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Woken in hotel room

262 replies

Dyinforaliein · 09/09/2023 12:01

Recently I went to stay in a hotel with two friends. We went to a show and stayed together in the room. My friends shared the double and had the single.

I haven't had a lie in in so long. I was looking forward to letting my hair down and waking up naturally because I have been burnt out lately.

After the show we went out for drinks and were back pretty late, about 3 or 4. I could not believe my ears when I was woken up at 9am. She was sitting up in the bed talking to her husband on the phone. It wasn't even a whisper, just a low volume. My other friend started stirring too, and that was it. We were all up. We had looked forward to this Weekend for ages so I decided to let it go.

If it was me and I wanted to ring my husband to check on the kids (I wouldn't, I would just text), I would have gone into the hallway outside the hotel room. I just don't get why she couldn't have walked a few metres to avoid risking waking us up.She was just sitting there on the bed talking on the phone!

I was so looking forward to having a night out with a nice uninterrupted sleep the next day and I can't stop thinking about it!

Would this have annoyed you?

OP posts:
JaneJeffer · 09/09/2023 13:58

YABU not to partake of the hotel breakfast and eat everything in sight

LaMarschallin · 09/09/2023 13:59

@ShowOfHands

And op, when wedded to an idea and looking forward to it, you absolutely MUST communicate it to any persons who could present an obstacle.

This is a really good point. Also agree with:

Shall we meet back here in 6 days when the thread still hasn't died and people are talking about checking out, breakfast and 9am isn't a lie in?

The discussion about checkout time is already ongoing, despite OP saying they were staying another night.

I really can't sleep well if I share a room with anyone other than DH or adult DDs.
On trips like this I've always had my own room, although I know my friends have thought I was being a bit precious.

Sparta18611 · 09/09/2023 14:00

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PatsWoggle · 09/09/2023 14:01

I'd be pissed off. I can't believe others wouldn't.
I don't expect to sleep in silence in a shared room but to start talking on the phone when both other people are asleep after a late night is antisocial.

Original poster
Dyinforaliein · 09/09/2023 14:02

WhoPutCrabsticksInMyBedroom · 09/09/2023 13:58

OP, stop being so bloody reasonable. This is AIBU, you are meant to stick to your views and then strop and flounce when people don't agree with you.

And you're not supposed to read the full thread and updates from the OP!

OP posts:
AppleKatie · 09/09/2023 14:02

Ha! How dare you come back at 3 in the morning and expect to use the loo in the room you’re paying for how inconsiderate of you! And then to have the temerity to object to your friend waking you up even though you’d only had 5 hours sleep and had agreed a lie in and you had no pressing engagements. How very dare you?
don’t you know that if you don’t spring out of bed at 7am every day you are basically worthless as a human being?

😂😂😂 AIBU is a parody of itself today.

Id have been mildly annoyed too OP. Although I also would have booked my own room but a)that’s not an option for everyone and b) I’m at antisocial bugger.

LovesJaffaCakes · 09/09/2023 14:03

It's hard to believe that adult women (woman) would ask this.

The point is you made a mistake.

Yes, your friends were inconsiderate but you can't guarantee 2 other people waking up at the same time as you, or being quiet, unless you stipulate that the night before.

LaMarschallin · 09/09/2023 14:05

WhoPutCrabsticksInMyBedroom · 09/09/2023 13:58

OP, stop being so bloody reasonable. This is AIBU, you are meant to stick to your views and then strop and flounce when people don't agree with you.

It's really not playing fair, is it?
The OP being all pleasant and taking comments on board.
There should be a good drip feed about how the friend was actually having phone sex with her husband.
And that was because having a (loud) orgasm was the only way of cooling down from the live-streamed Zumba session that said friend had been doing since 7:30.

DinosApple · 09/09/2023 14:07

I'm with you OP, yanbu.

I'm an early riser - particularly if I've had a drink unfortunately. But I'd wouldn't make a phone call if one of my friends was still asleep in the same room - not at any time of the day. I'd probably read or leave the room to make a call.
It's just part of being considerate when sharing a room.

Hellodarknessmyoldpal · 09/09/2023 14:21

I actually think it's a bit inconsiderate to make a phone call next to 2 people who are sleeping and wake them up. I would have either left the room or waited until you'd woken. I think I'm in the minority but yanbu to feel a bit annoyed but don't let it ruin your weekend 🙂

blisstwins · 09/09/2023 14:27

catgirl1976 · 09/09/2023 12:05

How long exactly did they want them to lie in silence to facilitate a lie in that you wanted? Two hours? Three? 9am is a lie in. If you wanted a longer one as a PP said you should have booked your own room or at least mentioned to them you were wanting to sleep till 10am or whatever and asked what time they were planning on getting going.

