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Woken in hotel room

262 replies

Dyinforaliein · 09/09/2023 12:01

Recently I went to stay in a hotel with two friends. We went to a show and stayed together in the room. My friends shared the double and had the single.

I haven't had a lie in in so long. I was looking forward to letting my hair down and waking up naturally because I have been burnt out lately.

After the show we went out for drinks and were back pretty late, about 3 or 4. I could not believe my ears when I was woken up at 9am. She was sitting up in the bed talking to her husband on the phone. It wasn't even a whisper, just a low volume. My other friend started stirring too, and that was it. We were all up. We had looked forward to this Weekend for ages so I decided to let it go.

If it was me and I wanted to ring my husband to check on the kids (I wouldn't, I would just text), I would have gone into the hallway outside the hotel room. I just don't get why she couldn't have walked a few metres to avoid risking waking us up.She was just sitting there on the bed talking on the phone!

I was so looking forward to having a night out with a nice uninterrupted sleep the next day and I can't stop thinking about it!

Would this have annoyed you?

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edwinbear · 09/09/2023 12:17

I think you got lucky getting the single bed! I’m not surprised your friends were awake at 9am I don’t think I’d sleep well sharing a bed with a friend, regardless of how close we were.

TheBarbieEffect · 09/09/2023 12:20

YABU. It was 9am and you were in a shared room.

If you wanted long sleep then don’t go to bed so late.

IkeaMeatballGravy · 09/09/2023 12:22

You got a bed to yourself and a lie in until 9am. How much longer were you expecting your friends (who had to share a bed) to creep around you?

Hankunamatata · 09/09/2023 12:24

Yep I'd be cranky but isn't checkout usually 10am

PercyPigInAWig · 09/09/2023 12:24

9am is not a lie in in my opinion, especially on a weekend if you went to bed at 4am.

It's an issue that could have possibly been avoided by saying don't wake me before 10:30, or by getting your own room.
Your friend sounds a bit lacking in self-awareness but whatever she did was probably going to wake you unless she sneaked out quietly. She sounds teh type who would have woken you to let you know she was going out to make a phone call.

NashvilleQueen · 09/09/2023 12:27

If everyone had been out until 4am then I would expect a friend not to cause everyone to wake up by taking/making a call to her husband at 9am unless it was an emergency or you had agreed that you would go for breakfast etc around that time.

If it was me I would assume my getting up shouldn't impact others and I would leave to take the call.

Onelifeonly · 09/09/2023 12:28

I'm all for a lie in (though it usually starts after I have actually woken up and realised I don't need to get up, and that would rarely be as late as 9.00 am) but it wouldn't be something I'd expect or even feel comfortable with in a room with two friends. When with others, you need to go with the general consensus.

Though I do think having an actual conversation rather than messaging, knowing you were asleep, was somewhat inconsiderate. Had you all decided when you would get up?

TropicalTrama · 09/09/2023 12:29

9am is a reasonable time to wake up, it would be perfectly ok if she’d got up quietly to shower. But it’s normal and considerate to read the room and if you can see others are asleep then you don’t start a phone conversation. She sounds cluelessly self absorbed.

TrackerBar · 09/09/2023 12:35

At 9am I'd have already been at breakfast for two hours! The breakfast hotel buffet is the best bit about staying in a hotel. ☕

Thebigblueballoon · 09/09/2023 12:37

I bet she was still pissed after a 3/4am finish. Probably wasn’t thinking about the phone call or volume control.

LIZS · 09/09/2023 12:40

What time was check out? 9am is a lie in for many.

sammylady37 · 09/09/2023 12:42

If it was me and I wanted to ring my husband to check on the kids (I wouldn't, I would just text), I would have gone into the hallway outside the hotel room

And possibly woken other guests? Really?

Mercurial123 · 09/09/2023 12:44

YABU if it meant so much to you, you would have booked a separate room.

usernotfound0000 · 09/09/2023 12:46

9am isn't early! Even when I have the option of a lie in, 7.30 is about the latest my body lets me sleep until, I would hate to have to be silent for 90 minutes in a hotel room.

KrisAkabusi · 09/09/2023 12:48

Not at nine. That's time to get up to get a late breakfast before checking out anyway.

Spinet · 09/09/2023 12:49

I would be annoyed yes. This is why I always get my own room. That and the middle aged partnership of not wanting to feel self conscious about snoring and farting but having the money to solve it.

ZZGirl · 09/09/2023 12:59

9am is a great lie in and you'd have to check.out by 10 or 11 anyway?

Hooplahooping · 09/09/2023 12:59

This is why I book my own hotel room. Last time I went on a girls trip we stayed in different hotels (used different airmiles / credit card points so we had diff options) - it was HEAVEN. We met for brunch or mid morning activities. A++ would recommend.

Createanotherusername · 09/09/2023 13:01

Totally unrealistic of you to first expect a lie when away for the night and second, expect one when you’re sharing a room.

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Dyinforaliein · 09/09/2023 13:02

We were staying another night so there was no check out to think about. We opted out of breakfast and had snacks for the room instead. Croissants, bananas etc

Anyway, I take everyone's views on board.
I was BU

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twilightcafe · 09/09/2023 13:02

Yabu. You should have booked your own room to guarantee peace and quiet. I share a room with no one (except spouse and children)

wavws · 09/09/2023 13:05

I don’t understand why you’d go away with friends for 2 days and simultaneously expect a lie-in? The longer you lie-in, the less time you have to spend with friends especially in such a short time frame surely. If I was going away, I’d match up my sleeping schedule to the itinerary. If I wanted a lie-in, I’d purposely not book days away with friends and just stay home with no plans.

Caterpillarsleftfoot · 09/09/2023 13:08

9am is half the morning gone. I thought you were going to say you were gutted to be up at 7.

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Dyinforaliein · 09/09/2023 13:10

wavws · 09/09/2023 13:05

I don’t understand why you’d go away with friends for 2 days and simultaneously expect a lie-in? The longer you lie-in, the less time you have to spend with friends especially in such a short time frame surely. If I was going away, I’d match up my sleeping schedule to the itinerary. If I wanted a lie-in, I’d purposely not book days away with friends and just stay home with no plans.

I didn't want to lie in all day! To be fair I imagine I would have woken up naturally not long after: 9.30 seems to be my limit. My issue was someone in the room making a phonecall when she could see people were still asleep. I just felt so irritated when her voice woke me up.

I am normally up at 6.30/7 every morning so it seemed like a real luxury and everyone else was talking about how great it was going to be not having to get up.

Anyway, it was unrealistic of me to have expected more rest.

Lesson learned.

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ShowOfHands · 09/09/2023 13:11

Ah op, you're so gracious. I hope you get a bit of a lie in tomorrow.

Shall we meet back here in 6 days when the thread still hasn't died and people are talking about checking out, breakfast and 9am isn't a lie in?

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