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AIBU to have sat on her feet

232 replies

Toenailz · 11/09/2023 23:39

Tongue in cheek really, I feel perfectly reasonable. OH thinks I'm getting old, intolerant, and grumpy.

Got on the bus today with shopping bags in tow, they're heavy and I'm knackered (I have a disability that causes chronic exhaustion, but it's invisible). It's heaving busy in town/on bus, so I head to the back of the bus so we can fit some bags on our lap/feet out of people's way/the aisle.

One corner of the back seats is taken. The other corner has one, older teenage girl, taking up 4 seats with herself taking one seat, her handbag taking another, and her feet on the 2 seats in front of her, burying her head in her phone as if she can't see us. Didn't move her handbag or feet from the two seats, despite my obviously being right in front of her, so I just gave up and sat on her feet.

She removed them sharpish, probably because I'm quite fat.

Probably not helped by the inward trip earlier today, where having dodged one teenager's leg placed right into the aisle, I tripped over the next one's leg in aisle and went flying.

I couldn't be arsed asking her to move, because I was about 6 inches in front of her, my OH had sat in the seat next to her handbag, so there's no way she couldn't have known we were there (no headphones, either) so I thought, if you're going to pretend I'm not there, I'm going to pretend you're not. But ffs, I sat on a teenager. ON PURPOSE. Not a high point in my life.

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Fummymummy · 11/09/2023 23:42

OP this really made me chuckle! I think I would have asked her first, so possibly a little unreasonable. But also if the girl had definitely seen you, then totally reasonable! Did she say anything?

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Toenailz · 11/09/2023 23:47

@Fummymummy she said sorry and snatched her foot from under my arse!

I don't know why I didn't ask her to move her legs or bag! If it helps defend my decision making, there was 15 people in the aisle behind me also trying to find a seat, in total about 30-35 people got on at that stop, so I figured you'd know you can't take up 4 seats by yourself, unless you're an entitled so and so!

But yes, I'm old and grumpy now, aren't I?!

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JetBlackSteed · 11/09/2023 23:47

I would be interested to know who was sat in the other corner of the back seats that you chose to leave be and pick on the teenage girl?

HarrietJet · 11/09/2023 23:47

Not in the least, good on you 👍

Ellmau · 11/09/2023 23:48

They probably didn't have their feet on a seat?

WetBandits · 11/09/2023 23:49

JetBlackSteed · 11/09/2023 23:47

I would be interested to know who was sat in the other corner of the back seats that you chose to leave be and pick on the teenage girl?

Probably four other people?

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Toenailz · 11/09/2023 23:50

JetBlackSteed · 11/09/2023 23:47

I would be interested to know who was sat in the other corner of the back seats that you chose to leave be and pick on the teenage girl?

Several people, meaning there was no seats without an arse in it. We generally only go for seats that don't have an arse in it.

Feet however, are fair game.

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HarrietJet · 11/09/2023 23:53

JetBlackSteed · 11/09/2023 23:47

I would be interested to know who was sat in the other corner of the back seats that you chose to leave be and pick on the teenage girl?

Why would op have tried to sit in a seat someone else was sitting in?

She sat in a seat someone had their feet on.

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Toenailz · 11/09/2023 23:53

WetBandits · 11/09/2023 23:49

Probably four other people?

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Got it in one, thanks WetBandits.

I absolutely would have done it to anyone, regardless of gender or age, to be fair. We are not talking a 16 year old girl though, for the record, think more 18/19.

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ilovesooty · 11/09/2023 23:53

You should have just asked her to move. She was being rude hogging the space like that.

smilesup · 11/09/2023 23:54

I'm a mardy arse and would have done it and told her to move her bag. Rude entitled so and so.
I live with 3 teenagers and they can be the most self absorbed gits. They need a kick up the bum (or squashed feet) now and again.

Webmeister999 · 11/09/2023 23:57

I dont use public transport any more (mobility issues) but I have never been backward in moving people and their belongings out of the way. I will use my "teacher" voice to say something like "Move your bags please. Thank you" and then proceed to plonk myself and my pretty big arse where I want to plonk it. I have picked up peoples belongings when they were occupying a seat and placed them on the persons lap or the table on trains. No one has ever challenged me although I had had a bit of huffing and puffing.

yogasaurus · 11/09/2023 23:59

Well done, OP. Can’t stand awful teens like this.