Edited

This. I would let it go. 9 am is not unreasonable.

diddl · 09/09/2023 14:29

I agree that it's more the phone call in a shared room.

I get a separate room as I'm a terrible sleeper & would probably disturb others.

FettleOfKish · 09/09/2023 14:32

Did she make the phone call or answer the phone call? (bearing in mind with smartwatches and whatnot you wouldn't necessarily have heard it ring)

If her DH called and she thought it might be something important about the kids or family I can see why quickly answering it would seem far less disruptive to the people sleeping than getting up, getting herself decent and then opening and closing the door.

ittakes2 · 09/09/2023 14:33

What time was the room checkout? They are often 10am.

User63847439572 · 09/09/2023 14:34

9am is a lie in surely 😆

AIstolemylunch · 09/09/2023 14:36

9 am in a shared room? You were deluded expecting a lie in.

Isitautumnyet23 · 09/09/2023 14:37

9am is late for me (always up at 6am most days). I would want a lie in on a weekend away, but not past 9am as I would want to enjoy the day with my friends, go for a nice breakfast etc. Perhaps she has a different idea of what is considered a lie in, but i’d says unless you’re 18, most people would consider 9am a long lie in.

Gjendefloooo · 09/09/2023 14:46

I don't think you can realistically expect a lie in when you are sharing with others. 9 am isn't too early after all.
But I do think that she was a bit rude to start chatting on the phone when she could see that others were still asleep.

WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps · 09/09/2023 14:50

I am on the fence, I think it's rude to wake someone at 9am, when you all didn't go to bed til 3am! But, as a few posters have said, you really should have got your own room if you wanted privacy/a good sleep/a lie in.

People saying 9am is an OK time to be woken are speaking nonsense, because there IS no ideal time, as it depends what time you went to bed, and if you're on shift work.

A neighbour of ours thought it OK to put OUR house as a delivery address for something that needed signing for. (Didn't even ask first! Just told me afterwards.) At 10am one day, I was putting the washing out, and she shouted across, and said 'I have put your address for the courier to drop my item off tomorrow, as I am not going to be in most of the day! It's due between 11am and 1pm.'

I said 'Oh dear, you will have to re-route it, as I won't be in ... I am out all afternoon from half ten in the morning. And my husband is on nights so he will be asleep...' (He comes in at 7.30am -ish, goes to bed at 8.15am or so, and sleeps til around 3.30pm til 4pm ...) She said 'aaaw, I am sure he'll be up when they come. Also they always knock the door hard so he should hear them ...' Confused

Silly bint. No empathy or understanding whatsoever for someone working a night shift, and expected him to be up at fucking 11am. And if he WASN'T up, she thought it was OK for him to be woken to take in HER package!

I put a sign on my door saying 'DO NOT KNOCK THIS DOOR!!! NIGHT SHIFT WORKER ASLEEP!!!' Don't know if he did knock or not, but DH said he didn't hear anything, and he slept soundly til 3.45pm when he woke up. So I don't know if or when she got her package, and I don't fucking care!

MumblesParty · 09/09/2023 14:54

I think it’s extremely selfish to have an audible conversation when there are 2 people asleep in the room.

Chippy4me · 09/09/2023 14:55

I don’t think posters are actually reading the OP.

9am is not a lie in when you’ve only had 4 hours sleep.

And if 2 people are asleep then it is of course rude to speak on the phone and wake them.

She could have taken her phone call anywhere else but sitting on a bed that her friend is sleeping in and next to her other sleeping friend is very inconsiderate and passive aggressive.

Notonthestairs · 09/09/2023 14:57

5 hours sleep doesn't constitute a lie in.

Waking 2 people isn't considerate.

Dguu6u · 09/09/2023 14:57

YANBU, everyone shared a room so should have been more considerate to others still asleep. I would have had a conversation the day before though just to see what time people usually wake up.

BaroldandNedmund · 09/09/2023 15:10

I can’t imagine waking up and thinking “Oh look, my two friends are still asleep, this is a great time to have a phone conversation”!

That said, I’d never share a room even with one person.

Ginmonkeyagain · 09/09/2023 15:17

I'm a light sleeper and struggle to sleep properly in hotel rooms. So times when I have shared with friends I wake up early and quietly take myself off for a walk/another go in the Spa/breakfast etc..

Mr Monkey sleeps like the dead so I can clatter around as noisily as I like with him.