Husband's Colleague- Leg Pic.

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DH 38 was sent a holiday picture of very posed "sausage leg" type picture from female work colleague (late 50s). Right up to the bikini line. His response was "A bit jealous, but wait til I get to my room".
I think this reads a certain way.
What do you think?
For context, we were on holiday too in a very nice hotel that he had been bragging about to her in previous messages. He says he was just going to show her pics of our room.
He never did. Messages stop there.
My mum says it isn't suspicious and believes him as apparently pictures like this are common amongst her 50 year old friends.
My friend says it is suspicious as feck.

Aibu:
Yes- innocent messages.
No--suspicious messages.

But I have her on social media and she didn't post pictures like that. Only of her face or her family or the view.
The picture wasn't on social media.

Messaging her partner does not mean she is going to leave her husband, ffs, that's an over-reaction. But her partner needs to know what she's doing. She deserved it.

He didn’t.

"The fact that he deleted his response to her is very telling."

What? Where does it say he deleted anything. He just got on with his holiday after implying his room was posher than hers and didn't send anything.

You aren't sensible at all

One vague comment and a photo aren't proof of anything

He was not talking about how swish his room is
That would be "but wait until you see my room" or "i show you my room!" or whatever.
He's cheating.

The photo itself, is inappropriate. And it needs nipping in the bud.

So you've messaged the partner of a woman whose line manager your husband is. And now the woman is messaging you?

Where is your husband in all of this?

Because the point you seem to be skating over is the fact that he is in a position of responsibility over her which, like it or not, makes her the vulnerable one (despite it being her who presumably sent the first overture) The most that would happen to her is a "best not to get into any kind of inappropriate communication with your line manager"

Your husband however, could very well (and should) find himself on a disciplinary for even engaging in that kind of impropriety with someone he manages. Like it or not, and removing any personal feelings from the situation - you've just told a man his partner is being messaged inappropriately by her boss. Your husband.

She sent your husband a picture of her bare legs that included her crotch in bikini pants. That’s not at all appropriate. It’s dirty because both him and her are married/partnered.

Well, if there’s nothing wrong with it then what’s her problem if you’ve told her partner?

And he may well have deleted things from his phone. She might not have.

I missed this. What did she say to you?

You did the right thing to call it out
it’s so weird and he was absolutely implying he was turned on 🤢 grosss

i am glad you pulled it up. Wtf should anyone put up with an inappropriate flirting partner ?!

Oh not this shite again!

It's her legs in a fairly standard holiday pose...

Well now what do you think is going to happen if your husband now gets reported. If this is true and you were my partner then relationship would be over

Wow, wtf is with this victim-blaming? OP is not the one who did anything wrong! This is batshit.

It was more than that. Read the OP's posts.

How did this all escalate? Why did she start texting and calling you? You must have messaged her first? Where is your husband in this newest development?

I think the messages in themselves aren’t bad.

Lots of people send me sausage leg photos and it’s the done thing on SM.

His message sounds odd but it could be that you have a nice room.
If they have quite a bantery relationship then that would make sense.

What I would be suspicious about is the lack of other messages.
Surely if they work together they would have sent each other a message and how come she didn’t reply afterwards.
It sounds too much like he’s deleting their messages.

He is free to report my husband.
Work can investigate him.
I'm not protecting him.

The photo in itself is not the most appropriate thing to send your boss and definitely comes with implications, especially given the total lack of any sort of view in the background.

His reply would have been less weird to me if in their message exchange he had followed it up with a photo of your room. The fact he didn't, and didn't say about showing her the room he just said "wait until I get back to my room" is massively red flags to me. As he clearly didn't continue the text conversation back in his room 🙄

A bit off topic, but your username combined with how quickly you've escalated the situation is very funny.

How do you have her partner's number?

Really surprised that so many people seem to think the exchange is completely innocent!