Husband's Colleague- Leg Pic.

[PeaceGoodMercutio]

DH 38 was sent a holiday picture of very posed "sausage leg" type picture from female work colleague (late 50s). Right up to the bikini line. His response was "A bit jealous, but wait til I get to my room".
I think this reads a certain way.
What do you think?
For context, we were on holiday too in a very nice hotel that he had been bragging about to her in previous messages. He says he was just going to show her pics of our room.
He never did. Messages stop there.
My mum says it isn't suspicious and believes him as apparently pictures like this are common amongst her 50 year old friends.
My friend says it is suspicious as feck.

Aibu:
Yes- innocent messages.
No--suspicious messages.

That would still be really, really inappropriate! This isn’t ok at all.

I mean OP says a white building so it could be a nice hotel building? I've seen (on IG/Whatsapp) like 10 such pics this past summer, I honestly think the MN reaction is mental and hilarious lol

The “wait until I get to my room” bit I take to mean he has a very nice hotel room. Nothing sexual at all.
I don’t see anything wrong with your husband’s response. I find the boss’s photo WILDLY inappropriate.

Eugh I assumed he was going back to wank off to the photo

@PeaceGoodMercutio

I don’t know, I actually think your husband IS telling the truth here. Because of the “bit jealous”. If that wasn’t there, I’d be questioning it! Plus he’s been boasting previously about how nice the room is.

I would never send a sausage leg picture though. It’s really cringy - especially to work colleagues.

"Don’t listen to your Mum as she is clueless, they didn’t even have WhatsApp when she was your age so really she has zero experience to go for does she."

Fuck me 😅 I'm assuming the OPs mum is about the same age as sausage leg and is capable of using WhatsApp

Perfect @Inkpotlover MN are far to quick to encourage posters to end their marriage as if it has absolutely no consequences.

Wait. I thought he was the boss?

Oh I took “bit jealous” to mean jealous of her OH and other holiday makers there who are seeing her lovely legs in person 🤣

I assumed she was on holiday with another male, or at least has the opportunity to be with one.
He's jealous it's not him, but will make-do with perving over her pic, or even a sex call if she'd be willing?

The photo was purely for his personal wank bank.

She knows what she is doing.

That is not appropriate at all. Why is she sending a photo of her legs to her younger work colleague and why is he texting what he did. It either means he is going for a 'play with his sausage' or going to take photos of hotel room. Either way this is sleazy banter and not appropriate at all with a work colleague or from someone who is married. How would he feel if you were sending photos to a another man and making sleazy flirty banter remarks. I would be furious. What the hell is wrong with people that they think it is ok to talk and flirt with others like this and call it banter. She sounds like she needs to grow up and act like an adult and he is probably just enjoying the attention. Do you know this woman at all. Really don't know what else to say as I would not be happy at all.

I'm so sorry OP but in no way can this be innocent. Sometimes something like this can turn into a huge blessing because you can go on and live the life you deserve

I often wonder how many marriages have ended because of a MN LTB frenzy and how many OPs have then regretted their decision. I wish there were some stats! Don't get me wrong, there are so many threads where it's a clear-cut case of LTB, particularly those involving DV or coercive control/financial abuse, but there are others, like this one, where the issue is as clear as mud yet still the baying crowd pushes the OP to hit the destruct button. I do wonder whether OP would've message the colleague's partner had she not been egged on so much that her DH was definitely having an affair.

Oh dear, you’re right, thank you for correcting my mistake.

OP, your husband’s response was NOT made with good judgment.

The fact that we are in here debating whether his text to a subordinate was sexual or inappropriate shows that he does not have good judgment with his words.

There should be NO debate over whether a text to a subordinate is appropriate or not. This kind of texting (even if his intentions are pure) could get him in big trouble with HR. What if this colleague took his text to mean he was jealous he couldn’t touch those legs in person, but he’ll feel better once he wanks it up in his room?

NOT GOOD! Very bad judgment on his part!

She's in her 50s and OP is in her 30s. Unless he has a grandma fetish (possible I suppose) I doubt he would be feeling jealous and deprived of the sight of some wrinkly legs that all the other lucky beach goers were being treated to.

Maybe she is hitting on him (doubt so, the exaggerated photo OP provided doesn't fit with her initial description) but I'm pretty sure he was partaking in bog-standard "jealous of your holiday" pleasantry. The comments are so hysterical and histrionic lol MN is a great place for entertainment

But there was no scenery in the pic, OP said. So what was he 'jealous' of? The pic was only of her leg and crotch, no scenery at all. So he was saying he was 'jealous' of her body.

Sounds like he was going back to the room for a wank tbh

What a bizarre thing to send your boss.

I have my boss's number. He's about 20 years older than me and we have some friendly chit chat in the office. Would I send him pictures of my legs and bikini line on holiday?! Definitely not! Even if I was interested, I wouldn't!

You have to deliberately angle a phone in such a way to even get a picture like that.

I would be concerned that he didn't ignore the message, or tell her that it was inappropriate. I read his message back as sexual, not as innocent.

Whatever he replied, any hysterical person could turn it into The Secret Lecher's Code lol. Looks fun = banging you looks fun! Wish I was there = need I elaborate? Wow = we know exactly what he's expressing amazement at. Etc

Probably a bad shout for her to send it to him (though I've seen loads of holiday sausage pics from colleagues in whatsapp groups, and we're c-suite / white collar so tend to be fairly professional)

"hysterical". Such a misogynist comment...

She's in her 50s and OP is in her 30s. Unless he has a grandma fetish (possible I suppose) I doubt he would be feeling jealous and deprived of the sight of some wrinkly legs that all the other lucky beach goers were being treated to.

How decrepit do you think 50somethings are?!

I also don't believe most men are knocking one out over the sight of two bare legs, 50 years old or not.

Yup.

Jesus, aren’t people capable of maintaining some level of professionalism these days?

I’m 53 and I work with lots of young blokes, and I’d never dream of perving on them.

Nah, if a group of males started creating conspiracy theories and spam calling/texting me over a perfectly typical IG cliche sausage legs post (with legs closed), I would describe them as hysterical too.

A suggestive panty / bikini bottom shot like the one OP posted might make me raise an eyebrow as to HER intentions – but on his end, I wouldn't read bog standard holiday pleasantry talk as expressing secret lusting for old legs.

But I think OP's pic is exaggerated because her initial post would've specified it was abs and all, with legs held apart suggestively. More likely it's a typical holiday legs photo which has got a bit of her bikini bottom in.