Husband's Colleague- Leg Pic.

[PeaceGoodMercutio]

DH 38 was sent a holiday picture of very posed "sausage leg" type picture from female work colleague (late 50s). Right up to the bikini line. His response was "A bit jealous, but wait til I get to my room".
I think this reads a certain way.
What do you think?
For context, we were on holiday too in a very nice hotel that he had been bragging about to her in previous messages. He says he was just going to show her pics of our room.
He never did. Messages stop there.
My mum says it isn't suspicious and believes him as apparently pictures like this are common amongst her 50 year old friends.
My friend says it is suspicious as feck.

Aibu:
Yes- innocent messages.
No--suspicious messages.

He knows that he’s deleted all “incriminating” messages and this one popped up while OP had his phone.

@DameCurlyBassey any more?

@AnObserverInThisDarkWorld true, found just be a moron tho. Thought he deleted or something. Summat ain't right is it

@DameCurlyBassey how dramatic. I said two words to you 😂 see ya

@DameCurlyBassey
enjoy your freedom

They sound like they're having an emotional/sexting affair, at the least.

Did I see something suggesting he's cheated on op before (?)

As for 50 something women, there are plenty of goodlooking/attractive 50 something women, and anyway men tend to be "generous" in both age bracket and looks when it comes to sexual thrills.

The typical upper age most out on swinging profiles, for example, is 60/65.

As well as being untrustworthy cheating wise, he's a fool for shitting on his doorstep in work.

@DameCurlyBassey I think you'll be happier for it.

Take care of yourself sans MN drama!

💐

Totally inappropriate to send the photo and the message exchange imo, the ‘wait until I get to my room’ wasn’t to show her his room!

You’re right to trust your gut, OP.

DameCurlyBassey suspending you seems a bit harsh given some of the posts that are allowed to stand on this site!

For the record I am not leaving because of your two words - apologies if I made it look that way. No, I am taking the opportunity to cure myself of my addiction - see, I'm still at it. It gets in the way of a busy day so I have to try, fun as it is.

I agree. I'm shocked you've been suspended. I get troll-hunting is a pain for @MNHQ but given how many threads DO turn out to be fake – and it really feels like it's ramped up recently – and how many vile posts are left standing, it feels unbalanced. As a DV survivor, I'm sure you had a lot more useful advice to give than most posters.

Are you sure you have been suspended and not just deleted?

Any updates OP?

Is this on Mail Online yet?

Suspension does seem heavy handed, yes. Although since DameCurlyBassey is still posting maybe she was just deleted?

Plus troll hunting on a thread adds nothing, as far as I can see. If people think someone is genuine and respond in kind, they're not likely to be influenced by someone saying that the OP is fake. But the troll hunting is likely to put off genuine posters. It's horrible if you have a genuine problem, ask for advice, and then have people jeering at you.

If you think someone is a troll, just report the post and leave MN to deal with it.

@PeaceGoodMercutio, how have things been going today? Did you hear from OW’s partner? I suppose it’s possible that she intercepted your message to him.

Your H and OW were confident that their suggestive offerings would be welcome, which speaks volumes about an ongoing flirtation, EA, or more.

I’d be livid that, after you ‘busted’ their mutual flirting, he had the gall to shift the blame and actually utter the words, ‘I’m worried about you.’

In addition to all of the above, his telling people that he’s wealthy would give me the ick.

The partner said "I don't have anything to worry about".
So he isn't concerned.

I'm still unconvinced.
H showed me another pic she'd sent of her freshly painted toenails and feet. Very odd.
Work have been involved so I don't want to say too much about that.

What was the context of the image? Has he shown you messages between them both? Allowed free access to his phone to prove his innocence? You're really giving very little information.

She had fallen at work and he asked how she was, she said her foot hurt. No marks on them or anything. Just a close up of nicely painted toenails and feet that are well taken care of.
I've seen the whole feed on WhatsApp and messages. To me, it looks like there are deleted messages as the messages don't flow. But his other messages are like that with people he doesn't talk to frequently.
Her messages have x's all over the place, his don't.
She is in trouble at work and he isn't.
He has shown me emails so I know this is true.

I don't want to blame her, because he at the very least has encouraged her by replying and sending pics.
But his pics are of normal things, like the beach we were at a month ago... Our dog etc.
The only creepy thing I can find it his message in response to the legs.

Hopefully you’ve caught it before it went any further

Bloody brilliant!

In that case OP, I hope you feel able to trust your husband and call it out as bad judgment. Tell him that he needs to work on this.

Sometimes people say desperate things when they're telling the truth.

Based on all you've said, he doesn't sound very interested in her and she sounds like an attention seeker. As her boss, and her being older, maybe he didn't know where to respectfully draw the line.

Anyhow, I don't think you need to end your marriage over this. Stay close, communicate and keep on.

Best wishes x

Listen to your gut you can’t go wrong .