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Woken in hotel room

262 replies

Dyinforaliein · 09/09/2023 12:01

Recently I went to stay in a hotel with two friends. We went to a show and stayed together in the room. My friends shared the double and had the single.

I haven't had a lie in in so long. I was looking forward to letting my hair down and waking up naturally because I have been burnt out lately.

After the show we went out for drinks and were back pretty late, about 3 or 4. I could not believe my ears when I was woken up at 9am. She was sitting up in the bed talking to her husband on the phone. It wasn't even a whisper, just a low volume. My other friend started stirring too, and that was it. We were all up. We had looked forward to this Weekend for ages so I decided to let it go.

If it was me and I wanted to ring my husband to check on the kids (I wouldn't, I would just text), I would have gone into the hallway outside the hotel room. I just don't get why she couldn't have walked a few metres to avoid risking waking us up.She was just sitting there on the bed talking on the phone!

I was so looking forward to having a night out with a nice uninterrupted sleep the next day and I can't stop thinking about it!

Would this have annoyed you?

OP posts:
pinotnow · 09/09/2023 13:16

Regardless of whether 9am is a lie in and whether you can expect a lie in in a shared room, I think the friend was really rude and inconsiderate to make a phone call when she could see people were asleep. I seem to be unable to sleep past about 8.30 no matter what time I go to sleep, but if I woke up and others were sleeping there's no way I'd make a phone call.

zingally · 09/09/2023 13:20

Chalk it up as lesson learned. You'll book an individual room in the future.

And the second lesson to learn, rolling in at 3-4am is NEVER going to be conducive to a long, luxurious sleep.

Lou670 · 09/09/2023 13:21

When were you planning on having breakfast? 9am and they would be getting towards end of service. Checkout is usually 10am, 11 at the latest. I would be up and about by that time despite going to sleep in the middle of the night.

TastingSinister · 09/09/2023 13:23

I would imagine that all the other people staying in the hotelhoping for a peaceful night were pretty pissed off at you all coming back at 3/4am.

I can always here adjacent doors opening/closing in hotels, and I expect at least one of you will have used the bathroom too.

If it was me and I wanted to ring my husband to check on the kids (I wouldn't, I would just text), I would have gone into the hallway outside the hotel room

Great, so that everyone else would have had to hear your call?

Or are we going to find out that you were the only guests/it was a one-room hotel?

KatherineJaneway · 09/09/2023 13:26

YABU. If you wanted a quiet lie in you should have A) discussed this with your roommate or B) booked your own room.

As you say OP lesson learned, which is a good thing.

Cheeseandlobster · 09/09/2023 13:28

Oh come on. The time is irrelevant. The fact that 2 other people were asleep makes her massively inconsiderate. Yanbu op

Puffwiththegreeneyes · 09/09/2023 13:28

Due to kids, I really struggle to sleep past 7am, regardless of my bedtime. So by 9am I'd have been awake and quiet for more than 2hours. And I would have been silent for that time. But 9am is a perfectly respectful time to get up in a shared room.

NashvilleQueen · 09/09/2023 13:32

9am is not a lie in if you didn't go to bed til 4! It's all relative.

On a trip away I would expect to be allowed more than 5 hours sleep. If someone wants less fine but they should do it elsewhere.

RichardMarxisinnocent · 09/09/2023 13:33

Lou670 · 09/09/2023 13:21

When were you planning on having breakfast? 9am and they would be getting towards end of service. Checkout is usually 10am, 11 at the latest. I would be up and about by that time despite going to sleep in the middle of the night.

They had croissants and bananas and were planning to have breakfast in the room. They are staying one more night so don't need to check out today.

Also, Premier Inn check out time is 12pm, so no it's not "11 at the latest".

RichardMarxisinnocent · 09/09/2023 13:36

Travelodge checkout time is also 12pm, so can people please stop declaring with certainty that checkout will be at 10 or 11. It entirely depends where the OP is staying. (not that it matters, as she doesn't have to check out today anyway)

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Chippy4me · 09/09/2023 13:37

YANBU

If I saw my 2 friends still asleep I would not sit there chatting on the phone, knowing it would wake them up.

I think she did it intentionally because she was awake and thought you 2 should be too.

LittleBrownJug · 09/09/2023 13:40

Dyinforaliein · 09/09/2023 13:02

We were staying another night so there was no check out to think about. We opted out of breakfast and had snacks for the room instead. Croissants, bananas etc

Anyway, I take everyone's views on board.
I was BU

I don’t think you were being unreasonable! If you only went to bed at 4am then 5 hours of sleep is not enough. It makes me ill just thinking of it … I would have said something to her at the time though - keep it down I’m still sleeping. But then again I have Tourette’s when I’m woken up.

