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Woken in hotel room

262 replies

Dyinforaliein · 09/09/2023 12:01

Recently I went to stay in a hotel with two friends. We went to a show and stayed together in the room. My friends shared the double and had the single.

I haven't had a lie in in so long. I was looking forward to letting my hair down and waking up naturally because I have been burnt out lately.

After the show we went out for drinks and were back pretty late, about 3 or 4. I could not believe my ears when I was woken up at 9am. She was sitting up in the bed talking to her husband on the phone. It wasn't even a whisper, just a low volume. My other friend started stirring too, and that was it. We were all up. We had looked forward to this Weekend for ages so I decided to let it go.

If it was me and I wanted to ring my husband to check on the kids (I wouldn't, I would just text), I would have gone into the hallway outside the hotel room. I just don't get why she couldn't have walked a few metres to avoid risking waking us up.She was just sitting there on the bed talking on the phone!

I was so looking forward to having a night out with a nice uninterrupted sleep the next day and I can't stop thinking about it!

Would this have annoyed you?

OP posts:
Bookish88 · 09/09/2023 12:03

If you didn't want to be disturbed I'd suggest booking your own room. No, in a shared room I wouldn't have been annoyed.

feathermucker · 09/09/2023 12:03

At 9am? No, it wouldn't.

Ivebeentogeorgia · 09/09/2023 12:03

It would annoy me at 7am but not 9am

Dolores87 · 09/09/2023 12:03

At 9am it wouldn't have annoyed me. That's relatively late to wake up.

Iam4eels · 09/09/2023 12:04

On a shared room I'd have had no expectation of a lie-in in the first place, this is why I book a room on my own when travelling with friends.

WimpoleHat · 09/09/2023 12:04

Mildly. But not enough to be thinking about it days after; why on earth didn’t you say “Oi - Susie - I’m asleep. Shut up!” at the time and have a snooze? It’s the perils of sharing a room, I’m afraid.

Nothingbuttheglory · 09/09/2023 12:04

It would've annoyed me - I am easily annoyed- but I wouldn't expect much sleep in a room with two other people.

catgirl1976 · 09/09/2023 12:05

How long exactly did they want them to lie in silence to facilitate a lie in that you wanted? Two hours? Three? 9am is a lie in. If you wanted a longer one as a PP said you should have booked your own room or at least mentioned to them you were wanting to sleep till 10am or whatever and asked what time they were planning on getting going.

Timmytap18 · 09/09/2023 12:05

If I was sharing a room with 2 other people then I don't think I'd expect a lie in really

ShowOfHands · 09/09/2023 12:05

I'd book my own room because I'm a late sleeper. I'm aware that 9am is the middle of the day for some people so best to just have your own space.

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Krustykrabpizza · 09/09/2023 12:06

Not if you've gone to bed at 4am

Krustykrabpizza · 09/09/2023 12:06

Whoops that was meant to quote the post about 9 being late to wake up

ilovesooty · 09/09/2023 12:06

Lesson learned. You can't impose your timetable in a shared room.

LittleMissUnreasonable · 09/09/2023 12:06

I have a friend like this who likes to get up at the crack of dawn and thinks everyone else should too. Lots of performance stomping around, hairdryers going, talking etc. If I'm in a hotel with a friend and wake up early, I just go on my phone. Not even talking 9am here, more like 7.30am. I think it's very rude so YANBU.
However YABVU for saying she has to go in th hall to make a phone call, and therefore waking other guests up. If I was on a nice hotel break I'd be very pissed off listening to someone having a loud phone conversation with their husband down th corridor.

Original poster
Dyinforaliein · 09/09/2023 12:08

Lesson learned indeed!
Happy to be told I'm being unreasonable!
Feel better actually knowing its my issue. No shared rooms in the future!

OP posts:
ThinWomansBrain · 09/09/2023 12:08

I can't imagine perceiving sharing a room with two people as an opportunity to a lie in.
Had the phone call been at 6am, maybe unreasonable - but 9am?
Maybe she thought it was time for a general hint as didn't want to waste the day in a cramped room with sleeping people?

LittleMissUnreasonable · 09/09/2023 12:09

Also on MN, 7am is a lie in and most people have done 3 loads of washing, and made a week's worth of meals for the slow cooker by then, so answers may be skewed

ShowOfHands · 09/09/2023 12:09

Krustykrabpizza · 09/09/2023 12:06

Not if you've gone to bed at 4am

It simply doesn't matter for some people. If the sun's up, my Mum's up. Doesn't matter when she went to bed. My brother and I like to go on holiday with her but learned the hard way that we get separate accommodation. The second it's morning in her mind, she starts flinging curtains open, cranking up the radio, bashing about in the kitchen.

We get separate cottages now.

ShowOfHands · 09/09/2023 12:11

And op, when wedded to an idea and looking forward to it, you absolutely MUST communicate it to any persons who could present an obstacle. Otherwise, they can and do inadvertantly disrupt these moments. You don't mention having asked them to let you sleep late or having clarified what late means to you. Lesson learned.

ActDottie · 09/09/2023 12:11

At 9am she wasnt being unreasonable. 6am you may have a point.

HappiestSleeping · 09/09/2023 12:12

Iam4eels · 09/09/2023 12:04

On a shared room I'd have had no expectation of a lie-in in the first place, this is why I book a room on my own when travelling with friends.

This 👆

I would have been in my own room.

Cosyblankets · 09/09/2023 12:13

Had to laugh at 9 not being considered a lie in!

FettleOfKish · 09/09/2023 12:14

I'd not in a million years expect a lie-in when sharing a room, especially not with two other people.

9am is a reasonable time to be awake too, you might have had a point if it was 6am.

Cosyblankets · 09/09/2023 12:16

Was no one having breakfast?