Husband's Colleague- Leg Pic.

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DH 38 was sent a holiday picture of very posed "sausage leg" type picture from female work colleague (late 50s). Right up to the bikini line. His response was "A bit jealous, but wait til I get to my room".
I think this reads a certain way.
What do you think?
For context, we were on holiday too in a very nice hotel that he had been bragging about to her in previous messages. He says he was just going to show her pics of our room.
He never did. Messages stop there.
My mum says it isn't suspicious and believes him as apparently pictures like this are common amongst her 50 year old friends.
My friend says it is suspicious as feck.

Aibu:
Yes- innocent messages.
No--suspicious messages.

Agree with the unbelievable batshittery on this thread. I cannot imagine throwing away my marriage based on one slightly-dodgy-but-by-no-means-absolute-proof-of-an-affair image while being egged on by a baying MN crowd that will just blithely move onto the next thread before the dust settles. OP has one-year-old according to another thread and if her DH's co-worker has DC too that's two families destroyed on what feels like a very kneejerk whim.

I've yet to post, but all the other factors make it weird. Initial message - reads dodgy to me, but could be innocent. Discovery of viagra, mentionitis and him actively involving the other woman - suspicious. If a colleague said to me "my wife thinks we're having an affair, here's her number - could you ring and text to convince her we aren't?" I'd say no and stay well out of it. The fact she's eagerly joining in and trying so hard to contact OP is very strange.

Oh no its not one incident now
He's a known liar and had viagra apparently

Have you heard back from the other woman’s partner, OP?

And I bet none of the people egging her on would give up on their marriages so easily.

Question for OP how/when did you find the Viagra hidden behind the car seat?

Ah yes, the drip-feed evidence. I still think OP's reaction is too knee-jerk, egged on by PP, and if it does turn out to be innocent, it's most likely damaged her DH's position at his company as well as dragging another poor family into it.

I would imagine if one is having an affair they wouldn't allow their OH to use their phone for a few days.

Some posters on this thread are so fucking naive it's amazing how they navigate day to day life.

'What if it's innocent, blah blah blah' FFS. Wake up. Sending a pic soley to a married colleague with no scenery, only in you in your bikini up to your crotch is NOT innocent. Not on this plane in this galaxy or a distant galaxy.

Was it text or WhatsApp? My EE provides itemised bills (I'd assume others will) so if normal text you can ask for that and see if the texts match the message trail time stamps. You'll know then if anything is deleted.

As another poster said, sometimes not everything comes to you when you are posting about another particular thing. On one hand adding more info is considered drip-feeding, on the other she risks making the OP post too long and too full of other things. She didn't feel the viagra was relevant or didn't think of it when posting her message. Some people just want to nitpick to find a hole in something an OP says. Especially in AIBU.

Hard disagree. I don't think anyone's disputing the image is inappropriate and if I were OP I'd feel bloody annoyed his colleague sent it and be furious my DH has handled the situation like a numpty, but what's really fucking naive is going from 0-60 without actual proof of an affair, or a confession from either party, and blowing up two marriages/families on the say-so of a few internet posters.

the op has not involved his work

But the OP is not the one who went from 0-60. Her suss husband way over-reacted, and got the OW to BLOW UP the OP with texts and ringing and ringing. OP did not react, did not contact OW's partner, until she was being hounded and harassed by a frantic OW. OP was quite reserved, until she was hounded and harassed. She did nothing until then. OP's husband went from 0-60, and the OW went from 0-150.

To be fair I have sent a sort of similar picture to a colleague at work - it was my birthday and I was on annual leave in Dubai and my colleague messaged me happy birthday. I replied back with a pic like that and thanks from Dubai.

That being said though, we were both women in relationships and on friendly terms. And it wasn't all the way up to the bikini bottoms - just my kneecaps and the pool/scenery mostly.

Personally though I wouldn't send my married male boss a pic like that!

Or OP could've just read the texts to see what the colleague had to say and then discussed it with her DH when he got home like growns up would.

The discovery of Viagra is a huge (excuse the pun) deal if you don't know your husband is taking it. At the very least you would broach the subject - OP sounds like the kind of person who wouldn't shy away from doing that.

I've been away from this thread for 2 hours. Are you divorced yet OP?

😂

Hahahahahahaha!

This is how I am reading it that he meant a wank.

Sorry OP but is he is either having an emotional affair or is having an affair. Either way, the messages and picture are wholly inappropriate. I'd be fuming.

I'm so surprised how naive everyone is and seriously thinks it just meant he was going to head to the room to send her a photo of the hotel room. 😂

I know he takes viagra, I didn't expect it to be in the car.

Part of the my man would never ever I know he wouldn’t Club. 😉