel old and haggard, plus I have annoying health conditions now which affect loads of things / I was very healthy at 32.
Also I think I hung on to my youthful looks until mid40s ish so was lucky.
Maybe as you don’t have children it’s more about where you are in life than what you look like? You do have time to meet someone and have a family though if it’s what you want, 32 is no age really these days.

Holy hell… I am 43 with a fair few grey hairs and no children of my own (but a tween SS).

Other than needing to lose a few pounds over the next few months I am pretty happy to be older and not giving much of a f*ck about other people’s opinions any longer 😂 the older I get the more ai am not arsed. As long as myself, my husband and SS are doing good and our families are okay, life’s good.

I do have regular skin treatments though, Skin Pen and stuff (no Botox or filler though, just haven’t felt the need yet) and I have a good home skincare routine set by my dermatologist. Sun cream and drinking plenty of water is defo where it’s at to stop the wrinkles!!!!

So, no, TBH I don’t really get what you are feeling, but, as others have said, get your skin treated check your vitamin levels are right, move well, use sunscreen and drink water 😉👍🏼 and as for other peoples opinions, they don’t pay your bills!

I'm 39 . Wrecked all the time. 32 is so young. Of course it's all relative. When I was thirty I thought I was old. As women we have been conditioned to believe we are old at 30, when it's so young.

You don't see how young you are until you're not 32 anymore. You're young

Tbh I didn't feel old at 30. Hight of my life. I think lots of the "conditioning" comes from within issues.
36 still feel young.
But I am aware of rising life expectancy and 36 not being "middle age"
Tbf I did tell my mum off when I moaned abou few grey hair and she said it's normal at that age. Why does no one tell us🙄

@honeybunny8 your collagen productio. Sloes down from about 25. Eat collagen high foods, get supplement if needed. I have barely any wrinkles except vouple of smile ones.