Cushion1cover · 12/09/2023 00:00

Not all hero's wear capes OP.
👊

Imsureitsprobablymebut · 12/09/2023 00:01

Next time she’ll shift before her feet get plonked on.

Thank you for your public service 😂

SeulementUneFois · 12/09/2023 00:03

Well done OP! (sincerely)

Ghosttofu99 · 12/09/2023 00:03

Its rude that she had her feet on the seat but you will never know if she would have moved them and apologise if you had just said ‘hey can you move your feet.’ Was she 19 or 13? You can’t assume she was ignoring you just because she didn’t look at you. How do you know she doesn’t also have a hidden disability that makes it hard to quickly perceive disgruntled adults heading towards her. Doubt you would have done the same to an adult man. Best case scenario a rude person sat on another rude person except one was an adult and should have known better.

IReallyStillCantBeBothered · 12/09/2023 00:05

it was pretty clear from OPs first post that the seats were taken up by people not bags and feet.

Do you teach your kids to take up seats on public transport with their bags and feet?

ShellySarah · 12/09/2023 00:08

JetBlackSteed · 11/09/2023 23:47

I would be interested to know who was sat in the other corner of the back seats that you chose to leave be and pick on the teenage girl?

The poor teeange girl who has her dirty feet on seats?

Nicknameattemptno6 · 12/09/2023 00:21

Not an asking people to move one, but I laughed out loud at the two teenagers who missed their stop on the bus this morning when the bell didn't work. Served the little scrotes right for vaping on the bus.

HarrietJet · 12/09/2023 00:24

Ghosttofu99 · 12/09/2023 00:03

Its rude that she had her feet on the seat but you will never know if she would have moved them and apologise if you had just said ‘hey can you move your feet.’ Was she 19 or 13? You can’t assume she was ignoring you just because she didn’t look at you. How do you know she doesn’t also have a hidden disability that makes it hard to quickly perceive disgruntled adults heading towards her. Doubt you would have done the same to an adult man. Best case scenario a rude person sat on another rude person except one was an adult and should have known better.

Why would you assume a teenager with her feet on the seats has a disability that precludes her understanding that someone standing beside the seat she has her feet on would like to sit on it?
Someone that mentally impaired probably shouldn't be travelling without a carer.
Honestly...

ilovesooty · 12/09/2023 00:35

yogasaurus · 11/09/2023 23:59

Well done, OP. Can’t stand awful teens like this.

To be fair plenty of adults are similarly rude.

SingingSands · 12/09/2023 00:40

Well this made me chuckle.

People who spread themselves out on public transport like they're sprawling on their sofa at home are self-centred, ungracious twerps.

swimlyn · 12/09/2023 01:08

…so I thought, if you're going to pretend I'm not there, I'm going to pretend you're not. But ffs, I sat on a teenager. ON PURPOSE. Not a high point in my life…

Brilliant! 😃

Perfectly acceptable.

I was wondering how long it would be for the ‘hidden disability’ claim to be trotted out.

Not sure if I’ve ever related the story here, but I used to commute regularly by train, and my station to go home was 15mins or so out of Waterloo, so the train arrived about 80% full. It typically had a double seat and a triple seat across the carriage, so when you got on there’d be one person on the double and two on the triple. Strangely, none of these people could possibly conceive that you’d like to sit down too.

One day I’d had enough of these blinkered twats, and put my bag on the rack above a triple. The two men had left about a twelve-inch gap between them. They were NOT going to cooperate, so I just sat on them. Neither of them would budge an inch, so there’s this ridiculous scenario of me perched ON their legs.

A mile or so out of that station there was a junction for another line to head off somewhere, and when the trains hit the multiple sets of points there was a lot of rocking and clattering of the wheels. As the train rocked, gravity began to take effect. I slowly but surely sank down into position on the seat. Still they maintained their pressure towards each other. As always with commuters this all had to take place in complete silence. 😅

I huffed a little, wriggled a little and glanced both ways just to annoy them. Packed so tight, any movement affected them but they were determined not to give way. Silly sods.

Two or three stations later I’d gained enough space to relax a little. And snigger…

HarrietJet · 12/09/2023 01:10

🤣🤣🤣

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