To take steak for myself to bbq ?

[Melmi256]

Invited to a bbq … I’m not really a burger hot dog kinda person at all.
Everyone is bringing something, I only really would eat steak from a bbq , can I bring a steak for myself like a veggie would take a veggie burger ? I can’t afford to take steaks for everyone but will bring something else like sides potsto/pasta ?

Vegans aren't 'allowed' to take their own food to gatherings; according to the numerous threads about it, they're positively compelled to, as anything else would be the height of entitlement and put their host to insurmountable difficulties to accommodate their 'faddiness'. 😂
However I imagine the difference in perception of turning up with a steak for oneself compared to a lentil burger may come largely down to the relative desirability of the two to other guests.

As a veggie I have had decades of just sucking it up at social occasions, personally I would not want to be seen as rude or weird by bringing my own unless I knew for sure this would go down ok

One afternoon of seating salad is survivable surely ?

@OnLineShoppingQ why ? Because I don’t like burgers or sausage…. Slightly dramatic

I think it's because fillet steak is probably the most expensive food you can get, so taking a portion for yourself and no one else seems really tight.

I wasn't saying people from those backgrounds can't enjoy those things, of course not, what I was saying was that these people were trying to act all superior and snobby, asif they were some posh and privelidged couple who couldn't accept not having the finer things in life and our own brand items were inferior!

Totally not how I meant it.
Of course it's fine if anyone from any background likes eating certain brands etc! :)
What isn't fine, is turning up at someone's house as a guest acting like a pretentious snob from a silver spoon upbringing, demanding you make sandwiches using a particular brand of cheese, because they couldn't possibly eat anything else and are trying to look superior (if you knew these people, you would understand!) They are competitive and entitled to the hilt.

I knew a woman who would bring a bottle of champagne to parties for herself and prosecco as her contribution. She'd tell everyone that she could only drink the 'real deal' and no one was to touch it. People definitely thought it was off. They laughed behind her back and egged each other on to drink it to wind her up.

Oh please do ask Mumsnet if I am the OP. They'll set you straight. Strange that you're obsessed about me replying to people on a public thread. What have you got to hide? Those who accuse others of something are using the ones most guilty.... 😂😏

Oh you've just reminded me of a relative who used to bring a half bottle of vodka to family parties, drink everyone else's booze, then take her vodka home with her again! That was thirty years ago and me and my mum still reminisce about it! I suspect someone turning up to a bbq with a single portobello mushroom (and sides!) might be similarly remembered.😄

@Melmi256 it is yes but I've done it plenty of times.. eating a cheese sandwich or just crisps/salad etc is preferable to hours/days afterwards of anxiety panicking I've got food poisoning or worrying the meat was cooked properly. Emetophobia is depressing.

just buy 5 or 6 steaks , stop being so stingy

@eggsinonetamborine sorry, I hadn’t actually realised what this illness was. It sounds horrific so I totally get the cheese sandwich now !

@Melmi256 ahh that's ok, the reason I mentioned it was because I wondered if that was why you wanted to take steak.
It's one of my "safe" foods when eating out as it doesn't matter if it's undercooked. It can be very restricting at times.
I think the steak burgers or halloumi are good options reading other suggestions!

It’s all a bit UYOA. just take burgers or whatever other people are taking, suck it up and leave the steak for other nights at home.

No, just don’t! Eat it before you go.

I wouldn’t - could you eat before you go and then just take some burgers or sharing foods - you don’t have to eat them. Or take a dessert?

You can't do that, it's rude and weird. It won't kill you to eat a burger even if its not your favourite thing.

I’m not a lover of sausages and I’m a bit fussy with my burgers. I usually have chicken skewers or ribs. Why not make some chicken skewers. Cook them at home first and then finish them off on the BBQ. That way you’ll know they’re cooked properly. There’s also pork loins. Get some that are marinated. You could also take some jacket potatoes. Again pre cook them and then wrap them in foil and pop them on the BBQ. Same with corn on the cob.

If you came to my BBQ and brought something you preferred, I wouldn’t mind at all. I think if you take that for you and some general bits for everyone to share that’s perfectly fine. I’ve been to BBQs before where the most provided nibbles, salads, deserts and drinks and asked people to bring the meat/veggie option they wanted.

@Ilovecleaning what does UYOA mean? I've googled but still have no idea!

Apologies but it is a bit rude but I don’t mean it too seriously - Up Your Own A**e . If I wanted to be more polite I’d say “being a bit precious about yourself”

I think it’s ok as long as you don’t just take the one steak, you’ll come across as selfish and tight. My sister did similar one Christmas, I’d spent all morning cooking and she rocked up with one can of cocktail (mojito or such like) For herself. Nothing else.

I can’t tell you how absolutely fuming I was… well actually the fact that I’m still mentioning it five years later gives you a clue.
Moral is don’t be that tight arse that people will remember for a long time !!!