Page 9 | Husband's Colleague- Leg Pic.

PeaceGoodMercutio · 2023-09-04T07:51:46+00:00

DH 38 was sent a holiday picture of very posed "sausage leg" type picture from female work colleague (late 50s). Right up to the bikini line. His response was "A bit jealous, but wait til I get to my room". I think this reads a certain way. What do you think? For context, we were on holiday too in a very nice hotel that he had been bragging about to her in previous messages. He says he was just going to show her pics of our room. He never did. Messages stop there. My mum says it isn't suspicious and believes him as apparently pictures like this are common amongst her 50 year old friends. My friend says it is suspicious as feck. Aibu: Yes- innocent messages. No--suspicious messages.

Taketurn · 04/09/2023 12:19

A married man shouldn't be having that kind of exchange with other women. It's so inappropriate and disrespectful!

Chippy4me · 04/09/2023 12:21

I honestly think she wanted her marriage to end and used this as a good opportunity.

No one would act so over the top like this over something that could very easily be innocent, without getting the facts first.

Or some people are still on their summer holidays and it’s all BS

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PeaceGoodMercutio · 04/09/2023 12:21

He's come home, that's why I am quiet.

To me, it looks like messages have been deleted because the conversation jumps, if you know what I mean.

I messaged the partner on messenger, as I have her on Facebook. So he was tagged.
I messaged because she has been raining me all morning. She was at work with my husband this morning and my husband has given her my number to try to convince me there's nothing in it.
I am unconvinced.
There was also viagra hidden behind his car seat in the pocket.
Now it makes more sense.
He talks about her a lot.

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Goldbar31 · 04/09/2023 12:22

That is really, really inappropriate.

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PeaceGoodMercutio · 04/09/2023 12:23

He also has form for lying.
Usually about money.

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Janieforever · 04/09/2023 12:24

The drama..

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PeaceGoodMercutio · 04/09/2023 12:26

The picture is like the hot dog pics, but one leg leaning to the side to cock her hip up more. You can see the start of her bikini bottoms.
There is no view to speak of.
He did go up to our room alone after the photo being sent (time wise). He was very angry and spilling champagne and needed to change his top. I was downstairs with my family.

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Inkpotlover · 04/09/2023 12:27

Yikes, don't you think you've pressed the destruct button a bit prematurely, OP? I'm all for calling out shitty partners but her picture and his reply isn't evidence of wrongdoing – I also read it as them boasting about their holidays and him intending to text a pic of your room as a brag. Calling her partner feels really extreme and you could've put your DH's job at risk. Can you manage financially if he loses it?!

Sparkletastic · 04/09/2023 12:29

Good for you OP. Deeply dodgy on both sides.

CatMattress · 04/09/2023 12:29

Sounds to me like all was not rosy prior to this. How do you feel about the relationship potentially coming to an end? (yours, not 'theirs')

Dramatico · 04/09/2023 12:30

Good for you and I'm so sorry this is happening to you

ToughFuss · 04/09/2023 12:31

I personally think that the context of sending the photo direct to your husband is key here. Like I may post a photo to my Facebook or Instagram of myself in a bikini on a beach, say, (or a glam selfie, or anything like that really!) but choosing to send a photo of myself in a bikini directly to a male colleague would be, imo, inappropriate.

Anyway, this colleague ringing you incessantly to proclaim your husbands innocence just makes it look worse imo. It’s all very dodgy.

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PeaceGoodMercutio · 04/09/2023 12:31

I've been through much worse and been okay, I'd rather not be with someone who disrespects me.
It isn't negotiable.

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PuddlesPityParty · 04/09/2023 12:32

ToughFuss · 04/09/2023 12:31

I personally think that the context of sending the photo direct to your husband is key here. Like I may post a photo to my Facebook or Instagram of myself in a bikini on a beach, say, (or a glam selfie, or anything like that really!) but choosing to send a photo of myself in a bikini directly to a male colleague would be, imo, inappropriate.

Anyway, this colleague ringing you incessantly to proclaim your husbands innocence just makes it look worse imo. It’s all very dodgy.

I’d say the ringing is coz she’s messaged her husband

Inkpotlover · 04/09/2023 12:32

PeaceGoodMercutio · 04/09/2023 12:31

I've been through much worse and been okay, I'd rather not be with someone who disrespects me.
It isn't negotiable.

What about your DC?

sweeneytoddsrazor · 04/09/2023 12:33

Oh come on nobody remembers the exact timings like that. Wasn't sure to start off with but now 🙄🤔He spilled champagne just after he got the message . This is totally made up BS

Cakeandcardio · 04/09/2023 12:33

GoodVibesHere · 04/09/2023 09:18

He was telling her that he was going to wank in his room bcos she's so gorgeous/turns him on. Ewww what a disloyal creep.

100% this

ToughFuss · 04/09/2023 12:34

Oh, perhaps I read it wrong. I read it that OPs husband went to work and got the colleague to ring op to say how it was all very innocent and above board and op was annoyed by the ringing so messaged the woman’s partner. I may well have misunderstood, apologies if so!

Inkpotlover · 04/09/2023 12:35

sweeneytoddsrazor · 04/09/2023 12:33

Oh come on nobody remembers the exact timings like that. Wasn't sure to start off with but now 🙄🤔He spilled champagne just after he got the message . This is totally made up BS

That and the sudden mention of finding Viagra in his car. 😐

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PeaceGoodMercutio · 04/09/2023 12:36

ToughFuss · 04/09/2023 12:34

Oh, perhaps I read it wrong. I read it that OPs husband went to work and got the colleague to ring op to say how it was all very innocent and above board and op was annoyed by the ringing so messaged the woman’s partner. I may well have misunderstood, apologies if so!

No, you are right. I didn't speak to her. I didn't bring her into it. I wasn't replying to him so he got her to phone me.

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AmazingSnakeHead · 04/09/2023 12:36

I don't find it unbelievable that the OP would remember the timing. If they're at dinner with her family she'd roughly be able to work out when she had dinner a few days ago, and the message is time stamped.

Am I right in thinking that this all happened days ago, but you've only today seen the message?

Sueveneers · 04/09/2023 12:36

ToughFuss · 04/09/2023 12:34

Oh, perhaps I read it wrong. I read it that OPs husband went to work and got the colleague to ring op to say how it was all very innocent and above board and op was annoyed by the ringing so messaged the woman’s partner. I may well have misunderstood, apologies if so!

You got it right originally. The OP said she messaged the partner after the OW wouldn't leave her alone.

Janieforever · 04/09/2023 12:38

PeaceGoodMercutio · 04/09/2023 12:26

The picture is like the hot dog pics, but one leg leaning to the side to cock her hip up more. You can see the start of her bikini bottoms.
There is no view to speak of.
He did go up to our room alone after the photo being sent (time wise). He was very angry and spilling champagne and needed to change his top. I was downstairs with my family.

Oh no, he spilled his champagne!

DameCurlyBassey · 04/09/2023 12:39

with is sausage leg?

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PeaceGoodMercutio · 04/09/2023 12:40

I saw the messages a few days ago.
We have been arguing over it this weekend.
I'm torn because my mum says one thing and my friends say another.
I'm very much considering leaving.
He went to work this morning, where he is and she is.
I ignore him and then she starts phoning and texting me.

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