Husband's Colleague- Leg Pic.

[PeaceGoodMercutio]

DH 38 was sent a holiday picture of very posed "sausage leg" type picture from female work colleague (late 50s). Right up to the bikini line. His response was "A bit jealous, but wait til I get to my room".
I think this reads a certain way.
What do you think?
For context, we were on holiday too in a very nice hotel that he had been bragging about to her in previous messages. He says he was just going to show her pics of our room.
He never did. Messages stop there.
My mum says it isn't suspicious and believes him as apparently pictures like this are common amongst her 50 year old friends.
My friend says it is suspicious as feck.

Aibu:
Yes- innocent messages.
No--suspicious messages.

Surely you’d say ‘wait till you see my room’, wait till I ‘get to my room’ sounds really odd in this context.

also why is she sending that in the first place? Why would it make him jealous when he’s on his own holiday with his own pool? It’s not like he’s sat at work on a rainy Tuesday.

I have good male friends at work who I might text out of work but I would never send them a pic of my legs- I’d just send a pic of the pool.

I'd rather take a shit in my hands and clap than send a pic of my legs, including bikini line, to my male boss. It's inappropriate and it's not banter.

So the first communication between you and them was her calling and texting you? What triggered her to contact you and what did her text messages say?

Wow. I am in awe of your fierceness!!! I am delighted you have said you won't protect him, I hope her husband DOES report him, the company can investigate and decide if it's inappropriate... It's CERTAINLY inappropriate in a personal sense and I can't see how the company could possibly find otherwise, especially with the superiority of his position compared to hers. I am dyingggg for an update!!! But again, well done you!!

Sending your boss a sausage leg picture including your bikini line is what’’s unhinged.

I don't think the rest of the pool are getting a close up view, unless she is inviting them to rest their head on her stomach and stare at her crotch and thighs.

The issue is…something can be inappropriate but innocent.

I don’t think is appropriate to have a friendly relationship with your boss in any way whatsoever. You should only ever contact your boss about work stuff during work hours.

Contact like this can be inappropriate but it absolutely doesn’t indicate an affair or anything of the sort.

“Nipping it in the bud” is not at all what the OP has done. That would have been, “Hmm I don’t think it’s appropriate to have that kind of conversation with an employee, even if she’s just innocently bragging about her holiday. It’s best to keep a boundary there.”

Her husbands response to me sounds like he’s trying to palm her off, reply politely but otherwise not get dragged into a personal conversation with an employee. It takes a lot, lot more evidence than this to jump to the worst case scenario interpretation, especially if you are contacting someone’s partner.

Wait till I get to my room- could mean, wait till I get to my room so I can take a picture of it. I don't think it sounds that odd in this context.

I wouldn't be happy if I were the OP, either. But I don't necessarily think he was talking about wanting to masturbate to her picture.

@PeaceGoodMercutio
Kudos to you op.
You were straight in for the kill there 😂
I'm with you, totally inappropriate to send sausage legs inc crutch and your DH response was probably that he was going to return the compliment in the privacy of the hotel room and send a photo but not of the room!

https://www.google.com/search?client=ms-android-samsung-rvo1&sca_esv=562495075&q=hot+dog+legs&tbm=isch&source=lnms&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwj4ipLj3pCBAxXJTsAKHeopClgQ0pQJegQIBxAB&biw=412&bih=749&dpr=2.63

Oh no, I can see some biking

Better report all these women for their horrible lewdness and inappropriate behaviour

Either OP is deciding not to tell us about more evidence she found or she likes causing drama. Hot dog legs are not sexual.

You do know what a “hotdog legs” photo is right? She’s not sent a spread legs crotch photo. You think the screen is just full of crotch??

Some of the replies on about the "crotch area" are certainly acting like she did a full on The Graduate style photo

I thought it sounded like a private pool so nobody else anyway 😂

Yes, as per example pic above it is the view you would get if you laid your head on her stomach and looked down her body - the view would be the crotch and the thighs.

Also
Why is no one pulling OP for constantly slagging off this woman's appearance?

I would have read "A bit jealous, but wait til I get to my room" as meaning he was going to send her a more dodgy photo. Sorry OP. Something is very weird about this. I’m in my late 50s and there’s no way I’d send a photo like that to my much younger male boss. Cringe.

What did you say to her DP, and what did he reply?

Its my guess the colleague is absolutely shitting herself because she knows the pictures and messages both she and the "DH" are exchanging are totally inappropriate and now shock Horror, she's just been found out by the wife and its all blown up in their faces. It was all fine when it was just between the two of them, but the whole reality of what they've been doing has just smacked her in the face.

That's why she's texting and ringing the wife.

Also, she has been indulgencing in all the sordid texts so its not just the DH "Boss" who's in trouble here. They are both complicit.

OP you obvs take no shit. That’s why I’m curious as to why your DH did not delete the photo/ msg if he did think there was flirting going on.

Give over, she hasn't slagged off the woman's appearance.

One poster said she might be stunning and OP responded 'Objectively, she is not attractive.' But OP also says her DH is not attractive.

That's hardly slagging off.

It’s inappropriate banter at best. And I see it as flirty. The op says the scenery isn’t even in it and she didn’t post it for social media. I like the response that the husband will be able to tell when he sees who all she sent it to. Either way you wouldn’t send it to your boss when you are both attached.
Im surprised at your mum too op, I didn’t think that would be common among 50 yr old.

We need more context OP, otherwise you don't have a hotdog leg to stand on. Were their anymore messages between them before, suspicious or otherwise? Has your hubs offered to show you messages to prove it's all innocent?

The OP said the photo was "up to the bikini line", which would not include the crotch.

I agree with this. I also think it is just silly banter. Not that I think it’s terribly appropriate either.

Yes it most certainly does! Type in "bikini line" in google:

OP has jumped the shark here. Surely it’s in nobody’s interest to get their own husband involved in a work disciplinary?