Husband's Colleague- Leg Pic.

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DH 38 was sent a holiday picture of very posed "sausage leg" type picture from female work colleague (late 50s). Right up to the bikini line. His response was "A bit jealous, but wait til I get to my room".
I think this reads a certain way.
What do you think?
For context, we were on holiday too in a very nice hotel that he had been bragging about to her in previous messages. He says he was just going to show her pics of our room.
He never did. Messages stop there.
My mum says it isn't suspicious and believes him as apparently pictures like this are common amongst her 50 year old friends.
My friend says it is suspicious as feck.

Aibu:
Yes- innocent messages.
No--suspicious messages.

You wouldn’t send that image as a postcard to your manager or anyone else at work would you? so you shouldn’t send it via message.

The complete absence of further ‘banter’ or actual photos of hotel room feel off.

maybe your winding us all up OP and well done if so you’ve done a great job of having us on, but if this is real and you are going through this I’m so sorry. Even if nothing has actually happened the lines with this woman and your husband are blurred, someone sending leg a leg shot, with no scenery and part of their crotch in view to my husband would make me wonder what vibes he’s been giving to make someone feel this was completely appropriate.

defensiveness or dismissal rather than “oh god, I didn’t even think of it looking dodgy, but I can totally see your point” would also make my spidey senses tingle.

I’ve previously had to have a really long chat with my OH about how ‘innocent’ unnecessary email ‘chit chat’ with people related to work outside of work time/remit can start to cross the line because he was straying into that territory. He claimed complete innocence of course but I said what does a middle aged man need the modern day equivalent of pen pal for? He’s more aware now that if you paddle at the edge of the sea you’re much more likely to end up having a swim than if you keep yourself firmly on the shore.

You think your DH wants to wank over the sausage legs of a woman twenty years his senior 🤢 Gross.

Yes, I'm nearly 50 and can assure you we are perfectly normal and don't, as an age class, send photos of our legs to men. Not sure where your mum got this information from, or why you would believe it. Anyway, sorry OP x

I’d have sent her a pic of my own sausage legs with the caption “Snap” and then advised h to cool it with the messages.

Inappropriate whether he was only planning on sending pics of room or not. She shouldn't be sending pics of her legs to a married colleague full stop. Clearly he has opened up the casual lines of communication which is highly unprofessional and disrespectful to you.

You've leapt in with both feet where others would have been more cautious. However, he also sounds shady as fuck so sod it

Well I normally give people the benefit of the doubt but sending a sausage leg pic to your boss is really dodgy! I mean post one on your SM sure, if you like that kinda thing. But send one to your boss. Nah.

And his reply definitely sounds like he’s telling her he’ll wank over the photo when he gets to his room. I’m not sure it can be read another way.

I have no idea what to make of viagra in the car. I suppose there could be an innocent reason for that. But being sent that photo (what makes her think that’s OK?!) and his reply…. Put them altogether and it doesn’t look great!

And even if he literally did mean he'd send pics of the room to make her jealous, the turn of phrase he used sounded flirty so either he's actually flirting or he's thick AF.

I think it's really odd of a woman , late fifties , to send a leg photo to her boss , not yet 40 . Even odder for him to reply 😕

Depending on the legs and the industry it sounds like a big joke.

A bit weird. What was the convo before and did he call her rather than send anything back?

After taking a dose of Viagra...

From the stash hidden in his car

I was just going to say this. Are the legs "wank-able"? 52 isn't that old and the legs are the last to go so they may well be very lovely legs.

On the other hand her picture may have been a parody of sausageleg pics with her sending herself up and he might be replying "Just wait, I'm going to get you back when I get to the room."

I hate MN! I am supposed to be working but now I've come over all Agatha Christie and am invested in this. My life.

Well, you have to have a stash handy, don't you? Just in case...

There was also viagra hidden behind his car seat in the pocket**
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Sorry OP only read your comments and sorry you're going through a shit time with all this. This would be the biggest red flag to me rather than the photo. Has he explained this?

I’m not sure why people think OP has taken it too far / 0-60 / blown it all up simply by contacting sausage legs’ other half. She just let them know, which tbf I would appreciate in their position as it’s inappropriate and sus.

I am making assumptions but presumably she said “FYI here are the messages your OH has sent my DP” which is just the truth and if there’s really nothing to it can be explained away and everyone can move on. I am assuming the message was not “oh my god they are definitely shagging look at this proof!”

Yeah that’s definitely off

If he has come home from work it sounds like he is in full on panic mode. And so is she.

I never thought of the sausage leg pic as sexual?! I always thought it just screamed vacation

Yup. Not okay at all. Your DH is lying through his teeth.

@Staplesonstamps isn't it a classic postcard pic?

Usually yes because the pool / sea is in the background and it’s like oh here I am lying by this gorgeous beach / pool.
I find it weird this was just a leg shot, no scenery.

Don’t listen to your Mum as she is clueless, they didn’t even have WhatsApp when she was your age so really she has zero experience to go for does she.

None of this is normal and he ringing you repeatedly smacks of cover up. Actually consider if you’d ever send a crotch shot to a colleague? I wouldn’t! It’s not the done thing and at best they’ve already crossed a major line here.

He needs viagra at 38?! Good grief.

So he’s a sleaze, lies all the time about money, snuck off from your family to wank over this older woman and your sex life is probably terrible. He doesn’t sound great.

Im proud of you for messaging her husband OP! If it’s all above board then there shouldn’t be an issue with you letting her husband know about it should you. I’d 100% think my husband was cheating with everything you’ve said and I’m so sorry!

Of your own legs and fanny in a bikini with zero scenery on view?