to be upset all grandparent names have been used but mine?

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I get I might be massively unreasonable here and I just want to say that I have never said this to anyone and is just me seeing if my feelings are outrageous or most would feel the same way. I have changed my username as well by the way.

I have 3 lovely grandchildren all from my only child (my daughter). They are due their 4th and final and we are obviously all overjoyed and I love that we have a bigger family now as I was only able to have the 1.

They first had 2 boys and their first had DH's first name as a middle name, their 2nd had her husband's dad's, their 3rd was their first daughter and did give her DH's mum's name as the middle name. They are having a 2nd daughter and I must admit, I did think it would maybe be my name as her middle name. None of our names are outrageous or particularly old fashioned/bad in any way and I am very, very close to them all and the main person for childcare if and when they need.

My daughter told me the name they have decided on and the middle name is her DH's grandmother's name and she did specifically say to me that it would have been most fair/nice to use my name but she wanted them to all keep the middle names starting with J (all names do start with J and mine doesn't) both her and her husband's name also begin with J... the children don't have J first names just to clarify.

AIBU to be a bit upset by this?

I wonder if they are planning on using your name as the 'first name'?

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Except if you have two girls …..?

I think it all depends. If my daughter wanted to name one of her children after her father be thrilled, he has a beautiful name. On the other hand if she wanted to name one after me I’d say please don’t do that to the poor child 😂

My granny was called Fanny. Oddly, none of the grandchildren are named for her.

Maybe they will use your name as a first name, or if not, could you not have two middle names. Both my children have two middle names to make everyone happy!

Honestly - I don’t think you should be upset. They should choose whatever names they like/ want.

Well they could give this future child your name and a J name as middle names. That would be the nicest thing to do. Both my DC have two middle names. They could put the J name first and then yours after if they feel they have to

If there's any chance of any further pregnancies I'd talk to them now and mention this. Don't wait til they're pregnant as they might feel pressured.

I'd feel the same but wouldn't say anything. I can totally understand how you feel .