To have walked out the car dealership after this blatant rudeness, perhaps sexism?

[Sorentolove]

DH and I went to upgrade our shared family car (I drive it 80% of the time) at the local dealership.

The car was purchased 4 years ago at another (same brand) dealership and we're coming to the end of the Lease.

It was purchased under his name, this one will be purchased under my name.

The appointment was made in his name.

We arrived slightly ahead of time and we're greeted pleasantly, offered coffees and waited for the staff member. Another pleasant staff member passed by and had a brief chat with us both.

Our fellow came up to us at the wait area introduced himself to my DH, shook his hand, and started talking about the car we'd expressed an interest in.

Rather taken aback at being ignored, I stood up, offered my hand and introduced myself as Mrs SLove.

He shook my hand and guided us to his desk where we talked for a couple of minutes about the car, then he said he'd get the keys and then show us the vehicle.

DH and I looked at each other and we saw we were on the same page that this branch did not deserve our money and we decided to leave.

I caught the manager's eye on the way out and explained our disappointment.

He was furious and tried to convince us to stay, even stopping us as we were driving off the car park. We were resolute though, and they lost a sale.

Wwbu?

THIS

You go by your father’s name, right? Or did you make one up?

Why introduce yourself as Mrs anything? Why not give your first name? Surely nobody under the age of 70 insists on being called Mrs Lastname?
The whole thing sounds like an episode of Hyacinth Bucket.

Why introduce yourself as Mrs anything? Why not give your first name? Surely nobody under the age of 70 insists on being called Mrs Lastname?
The whole thing sounds like an episode of Hyacinth Bucket.

Introduce yourself as whatever you want. That's where we are in 2023.

It's totally irrelevant to this incident.

Don't let snarky Mumsnet types tell you off for it.

You didn’t answer the question.

Agreed. I’m “cringing” for any modern woman who thinks she’s a feminist while judging the way other women choose to operate on a daily basis.

Op is accusing the salesman of sexism, while sitting like Lady Muck when he approaches and eventually sharing the information that she is Mrs HusbandsLastname 😆
You gotta see the irony?
Even more so the Pom Pom wavers telling her You do whatever you want, girl!! while calling the salesman a sexist pig.
Hilarious!

Op is accusing the salesman of sexism, while sitting like Lady Muck when he approaches and eventually sharing the information that she is Mrs HusbandsLastname 😆
You gotta see the irony?
Even more so the Pom Pom wavers telling her You do whatever you want, girl!! while calling the salesman a sexist pig.
Hilarious!

Nah you got that wrong. But a cute story.

Op's accused the Salesman of rudness, and questioned the sexism factor .

Personally I totally agree with the rudeness and am on the fence about whether it's driven by sexism. Not enough to say that.

And in 2023 I don't give a shit about using my OH's last name. Like zero irony as a feminist.

But I love pom poms generally I'll give you that.
@Hellsbellsandspidersankles

I don't like rudeness and find it annoying if it someone is dismissive of me and speaks to my husband, however, I wouldn't have made such a huge deal over something so tiny. If you'd given him a chance your initial impression may have changed. You never know what's going on with someone behind closed doors either, so I'm always reluctant to make complaint to people's bosses so quickly. We all have off days. You could've gathered the information and left to discuss it and then gone with someone else I'd you really felt strongly that he didn't deserve your business. All seems a bit dramatic tbh.

I agree with you.

I agree. It’s the first rule of greeting someone for a meeting. You stand up to greet them, then you shake hands or bow or head incline while introductions are done..etc.

No, I don’t think I’ve got it wrong @sunglassesonthetable 😊
But thanks for the forensic examination of my post, I’d have felt quite left out had you passed it by!
You must spend your life on here

No worries . That's what MN is for

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Yes, yes, listen OP you are beyond redemption!

Not experiencing sexism is not dependent of whether you happen to use your married surname - how ridiculous! What kind of reductive feminism is this - you are an Ally or an Enemy.

What do you mean?

No, people are allowed to post whatever the hell they like without you getting in their faces @sunglassesonthetable
It’s not run for your sole benefit at at all.
<awaits the next outpouring of utter driv

What reply?

God alive. Is that called "getting in your face?"

Dear me. Chill out.

Every reply. You can’t let a post go by without leaping on it to give us the benefit of your not so superior wisdom.
Not just this thread.
It’s tedious. Very, very tedious.

Tedious of me to reply? Sorry.

@HarrietJet I removed what I wrote. No point in it. I reported the personal attacks.

I don’t agree with you at all re rudeness (very much of the opinion that, if anything, the OP was rude) but am absolutely with you re names. The sneering on that point has been quite unpleasant and anti-feminist.

The sneering is not about taking one’s husband’s name, FGS.

I have taken my husband’s name!

But to refer to herself as ‘Mrs Husband’s Surname’ when trying to teach a man about sexism is downright silly.

As the OP - who is understandably long gone from the thread - admits herself!?

And speaking as someone who has taken their husband’s surname - it is not a feminist choice.

Just because a women makes a choice, it doesn’t follow that it is a feminist choice or action.

You have to be absolutely deluded to think taking your husband’s name is a feminist choice.

Reposting this - once again - for everyone who seems to be ignoring it.

Meanwhile, we bicker on here, while the OP has got on with her life, presumably driving her nice, new car. 👍

Half the replies here are why certain people should not be client facing. It’s not sexism, it’s common decency. Who gives a crap if you are mr or Mrs what. Anyone who deals with the public should deal with the public and that is everyone who walks through their door not just who they cherry pick to have time for.