Partner relieving themselves

[SackOfShitandRegrets]

Been thinking of posting this for ages but unsure, finally biting the bullet.

AIBU to ask my DP not to relieve himself (masturbate) when I am on my monthly cycle and to come to me/ask me if he needs a "release" during this time?

Weird euphuisms at that!

I wondered too.

You can't punish your current partner for the behaviour of a previous partner.

And it does seem to be that thats what you're doing.

You have some issues to sort out that are yours, not his - until you do that, you're going to keep having problems like this.

Your own insecurities are making you if not abusive, certainly controlling.

You either need to end the relationship because it doesn’t work for you, or tackle your issues.

He’s entitled to masturbate, it is not wrong.

He’s entitled to watch pornography, it is not illegal.

You are entitled to have these as dealbreakers, but it’s up to you to end the relationship, not demand he change.

Poor bloke, it’s not his fault your ex cheated on you. I don’t know why you think him watching porn would make him cheat on you as well. It’s doesn’t work like that.

Also why would it make you a failure if he wanks instead of you giving him a handjob? I have a decent sex life but sometimes I prefer a bit of “alone time” every now and then.

He’s probably doing it in the shower without you knowing anyway

So is it more jealousy/insecurity about the images he's using? This makes sense.

How do you know what images he uses? I thought most people now would look on their phone so you wouldn't know. If my partner has seen sexy imaged on his phone I don't know. However if he's leaving pictures lying around that's the problem, that's insensitive and you need to ask him not to do that.

You can also view it another way. That he finds you attractive. He's with you and fancies you. But to get turned on and have a quick wank it's normal to need to see something different, not better, different. And there images, he doesn't know or fancy they actual person.

Unless you are offering to perform fellatio or masturbate him yourself, then I feel it is none of you business whether or not he masturbates. You should be glad that he is masturbating instead of looking for sex "elsewhere" when you are on your period.

Lol! How did you find this thread from SEPTEMBER last year?