To consider the sex industry so I can spend more time with my DC

[ofcourseivenced]

I'm currently employed doing shift work, 4 12 hour shifts a week. I always knew I didn't want to be working so much when I had DC so I set out on becoming self employed. Turns out it's significantly more challenging and time consuming than I anticipated, and so I'm still not making any money as of yet. When DC was a baby I felt I had more time to pursue said self employment, during naps, in the evenings, and it was easier to find childcare as DC didn't require much stimulation. Now DC is a full throttle, mummy obsessed toddler who needs outings, constant supervision and sleeps considerably less, I naturally have less time to do work. There's also the huge amounts of guilt I'm carrying by feeling like I'm absent so much, even though I keep trying to tell myself it'll pay off when I no longer have to do shift work and instead can work remotely for short periods of time.

I don't actually remember where I got the idea from for making content for niche fetishes, but from curious research it seems like there is money to be made if you're attractive in certain ways and you know how to market your stuff. An old girlfriend of a friend allegedly made a few grand a month, which even 2/3rds of would be enough for me to stay afloat.

AIBU to even consider getting involved in this? I would attempt to remain anonymous wherever possible as have no desire to do it other than for "easier" money (by easier I mean doesn't require 48+ hours a week commitment at set times). I just want to be able to spend more time with my DC while they're young.

It is. There is nothing dishonest about it.

No. The answer for women cannot be sex work

I’ve stacked shelves (as a single mum) and I’d much rather do that. I quite enjoyed it really as it’s stress free.

I read somewhere that average salary on only fans is $180. It takes a lot of work and have an USP to me meaningful amount of money

@CallumDansTransitVan

“But if a Woman has the confidence and self assurance to do sex work, it is up to her. And false claims by pearl clutchers come from a place of jealousy in my opinion.”

A woman doing sex work is the complete opposite of someone with confidence and self assurance!! It is someone who believes so very little in themselves that the only way out is sex work!

I know a mum on school run who no longer needs UC because she decided to try it out......she's never showed her vag or face either.....If I had her qualities I'd jump at it!!!!

I vote for going the tech route as suggested by a poster. That sounds like a very sound suggestion and would lead to a job you can be proud of. Any job where you’re scared your kids, friends, family find out is not a good life choice in my book.

Ah come on now.
Many parents have to retrain and requalify in order to work around children.
Would you feel this work aligns with your values?
Go and speak to a job coach or careers adviser.

I don’t think it’s as easy money as you might think it is.

Some people are super successful at it and some people are moderately success and can earn enough to supplement their life, like you want to.

I wouldn’t judge you and if it was the only option for me then I’d do it too (although absolutely no one would pay for that content lol)

the only way to know is to try it, if you’ll have to put an effort into getting it started in your free time. I wouldn’t give up job or anything until I knew if there was serious potential.

It’s an insanely over saturated market, unless you’ve got a huge social media following already you’ll really struggle to gain any traction, and your bits and bobs will be on the internet forever.

Can you prove that? There are an estimated well over 100,000 sex workers in the UK. The actual true number is likely to be higher still due to under-reporting.

Then add on the content creators like onlyfans and you have the equivalent numbers of a reasonable sized city involved in sex work.

Can you prove they all lack confidence or self belief?

https://www.charityjob.co.uk/jobs?keywords=Remote&UserHasGrantedBrowserGeoLocationPermission=No

I've filtered it to Remote jobs, hopefully you can find a remote admin type job or something you're qualified to do rather than what you're proposing l.

If it was safe, easy money, everyone would be doing it - but they're not.

The reality is though OP that many many women work 4.5 days a week or 5 days a week- those that are working 2 as an example usually have a partners income or have adjusted the finances so that they work less hours but can get some benefits- often they are not much worse off - have you actually investigated that angle first? Looked at the situation if you say worked 2 or 3 days? I am presuming you don't have a partner as you haven't mentioned one and can't think they would be ok with this either. Maybe have a look on entitled to and work it out based on 2 shifts and then look at doing some career minded courses with a bit of extra time. To be frank I would rather you looked at this than feeling you need to do sex work - none of it is fluffy fun- it is simply digital prostitution and can often take vast amounts of time for not much reward- those getting very good reward are rarely doing anything anonymous.

You will always get found out as this world is so interconnected. If you can live with the fact that your children may be known as their mother @ofcourseivenced is on onlyfans or prostituting herself then fine do it. I think this post is a wind up post because there are so many women who are desperate that don't resort to this and we have op coming along saying she wants to spend more time with her kids. Yeah bullshit op. Someone that loves her kids wouldn't even consider this as a option.

@CallumDansTransitVan 85% of female sex workers have PTSD. 85%! It's not about confidence, it's about what happens to you when a man throws you on the table -or bed or chair or wherever - and forcibly sodomises you, enjoying your screams. Read any punters forum and these tales come out over and over again. Read any set of accounts by prostituted women and it's the same thing, except they got mental damage as well as physical damage.

You sound like a sex buyer. Which bit am I meant to be jealous of? Is that your way of telling me you consider me and all the other women who aren't desperate enough to endure paid rape unfuckable? Jolly good!

I think it is an honest living. She wouldn't be selling her souls she'd be selling photos of her feet etc. hardly a crime or hurting anyone.

But op I think you need to do some real research into the hours you'd have to put in I think you'd need to be online almost constantly. On your phone sending flirty messages while at park with your child. Etc.

I wonder if getting nursery a couple of days a week and then really focus on business then might earn you more?

@CallumDansTransitVan are you perhaps involved in this market in any way?

Where have your figures come from? How many women working within the sex industry were asked? How many were escorts, street prostitutes, content creators?

You should also watch 'mood' on iPlayer first

Yep. Sex buyer.

I know someone who has an only fans account. It doesn't include her face and she rakes it in. One month she made £30k. It's never usually that much though, far from. I couldn't do it personally, but yeah, it works for some people.

Also, she posted a lot of 'feet' stuff. Weird 🤷🏻‍♀️

I wish some women stopped telling other women what and whatnot they have to do with their bodies, it’s like patriarchy all over again 😩

So rather than answer my question asking you to show proof of your claim, you move on to try and belittle me?

Whatever it is, it is honest. You advertise, they pay, you provide. That's as honest as it comes.