Husband's Colleague- Leg Pic.

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DH 38 was sent a holiday picture of very posed "sausage leg" type picture from female work colleague (late 50s). Right up to the bikini line. His response was "A bit jealous, but wait til I get to my room".
I think this reads a certain way.
What do you think?
For context, we were on holiday too in a very nice hotel that he had been bragging about to her in previous messages. He says he was just going to show her pics of our room.
He never did. Messages stop there.
My mum says it isn't suspicious and believes him as apparently pictures like this are common amongst her 50 year old friends.
My friend says it is suspicious as feck.

Aibu:
Yes- innocent messages.
No--suspicious messages.

Good for you for throwing your toys out of the pram OP.

You're the one who knows these people and reading between the lines it sounds as if she knows exactly what she's doing and he, as you say, at the very least hasn't discouraged it. That would be enough for me to spit the dummy as well.

Now she's all ''Oh Oh, it's all above board'' panicking, because you've called him/them out on it.

The ball is in their court now to straighten this out with you, not yours to worry about offending and sit pondering over. Fuck 'em.

I do ZERO flirty flirty stuff with men, or accept them doing it to me because i know DH would go absolutely bat shit about it as would i with him if was the other way around. Very strong boundaries.

I'd like to introduce you to the terms "cougar" and "MILF".

Just as an aside, i know OP has said this woman isn't particularly attractive (and neither is her DH!) but lets stop with the grandma posts.

https://blogging.org/sexiest-women-over-50/

I know also that these are celebs, but even mere mortal over 50s can be good looking/fit women.

Sausage Legs or Hot Dog Legs is a meme that peaked 10 years ago.

https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/hot-dog-legs

But had there been a previous conversation with sausage lady about how swanky his room is? Sounds like he is just being competitive over holidays…

It’s vile. Anyone reading something innocent into this is naive. Unless it’s bants and even then it’s silly.

He 100% sent a dick pic

Also ‘a bit jealous’ - ‘a bit’ - doesn’t imply pwooooar Im off for a wank.

I don’t think Amanda Holden received your memo

@Laiste I know also that these are celebs, but even mere mortal over 50s can be good looking/fit women.

Agreed, any woman who looks after herself can look good over 50, you don’t have to be a celeb to look great.

i have to agree that the assumption on this thread that all women over 50 are ‘grannies’ with ‘wrinkly legs’ and somehow incapable of being seen as sexually attractive is depressing.

I see some absolutely beautiful 50+ year olds out and about in the world, I follow many older women’s body positive SM accounts and tbh I envy some of their wonderful physiques and talent with style and make up and their sass and confidence and I’m in my forties.

Lets stop with this ageist trope that it would be somehow impossible for a younger bloke to be interested in an older woman and therefore the idea he actually finds her tanned legs and crotch a bit of a turn on and might be jealous of her hubby being there with her whilst she’s looking nice in a bikini somehow out of bounds of possibility.

This is incredibly dodgy and suspicious

Well said @Staplesonstamps

A photo of her legs with a little bit of bikini, presumably on her leg from the description has suddenly become a crotch shot, the boss has become the employee and a 50 year old woman has become a wrinkled, decrepit old woman

Classic MN

IMO she sent the photo to flirt with him but I think he didn’t donanything wrong and his explanation makes sense. But it’s strange the messages stop there and I wonder if he did message back and deleted it. Did you go down his phone? How did you find the chat?

Sounds like he means he's going to go have a wank in his room over it

He has done a lot of crying.
Blaming me.
Saying he has done nothing wrong.
Saying he will jump out of the window.
Now he's "gone out for air."

Look up Dorrit Bøilerehauge. I am glad your rank ageism amuses you so much. LOL 🤮

OP that is classic gaslighting. I hope you’re ok. Trust your instincts.

He's worried about me, apparently.
I just can't see it as not inappropriate! My gut says it is just so inappropriate.
I'd never send a pic like that when I'm married.... to any man, let alone my boss.

I think it’s banter but agree it’s not appropriate. If it was just that I would have believed him . Viagra in the car though ? That is more of a red flag .

It is definitely inappropriate, made even more suspicious by the fact you say the text conversation looks like some messages have been deleted and by how he’s given the other woman your number and she’s trying to talk to you. He is going overboard on damage control, and now he knows you aren’t going to backdown he is gaslighting you and threatening to jump out of the window in a bid to stop you continuing the discussion. None of that is normal! X

Not banter. I think that's too much. What was he going to do in the room, send a sleazy photo?

Crying, blaming you and threatening to jump out the window……..sounds like a very mature man…..HE behaved inappropriately (and he knows it) and the happenings of today are ALL consequences of HIS behaviour.

If he hadn’t been behaving inappropriately he would be able to argue his case in a rational / coherent way without all the above said (silly) behaviour.

He really could have meant:

"Looks like a nice beach/holiday and I'm jealous but just wait until you see pictures of the room I'm staying in." Like holiday top trumps.

Of course this other woman may have been trying something sending pictures of her legs (because that is weird) but his explanation that he was going to send pictures of the room sounds like it could be true to me.