Woken in hotel room

[Dyinforaliein]

Recently I went to stay in a hotel with two friends. We went to a show and stayed together in the room. My friends shared the double and had the single.

I haven't had a lie in in so long. I was looking forward to letting my hair down and waking up naturally because I have been burnt out lately.

After the show we went out for drinks and were back pretty late, about 3 or 4. I could not believe my ears when I was woken up at 9am. She was sitting up in the bed talking to her husband on the phone. It wasn't even a whisper, just a low volume. My other friend started stirring too, and that was it. We were all up. We had looked forward to this Weekend for ages so I decided to let it go.

If it was me and I wanted to ring my husband to check on the kids (I wouldn't, I would just text), I would have gone into the hallway outside the hotel room. I just don't get why she couldn't have walked a few metres to avoid risking waking us up.She was just sitting there on the bed talking on the phone!

I was so looking forward to having a night out with a nice uninterrupted sleep the next day and I can't stop thinking about it!

Would this have annoyed you?

For me, yes!

Lie in and shared room usually are mutually exclusive. If you want to rest etc get your own room next time

I don't consider 9 a.m. to be a lie-in if and when you've ve been on the town untill 4 a.m. 🤣🤣🤣

Ditto. I’d be waking up about midday 🤣

Not in my world. Have shared rooms and quietly moved around when others are sleeping on. I have taken coffee and toast back to a friend who slept through breakfast and the waitress didn't seem phased as if it happens a lot - this was on a weekend though. Friends are usually considerate

Genuinely thought this was a joke.

Life did go on until 4 am and yes you can expect friends or anyone to not be noisy in the same room as others who are still asleep whatever the time - it's called being considerate

@Onionsandplaydoh

5 hours of sleep is a nice long lie in?

For me, yes!

That's not healthy

https://metro.co.uk/2023/03/14/this-is-what-happens-if-you-get-less-than-six-hours-of-sleep-a-night-18438228/

You are definitely not BU. It doesn't matter what time it is, if you are still sleeping, then it's courtesy for your roommates to shut the hell up! I'd also be gutted 😭

It's not - and it's bloody miserable. However, I care full time for my two elderly parents who now live with us. Both are in ill health (one with terminal cancer. They go to bed around 11pm so by the time I get to bed it's close to midnight, and I'm rubbish at getting straight to sleep, which isn't fun when you're up again at 5am for work!

It would annoy me at any time of the day as it's inconsiderate if someone is sleeping!

I agree. And it’s not ‘to be expected if you share’, it’s about being considerate to others.

Maybe I’m lucky but I’ve always shared rooms with friends who respect each others sleep patterns.

So you agree that less than 5hrs sleep is miserable yet think the OP is unreasonable to be annoyed at having been woken after that amount of time?

She went to bed at 4am and was woken at 9am, that no different to your 12am - 5am sleep so she did not have a lie in!

If you went to a hotel - and had no caring responsibilities or work the following day - for one night, would you not be expecting to be allowed to sleep as long as you needed and wake up naturally or would you be quite happy for someone to deliberately wake you 5hrs after you fall asleep because you'd had enough of a lie in due to it being an arbitrary time of the day?

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I am annoyed when anyone wakes me up!

You live a very charmed life when this is your only complaint in life .

Get over it.

That applies to most of aibu posts surely, aren't people allowed to air their grievances?

Glad you have accepted you’re unreasonable, I also agree you are. When you share with friends you need to accept others may wake up before you , you aren’t top dog whose needs trump everyone else’s. Someone may need the loo, want to get up. Whatever.

As others said, if your lie in is so utterly important to you you will get pissed off, obsess and start threads about your friend, then book your own room and take some earplugs.

I think a conversation in advance, about what time everyone expected to be up would have been sensible. 9am is early to some, but super late for others (that's me, I'm the one up at 6am whatever, no matter how hard I try to lie in!). If you're expectations are out of line, it's probably sensible to book separate rooms. I always do, because I was to watch TV etc when I wake up without disturbing anyone else.

Ok but isn't it just common courtesy to not talk on the phone when people are trying to sleep in the same room as you?

To the poster who accused me of obsessing over this...I'm not sure if you know what 'obsess' means.

To the posters who are telling me that they have half a day's work over them by 9am, I usually do too! I'm actually up before 6 most days with my kids before I start work at 7.45. It's Saturday morning and I'm already up...check the time on this post!

Anyway, my friend had clearly had enough sleep so assumed the rest of us had too. I wouldn't have stayed out as late had I known i would be able to sleep more the next day.

I just think I'll be in bed by a reasonable time next time we go away. No good can come of a 4 am bedtime and this just proves it!

Your post is redundant.

You acknowledge that I admit I was unreasonable, and yet you have still regurgitated what other posters have said. Why bother? It's not like you haven't read the full thread.

I had a friend who set an alarm fir 5am!!! And snoozed it 3 times!!! Apparently she likes the alarm to go off then she goes back yo sleep. I was fuming as I have my own 5am alarm and I'd let him at home and was so excited for a lay in. Made me realise I'm too old to share with friends.

If you had gone to bed at midnight I'd say you were unreasonable but early hour yes she was inconsiderate

OP, mn is absolutely bat shit. Of COURSE you're not UR!! 5 hours is not enough sleep, let alone anywhere close to a lie-in! And, anyway, taking a phone call when two people are asleep in the room with you is incredibly selfish (unless it was some kind of emergency situation which couldn't wait and in that case I'm sure you'd have said). Definitely get your own room next time so you can properly relax but you're not the unreasonable one!!!

100% - talking on the phone next to someone who is asleep is increasingly selfish, time is irrelevant.

OP you are totally NBU - I’ve shared with friends many times and we are very considerate of each others sleep patterns. Of course we go up the loo quietly as possible and the early risers manage to slope out gif breakfast without having a full conversation in someone’s ear.

But then on MN anyone who’s in bed after 7am is a lazy sloth who must have MH issues .
Last year we did a weekender, went to bed at 6am and slept til midday - keep on having those nights OP but share with considerate friends.