Husband's Colleague- Leg Pic.

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DH 38 was sent a holiday picture of very posed "sausage leg" type picture from female work colleague (late 50s). Right up to the bikini line. His response was "A bit jealous, but wait til I get to my room".
I think this reads a certain way.
What do you think?
For context, we were on holiday too in a very nice hotel that he had been bragging about to her in previous messages. He says he was just going to show her pics of our room.
He never did. Messages stop there.
My mum says it isn't suspicious and believes him as apparently pictures like this are common amongst her 50 year old friends.
My friend says it is suspicious as feck.

Aibu:
Yes- innocent messages.
No--suspicious messages.

That was meant to be a. Reply to Evelyn 😂 I don’t like the new button moving things.

And the Viagra in the car is proof of infidelity?

So, your 38 year old husband takes Viagra in order to get it on with an unattractive 52 year old woman?

It reads like he was going to the room to wank over her sausage legs

Is she very wealthy or something?

Not saying 38 year old men don't like older women. God, I had one proposition me the other day and I am older than sausage legs. I am told by others that I am attractive and youthful, but I don't think that's why he propositioned me.

I get on amazing with my male boss. Tell each other everything, have banter but like fuck would I ever send him a picture like this.

I'd not be happy op. By either message.

I don't think your DH would have been too happy with you using his phone of he was cheating. He might be flirting with his boss though, which still isn't on.

Also, who is wanking over a picture of sausage legs? Come on now. In a world filled with porn, I think this is unlikely. I think it is especially unlikely for a man that needs viagra to perform!

Could your DH have viagra in the car so that he could discreetly take some before getting in? Or maybe he goes out to the car for a wank 😅.

Exactly
OP knows he takes it but it's so odd to find it?

This is not adding up

Why would he have a stash of it in the car? Why not in his bedside draw?

Yes - innocent messages. Don't over think it.

Waiting to be told DH has previously slept with 20 women before and she had found a dick pic to the OW

It wasn't a stash

It was some in a pocket

Maybe he'd just collected it and not taken it in?

But I remember you, you're a definite man hater so you'll always jump to the very worst case

I'm honestly surprised how many people jumped to wank in the hotel room

If anything dodgy was happening it would have been him going to send her a dick pic back.

Trust your gut OP. After too many years of ignoring mine I found out what my 'D'H was really up to.

Is there some sort of contest or meme with these sausage leg things?

IIRC it started in the pandemic with a pair of Frankfurters and a postcard....

I'd be more likely to post for opinions on here had I found Viagra on my DH, than I would a holiday photo. Or at least I would have mentioned it in any other posts I wrote about him/it afterwards.

I was more in the "you've massively overreacted" camp until I read the OPs further updates; based on the minimal info she provided originally, I think it did sound a little OTT. However, seeing the updates has changed my opinion - as I'm sure might be the same with other readers/responders.

There's clearly more going on here than we are privy to, and if that's the case then OP and DH are the only ones who can sort this as they are the only ones who know all the facts.

Am I understanding this right? The woman didn't reply to his message about waiting until he went to his room? My first thought was, if it is innocent, surely she would take the more conspicuous meaning from it too? The no reply might be because she freaked out at that response? She shouldnt have sent that photo in the first place though, it is inappropriate. Both her and your husband have behaved questionably and caused this. Her for sending the photo, and him for replying with something totally open to interpretation.

😂This

But I remember you, you're a definite man hater so you'll always jump to the very worst case

Wow.... I think you definitely have more issues than Time magazine... 🙄

AS'ing you, it seems you're a definite woman hater and misogynist.

"Wait til I get back to the room" make it sound like he was going to have a wank over her photo.

Something isn't right there;he could be shagging her or be in an inappropriate emotional affair with sexting.

Your husband is a sleaze.

No, there's been no other infidelity red flags.
No form for cheating.
I don't think he has cheated physically, I think he's flirted via WhatsApp and maybe a call or two.
At the minimum, he's not discouraged her.

Is that okay though? I have to think.

Well done for not taking any sh!t OP. I’d be the same. Will be interesting to see what her partner makes of it all.

I think it’s a bit late for thinking OP! You’ve already blown it up.

You made a big deal about a man with mental health issues being controlling despite no evidence of this

I am most definitely neither a woman hater or misogynist. I just take the view women can do awful things and need to be accountable as well but that's too much for MN

The evidence was there. You were just determined not to see it.

Strange how the OW is being held accountable here and you're still not happy with it. Maybe pick a lane and stick to it, instead of projecting your own behaviour on others.

Reading this, your response in ringing the colleague's husband feels even more knee-jerk. Please take a breath before you decide what to do next and don't listen to posters baying for you to end your marriage (and the colleague's) over this. At the very least you need to be sure he's definitely cheated and you really don't sound sure now. This is your life, your reality, there are DC involved, whereas these posters will just move onto the next thread without a backward glance.