My sleep is very precious and fragile so no way would I share a room in the first place though

Chippy4me · 09/09/2023 13:40

ZZGirl · 09/09/2023 12:59

9am is a great lie in and you'd have to check.out by 10 or 11 anyway?

4 or 5 hours sleep is not a lie in.
The time is irrelevant.

ASGIRC · 09/09/2023 13:43

@Dyinforaliein I share hotel rooms often. And I do expect a lie in, and to not be woken up by someone on the phone at 9am!

A lot of times I dont go to bed until 6 or 7am, and if my room mate has to be up by 9, I expect them to be as quiet as possible getting ready, just like I was going to bed when they were asleep!

And sometimes Ive shared rooms with 4 other people (5 people in the room).
And it works out well!

Obviously, in MN, if youre still asleep at 9am youre a slacker... But for me anything before 10 am I have to set up an alarm for. Lie in is 12!

ASGIRC · 09/09/2023 13:45

RichardMarxisinnocent · 09/09/2023 13:36

Travelodge checkout time is also 12pm, so can people please stop declaring with certainty that checkout will be at 10 or 11. It entirely depends where the OP is staying. (not that it matters, as she doesn't have to check out today anyway)

Also, if you spend enough time in hotels, you know that you have at least an extra 30 minutes to an hour before you have to REALLY be out!

UnctuousUnicorns · 09/09/2023 13:45

Now, this is why I never share a bedroom with anyone other than my husband. In this instance, I'd have a room to myself, paid for by me, and leave the others to it. By all means chat until whenever, then retire to my own, private bedroom.

ASGIRC · 09/09/2023 13:46

Lou670 · 09/09/2023 13:21

When were you planning on having breakfast? 9am and they would be getting towards end of service. Checkout is usually 10am, 11 at the latest. I would be up and about by that time despite going to sleep in the middle of the night.

Most hotels serve breakfast until 11/11.30 on a weekend. And checkout is not 11 at the latest either.

ASGIRC · 09/09/2023 13:47

Puffwiththegreeneyes · 09/09/2023 13:28

Due to kids, I really struggle to sleep past 7am, regardless of my bedtime. So by 9am I'd have been awake and quiet for more than 2hours. And I would have been silent for that time. But 9am is a perfectly respectful time to get up in a shared room.

I agree... but not to talk on the phone! By all means, get up, shower, get ready for the day, quietly. But dont make a phone call when other people are sleeping!

rosesinmygarden · 09/09/2023 13:48

She was incredibly rude and inconsiderate to wake you.

When sharing a room with other people, you don't wake them after just 5 hours sleep! That's just unkind and selfish.

At least you know for next time to get your own room.

My idea of heaven is a few nights in a hotel, alone. I've not slept properly since becoming pregnant with my first ds, 19 years ago. So, it's possible I'm a little opinionated about people needing sleep 😆😆😆😆

Legale · 09/09/2023 13:50

9am is not a lie in when you got in at 4am.

Very surprised at all the MNers who would seemingly happily get out of bed at 9am after a night of drinking and not getting back until 4am! If I'm away, especially without kids, no, I don't expect to have to get up at 9am.

RichardMarxisinnocent · 09/09/2023 13:52

NashvilleQueen · 09/09/2023 13:32

9am is not a lie in if you didn't go to bed til 4! It's all relative.

On a trip away I would expect to be allowed more than 5 hours sleep. If someone wants less fine but they should do it elsewhere.

I was just going to post this, whether or not it's a lie in entirely depends on what time you went to bed. I don't know it other posters haven't noticed the bedtime, or if they genuinely think only having had 5 hours in bed doesn't matter, it's the time you get up that makes it a lie in or not.

Ascendant15 · 09/09/2023 13:52

If I wanted a sleep in I wouldn't share a room with others.

Chippy4me · 09/09/2023 13:53

ASGIRC · 09/09/2023 13:47

I agree... but not to talk on the phone! By all means, get up, shower, get ready for the day, quietly. But dont make a phone call when other people are sleeping!

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I agree.

If your 2 friends are sleeping you don’t talk on the phone right next to then.

She did it intentionally to wake them up.

WhoPutCrabsticksInMyBedroom · 09/09/2023 13:58

OP, stop being so bloody reasonable. This is AIBU, you are meant to stick to your views and then strop and flounce when people don't agree with you.