Page 8 | Clubbing in your 40s

Howtosolveit · 01/09/2023 23:01

I dance around my flat now instead. I admire your energy OP - go for it!

Deathbyfluffy · 01/09/2023 23:05

Beepbopadooda · 31/08/2023 00:51

I'm 34 and went to a club three weeks ago. A man a similar age to me approached me and said "you look like you might remember Woolworths too!" 😳🤦

That line deserves a lot of praise! Top work 😅

BalancingTree · 02/09/2023 04:40

I just got back from seeing DeadMau5 in Bali - clubbing in your 40s can be fun, but

everyone else is super young and they actually don’t know how to have fun anymore. Me and my 50y old friend were only people busting moves.
wear comfortable shoes, ain’t nobody about blisters after 30
be the chick taking shots of water- kids and hangovers is a sentence worse than death
go to one mad event, festival, night whatever per year, I can’t get past the cost and the two week hangovers 😂😂
do the enhanced version, you can afford a vip table and you need the clean seat 😂

SocksAndTheCity · 02/09/2023 09:19

For anybody who might be interested, tickets for Clockwork Orange at Fabric on Sat 18th November have just gone on sale 😀

Dinobot · 02/09/2023 21:41

Kitchen disco with all your besties beats a night out clubbing every time! 💃🥳✨️

HashBrownandBeans · 02/09/2023 22:02

Recovering from our night out raving last night, got in at 4am and I was still awake at 7am with DH snoring next to me. Managed to sneak a snooze in this afternoon. We had a fabulous time.

AlphaAlpha · 08/09/2023 10:52

It's peachmas eve! 🍑
IYKYK 😎

SagittariusDwarf · 10/09/2023 23:22

AlphaAlpha · 08/09/2023 10:52

It's peachmas eve! 🍑
IYKYK 😎

It was bloody brilliant 🙌🏻🍑💓

AlphaAlpha · 11/09/2023 10:19

@SagittariusDwarf best one yet 🙌
My only gripe was pique on too early, we couldn't get there until 3 but I did walk into Pele staring his set 🔥

Jevwaypock · 11/09/2023 10:21

My parents are always out club ing and they are nearly in their 60’s, they go to places where people their age go, there’s loads going on in the city for “older” people! Its all the music they enjoy not all the young stuff of today - go have fun!

ASCCM · 11/09/2023 10:23

It is different but not better or worse. I am 40 in a couple of weeks and went to Ibiza this summer with friends. We often go to clubs etc here too.

Don't overthink it - just do it!

NancyJoan · 16/09/2023 21:05

Just booked Before Midnight in Cardiff in November. Tentatively excited!

MartinChuzzlewit · 16/09/2023 21:07

Aquamarine1029 · 31/08/2023 00:24

Is clubbing always a disappointment in your 40s

Yep.

can those nights out in your late 20s be recreated?

Nope.

I totally and completely disagree with this.

Now I’m over I’m far less self conscious, I’m far more open to just having a good time, not worrying about what people think of me/pulling/concerned about a friend who can’t handle her drink. Clubbing in your 40’s is way more fun IMO and because I do it less that’s even better - I enjoy it more knowing it won’t happen again for a little while.

toadasoda · 16/09/2023 21:10

During the Christmas season anything goes with all staff parties, no one would bat an eyelid.

AlphaAlpha · 12/10/2023 15:11

For some of those that posted on here...

I've got x2 VIP tickets for Bugged out next sat 21/10 £100 for the pair - friends of ours are no longer able to go.
If you DM me let me know as I normally use the app.

LadyGeorginaSmythe · 25/10/2023 07:55

Sorry to revive this, but if anyone can help it's the clubbing in your 40s people....
I'm going to a gig in Manchester in February... can anyone recommend a nightclub for afterwards? Central area, my main thing was early 2000s funky house but suspect I'll be happy dancing to anything!

Heyahun · 26/10/2023 09:54

OMG how good was Drumsheds though anyone who went! :)

DrinkingMyWaterMindingMyBiz · 26/10/2023 10:01

Aquamarine1029 · 31/08/2023 00:24

Is clubbing always a disappointment in your 40s

Yep.

can those nights out in your late 20s be recreated?

Nope.

I’m in my early 30s and agree with this. I can’t believe the 9pm I now get into bed is the same 9pm I used to start getting ready for a night out a few years ago.

Day parties and lively bottomless brunches are where it’s at for me.

If you do decide to go, please report back and let us know how it was @Canisaysomething !

Amyalexandrer · 26/10/2023 11:00

God I find this quite depressing. The last time I was in party mode was age 30, just before having kids. I was still going to festivals, nights out in London, taking drugs, drinking, you name it.
And I didn't feel old, I felt young and I used to get ID'd regularly and still got chatted up by 20 somethings.
Now 8 years have very swiftly passed and I'm one year off 40, and I've basically lived in a cave of childcare, nappies, sleepless nights, kids parties, have barely seen a bar or restaurant, and it feels like that previous life was on a different planet. I think I have visually aged about 15 years in those 8, at 30 I could pass for 20, at 38 I doubt i'd pass for much younger than 35 on a good day, which I find very difficult as it has happened so fast and I haven't mentally adjusted.
I would still love a night out but would hate that feeling of being old and invisible.

Heyahun · 26/10/2023 11:49

@Amyalexandrer ·why do you care so much that you look your age though?

so you actually want to go out partying or are you done with that? it's fine if you don't want to anymore - but not going because you are worried you look "old" is a stupid reason

i went out on saturday to drusheds - i'm 35, pregnant and have a toddler at home and yes i look 35 now these days - it didn't stop me having the bloody best day dancing for 10 hours - not a single person there cares about your age - my group of friends were 40 - 50 and we all go out clubbing regularly

i find it sad that you can't enjoy yourself because you think you look old :(

AfterWeights · 26/10/2023 11:52

What makes you crave that experience of your 20s so much? Are you less happy now?

I enjoyed my twenties, but am happy in where i am now, its different but that's ok. I find clinging to the past a bit of an odd one - most of the people i know who wax lyrical about their younger years fundamentally aren't that happy in where they are now.

LadyGeorginaSmythe · 26/10/2023 13:22

AfterWeights · 26/10/2023 11:52

What makes you crave that experience of your 20s so much? Are you less happy now?

I enjoyed my twenties, but am happy in where i am now, its different but that's ok. I find clinging to the past a bit of an odd one - most of the people i know who wax lyrical about their younger years fundamentally aren't that happy in where they are now.

I don't crave the past. I'm a married mum of 3 and happy with that. But I still like to dance and still enjoy the same music.
I enjoy the nights out more now because they are less frequent and because I'm much more secure in who I am...I go out to have fun so I'll wear a coat and comfy shoes which I didn't in my 20s, and I don't care if I look every one of my 40 odd years. It's not about clinging to youth or being unhappy with my lot at all.

belleadele · 26/10/2023 13:31

It was great! The only annoying but was the time it took to get to the toilets and back. We were a group of 20 odd old university friends and it was so much fun and home for midnight! Life is for living and that includes dancing for me! (Ideally in the evening not late at night!)

SamW98 · 26/10/2023 13:45

LadyGeorginaSmythe · 26/10/2023 13:22

I don't crave the past. I'm a married mum of 3 and happy with that. But I still like to dance and still enjoy the same music.
I enjoy the nights out more now because they are less frequent and because I'm much more secure in who I am...I go out to have fun so I'll wear a coat and comfy shoes which I didn't in my 20s, and I don't care if I look every one of my 40 odd years. It's not about clinging to youth or being unhappy with my lot at all.

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Absolutely. I’m mid 50’s and I still go out dancing regularly. It’s nothing to do with reliving my youth. I wouldn’t step foot in my local high street cattle market club but they’re loads of events put on for the more mature crowd.

I was at a soul weekend in Norfolk a couple of weeks ago where everyone was 40+ and mostly 50+ including the DJs.

And last Saturday I was at a pub in shoreditch where house music was being played for a very mixed crowd. Ranging from 20’s up to 60’s and no one was out of place.

I think people still associate going out dancing with the crappy clubs back in the day but there’s a whole world out there for the older crowd who still love the music and the social aspect.

I was raving in fields 30 odd years ago and that spirit is still in me

Heyahun · 26/10/2023 15:10

@belleadele

OMG the toilets was like a 15 minute round trip each time hahaha

I'm pregnant so needed a wee so often so that part was a bit annoying for me - but i had the best time dancing